October 5, 2018

confidentiality

If there is anything you don’t want people to know about you, don’t tell anyone. We give people too much responsibility when we entrust them with our business. Sometimes they repeat the information mindlessly; other times they use our story to make a point; at worst times they use it against you. We should only tell our problems to people who can help. 80% of the people we talk to can’t help us; the other 20% really don’t care. We are quick to accuse our friends of betraying us, but do we consider how we betray ourselves? We lie to ourselves and then allow ourselves to believe it will not come back. It does, through the mouth and actions of someone else. In those special times when you must talk about your private affairs, ask the other person if they are willing to keep your confidence. If they repeat it, then the responsibility is theirs – not for telling your business, but for not keeping their word. I will only tell you what I want everybody to know.
April 17, 2017

cute cuddly counselor

I found a new term for lovely single women: “cute cuddly counselor”. Note, I said LOVELY single women. Not the rotten ones. Here’s what happens: — 1. The man is highly drawn to you and can’t figure out why. However, he DO know he’s not happy. — 2. You welcome him in into your life (whether it’s emotionalship, companionship, sexship or relationship) with no judgement. Just nurture & love. — 3. He’s now happy & has loads of fun with you. — 4. He learns (from you) on how to make his life, career, drama with his baby momma, emotions, or whatever it is: better. — 5. You’re no longer needed in his life. Girl, it’s okay. Move on.
March 17, 2016

emotional users.

Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. You should never have to fight for their attention. You should never feel alone when they promised to be by your side. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. There are people out there that will come to you in disguise, the “picture perfect person”, just to suck the life out of you. EMOTIONAL USERS is what I call them. Not only will they use you for your money, they will use you for your HEART. Your positive energy. Your time. Your talents. Your loving arms. Your kind heart. Your emotional stability. They will use you up until you realize you’re alone with nothing left but a story to tell. People like this will suddenly appear, take what they want, then suddenly disappear. Don’t you worry though, people like this don’t last long, so they will eventually expose themselves. They will lose that phony focus they had on you & will eventually show their TRUE colors. It’s up to YOU to not bend over & get fucked in the ass by them again. And remember: It’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true loved ones. Stay woke.