written august 9th, 2008
There are times when we find ourselves at odds with someone. It may seem that our only choices are to get caught up in the situation or walk away. The ego tells us we must prove we are right. If we walk away, the other person will win. That same ego keeps us from recognizing there is another choice other than bashing the individual. Whatever situation confronts us, we must recognize our right to be at peace. The heart tells us we must forgive and forget but sometimes most of us have a tough time doing so. Certain things cannot be forgotten. And certain things you can not forgive for. But you can let go. You can move on. And you can walk away.
But what about the people who are still overwhelmed with envy towards you? Envious of the fact that you truly moved on? Jealous over the way you conquered the downfalls of your life? I despise the way people act towards you when they’re intimidated. Those actions usually leads right towards betrayal and nothing hurts more than someone you considered your friend to betray you. Jealousy is the surest way to get rid of every person you’re afraid of losing. Think about the petty arguments, the useless fights and major fall-outs that your lover, your friend, or even a total stranger has started with you. Best to believe most reasons are derived from the lack of security they have within themselves. People tend to attack first when they’re intimidated instead of just dealing with the lack of esteem they possess. Not everyone is trying to “out-do” them yet they put up that front as if they’re better than you. Guaranteed, their shit stinks just like yours. They must have missed the memo. I tell it like this, let go of the “hate” and focus on how you can prosper. Don’t worry about competing with me. In order to handle jealousy, you have to acknowledge any feelings it brings and then understand what they are. When you say “I love you”, it means “I want the very best for you whether or not I am included.” So why try to down and belittle someone because you’re not in tune with your life at this time? Or because you’re not involved with me anymore? Jealousy is a sign of weakness and the longings in your subconscious mind. It reminds you that what you are longing for is also longing you. Therefore seek it & don’t allow it to get the best of you. There are only two emotions. Love & fear. When jealousy appears, stop & recognize that it’s actually fear raising its ugly head. Fear of losing someone or something, fear that there’s not enough. Fear that you’re not ahead in the game. Quit comparing yourself with others. If you allow yourself to be jealous, there’s no room for love. If you allow yourself to be in denial about your jealousy, there’s no room for you to be loyal and honest.
Sometimes people are so cloudy about their feelings that they end up disrespecting you, in attempt to make themselves feel better. I’ve noticed a lot of men do this with each other and worse….with women. Striving to disrespect us due to their own insecurities of not being able to have us the way they want. Which succumbs to verbal abuse or even worse, physical abuse. Just in total denial of rejection and not being able to handle it. This is why we need to be more in touch with our emotions. It’s imperative to acknowledge all your feelings & not beat yourself up for having them. Having feelings are not good or bad, they just are. Reflect on it. Jealousy is simply reminding you that you’re worthy of the best and that you fiend for the best. What’s so wrong with that? Not a damn thing. So go for it and don’t knock the next person down for getting what you yearned for. When you remember who you are, the jealousy will dissolve and you’ll be ready to receive what you want. When you strengthen your self-esteem, there’s no room for jealousy.
And as far as the ones who fell into the target of the jealous ones: Don’t let anyone steal your spirit. Remain peaceful. When disharmony present themselves into our lives…stand firm and just block anymore incoming discord. When we let go the need to prove ourselves, nothing and no one can disturb the quiet and peace of our minds. That is the most truest way you can move on & be the better person.
Never dull your shine for someone else.
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