February 12, 2017

love is a verb.

It takes a lot of passion to show the love you have for someone. The vulnerability. The trust. The undeniable chemistry. This doesn’t happen by doing nothing. A lot of action takes place. love is a verb. so is “talk”. Communication is key in every relationship. Business, friendship, family and your significant other. Body language is crucial. Do not discuss serious matters via text/email if you’re in love. Positive adjectives whenever you voice your opinion towards someone. Speak calmly, even when they’re wrong. It’s not what you say it’s HOW you say it. And it’s definitely how you love it.
October 31, 2016

reminders for stress.

When life delivers a dose of difficulty and stress… Happiness is never constant, and it’s not supposed to be. – You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.  To believe that you can reach a state of happiness and stay there forever, is like the tide believing she can reach for the shoreline and remain there forever; or like a fruit tree believing that if she only holds on tighter, she can keep her fruit from dropping to the ground.  Happiness is simply a series of moments that come and go and add sweetness to our lives.  Learn to accept this, and the more happy moments you will have.   Failures are temporary situations that teach us necessary lessons. – Life’s best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.  So yes, you will fail sometimes.  The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work.  Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  So get out there and try!  Either you succeed or you learn a vital lesson.  Win – Win.   Even if you can’t see it now, you are making progress. – You may not be where you want to be yet, but if you think about it, you’re no longer where you once were either.  You have good reason to believe that you can trust yourself going forward.  Not because you’ve always made the right choices, but because you survived the bad ones, and taken small steps in the right direction.  So cry for a moment if you have to, and get it out of […]
July 13, 2016

healing alone.

Too many people have allowed themselves to remain in situations that are unproductive. As you mature, you outgrow interests, hobbies, habits and even people. The process of elimination works the best. Especially when you’ve exhausted all attempts to make it right. The more you stay in a negative situation, the more you need to start blaming yourself. Because of my strength and independence people rarely believe when I need help. Why is that? Aren’t I human like you? I’ve been taught that crying is a sign of weakness. However, when you’re grieving, mourning, or trying to cope with things that recently occurred in your life, you have no choice but to cry. Most times, I cried alone. But I almost allowed it to make me lose everything (even my business). So one day, I woke up. If you have the desire to do something, then do it. You will feel much worse if you never did. Then you’ll be living your whole life wondering the “shoulda, coulda, woulda”. Sometimes, we reach a point where we can finally tolerate the downfalls of life, yet are unable to cease it or prevent it from happening again. The only way you will successfully end it all (the negativity, the disappointments, the frustrations) is to stand up for yourself, and stand up for what you believe in. Quit settling & start your search for what you truly deserve. More than likely, your stress is caused by you compromising yourself, to suit others or a particular situation. I know that’s what caused mine. And I’ve finally ended that cycle. For months I’ve been catering to people’s incapability of handling problems the right way, or even their own stress, only out of hope, respect & love. But where are they now when I need them the […]