do you hate love?

Love and commitment takes work. A lot of work. And I hate working. Would it be awful of me to say that I’m glad I am not in a relationship because of the work and the stress (and the good stuff) that will come with it? I guess I’m not ready for one, but at the same time, I don’t want one either. I’m happy being single. In fact, I've been celibate for 10 months, so I can see myself being single for a real long time until I find the right man for me. And when I do, I’m sure I’ll be more ready and more willing to put in the effort. However, right now, I’m content at where I’m at in life. Then again, I've always been a bit of a loner, so yeah. And don't try to shade me. I'm not an "angry bitter black woman trying to front like she don't need a man". I would LOVE to have a juicy man in my arms right now. But at the ...

detox your life.

Be honest. Did you have a slow start to your New Years for 2014? Taking you a bit to get back in the swing of things? No worries, it is never too late to take control of your life. In the beginning of the New Year I like to start by detoxing my life for the first few couple of months. It makes for healthy habits throughout the year. I will clean up my eating habits, spring clean my home, stimulate my mental health, get my finances in order, and re-evaluate the people in my life. I am a firm believer that you need to clean your life from the inside out to live a healthy lifestyle. What is detoxing? Detoxing is the process of removing impurities from the body. The premise of cleansing the body came from the Ancient Egyptians and Greeks in which foods consumed can produce toxins in the body. They believed in cleansing the body in many different ways to get rid of them. Science later supported that this ...

how to forgive someone.

People always ask me "What do I do if they cheated on me?" As far as I'm concerned, I've never been cheated on. So I do not know how to approach the situation. However, I found a blog by Dale P. that shows how you can forgive someone that cheated or betrayed you: In 2008, I was in a relationship with a girl in Southern California. We had been dating for about 2 years and had even started attending church together every Sunday. I was close with her family and friends and our relationship was getting quite serious. While she was on a 60 day trip overseas, I received a call from an acquaintance alerting me of some hurtful news. He had heard that my girlfriend had cheated on me with my best friend. Shocked and confused, I made an immediate international phone call to ask her myself. It was true. I dropped down to my knees and felt like throwing up. I hung up the phone, hopped in my car, and cried. As the days and weeks went ...

single, celibacy, and cobwebs.

I'm one of those people that believe you're not supposed to die alone. Not supposed to die without companionship. Without love. I used to fake empower myself and make it seem like it's sooooo wonderful to be single and to be able to have sex with anyone I want. No. Being single is fun sometimes, but not all of the time. I don't ever believe people when they say "I love being single" "I'm fine with never getting married" "My pillow is better than a mate" In what world? My opinion: I think people that say these things are just putting up a guard. They don't want to appear sad, lonely, rejected or desperate. I have done a lot of soul searching lately and I have come to a conclusion. I am waiting until I am in a committed relationship before I decide to have sex again. I've done this a couple of years ago and it worked very well for me. I've been doing it for 6 months thus far. I'm waiting for ...

angels and demons.

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You've got two eyes that took me by surprise when you walked by. I think that I could die a thousand deaths and still turn out just fine. If I could just see your face every day of my life. Well I see you're sad but we're both sad, and I see you cry and it makes me mad. I see the good in all your bad. Lets take this shitty life we have and throw it down the drain and run away. Just you & I. Well love don’t tell us what to do. It only shows us what we need. And whenever I'm alone with you, I know I'm where I want to be. You're the angel that gives me reason but I can't begin to count my demons. Somehow you still keep me dreamin'. You let me know my life has meaning. I’ll find that boy that left you bleeding. Whispered "love" and you believed him. I begged and begged for you to leave him. I swear ...