October 5, 2018

confidentiality

If there is anything you don’t want people to know about you, don’t tell anyone. We give people too much responsibility when we entrust them with our business. Sometimes they repeat the information mindlessly; other times they use our story to make a point; at worst times they use it against you. We should only tell our problems to people who can help. 80% of the people we talk to can’t help us; the other 20% really don’t care. We are quick to accuse our friends of betraying us, but do we consider how we betray ourselves? We lie to ourselves and then allow ourselves to believe it will not come back. It does, through the mouth and actions of someone else. In those special times when you must talk about your private affairs, ask the other person if they are willing to keep your confidence. If they repeat it, then the responsibility is theirs – not for telling your business, but for not keeping their word. I will only tell you what I want everybody to know.
April 28, 2016

ownership.

Too many people have allowed themselves to remain in situations that are unproductive. As you mature, you outgrow interests, hobbies, habits and even people. The process of elimination works the best. Especially when you’ve exhausted all attempts to make it right. The more you stay in a negative situation, the more you need to start blaming yourself. All of this blame we place on everyone else for the things we’re unable to do for ourselves are becoming a bit tedious. Let’s start taking responsibility for our actions, so we can efficiently change the outcome of our “situations”. There will be rough times, difficult situations, things to fall into & out of, major obstacles and forks in the road all through your mission. My mission is to allow people to feel how I am feeling by providing my story, followed up with my personal suggestive solution. The power I have to make people open their eyes and see what they couldn’t see before makes me happy on levels beyond my normal reach. I do it because I believe I can do it. I’m not ashamed to tell my stories about my past experiences, shortcomings & failed relationships. Flaws and all, I am honest about who I am. Are you?