written june8th, 2008
Lawry’s
A hater, somebody that is jealous of you because you are wealthier or flyer than they are. Derived from the name of the world’s famous seasoned salt “Lawry’s” and used best in Kanye West song “Good Life” : “Yo, it’s got to be me ’cause I’m seasoned, haters givin’ me salty looks, Lawry’s”.
I really don’t like using the term “haters” because it’s outdated but there are instances where it’s applicable. I despise the way people act towards you when they’re intimidated. Those actions usually leads right towards betrayal and nothing hurts more than someone you considered your friend to betray you. Jealousy is the surest way to get rid of every person you’re afraid of losing. Think about the petty arguments, the useless fights and major fall-outs that your lover, your friend, or even a total stranger has started with you. Best to believe most reasons are derived from the lack of security they have within themselves. People tend to attack first when they’re intimidated instead of just dealing with the lack of esteem they possess. Not everyone is trying to “out-do” them yet they put up that front as if they’re better than you. Guaranteed, their shit stinks just like yours. They must have missed the memo. I tell it like this, let go of the “hate” and focus on how you can prosper. Don’t worry about competing with me. In order to handle jealousy, you have to acknowledge any feelings it brings and then understand what they are. Why try to down and belittle someone because you’re not in tune with your life at this time? Jealousy is a sign of weakness that you have within yourself. Quit comparing yourself with others.
Another term that’s related to jealousy: catty. Subtly cruel or malicious; spiteful. I swear at least 75% of the women today possess this unattractive trait. Why do women, adult established women at that, find themselves in strong competition with others? Why do they want to drown others in their bullshit of hate, jealousy and envy? Catty women also spend more time trying to convince people (especially men) how “ugly” or “stupid” an admired woman is more than trying to better themselves & produce more character & substance in their own lives. I sure you all know at least one woman that tries to find something negative in the next female. “Doesn’t she look great?” Catty Bitch #459 – “Yeah but she got a weave. Must be bald”. They always start with the “yeah but…”. Makes you just want to hock & spit across their forehead and say “Quit hating” (as tired as that saying is, but it’s true). This has such a great impact on me because it has happened to me before. For years by the same people. The flipside of it all is, I am 100% comfortable with giving another woman her props and leave it as that. So one would think the reason why it’s happening to you is because you have done it before correct? Please. Bitches will be bitches and if they’re a jealous bitch, they will be your bitch for life. Yes I know we all are not perfect but that doesn’t make it okay to capitalize someone’s “flaw”. The reason why I placed the word flaw in quotations is because characteristics that we may find as flaws, the next person will adore it and embrace it as something unique. So again I ask, why concentrate and spend so much of your time to convince that person otherwise? Is your self-esteem that low where you just have to focus that negativity on someone who’s getting what you’ve yearned for so long?
This day and age, as women, where it’s so hard to earn respect from or fellow men, we don’t also need the burden of the same sex following their lead. It’s bad enough that we are viewed and treated as objects or even worse, underestimated and ridiculed career wise. It is not my duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. But it is my duty to ignore them and continue striving to be myself. Which succumbs them to become this catty person and be ignorant instead of brushing their teeth or something. They know, in our presence, others have an opportunity to learn about us and perhaps grow to love us. And they can’t stand that. What can be done to end this cycle? Nothing. Not a damn thing. Which is why ignoring ignorance is the best answer. No matter what you do or say, they will always find something to say about you. They’re just that damn miserable.
Live your mother fucking life. You gotta get your hustle. Understand niggas are gonna hate on you regardless. Get that out of your head that niggas shouldn’t hate on you. You gotta be grateful, you need haters. What you think a haters job is? To fucking hate. So let them do their mother fucking job. What are you complaining about? If you got 14 people hating on you, you need to figure out how to get to 16 before the Summer get here. If you’re a hater, and you don’t have anyone to hate on, feel free to hate on me. Sit back and say my hair ain’t luxurious, because you know it is, bitch.
- Poetically Spoken by Katt Williams; Pimp Chronicles
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