Comments on: why? http://kisschanel.com/why/ The online diary of a verbally infectious, highly opinionated, woman. Tue, 07 Sep 2010 14:52:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: LIT http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-2107 LIT Sun, 17 May 2009 02:52:42 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-2107 YOU ' R A BEAUTY> ADD http://Twitter.com/black_lit YOU ‘ R A BEAUTY> ADD http://Twitter.com/black_lit

]]> By: L.S. http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-2070 L.S. Sat, 16 May 2009 01:44:57 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-2070 “I am very particular about who gets to know me and to receive the most endearing side of my nature. So when I do decide to show them that, I expect great appreciation. Keyword = expect.” So do i, girl. so do i. And even though it's rather late, i still want to wish you a happy mother's day. “I am very particular about who gets to know me and to receive the most endearing side of my nature. So when I do decide to show them that, I expect great appreciation. Keyword = expect.”

So do i, girl. so do i.

And even though it’s rather late, i still want to wish you a happy mother’s day.

]]> By: Azalea http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-2066 Azalea Fri, 15 May 2009 23:18:54 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-2066 "I am very particular about who gets to know me and to receive the most endearing side of my nature. So when I do decide to show them that, I expect great appreciation. Keyword = expect." I think I was completely opposite and wish I wasn't. I would always let a guy know all my feelings and emotions. I would give them everything. I don't know if they would get overwhelmed or just disgusted with me but none of those relationships ever ended well. I always blamed myself because I felt like I was doing too much. But I realized if someone really cares about me they won't mind hearing what I have to say or how I feel. I'm just glad I don't have to deal with the ups and downs different males emotions and only have to deal with 1 which is still a lot though lol. Great post! :blogyyy: “I am very particular about who gets to know me and to receive the most endearing side of my nature. So when I do decide to show them that, I expect great appreciation. Keyword = expect.”

I think I was completely opposite and wish I wasn’t. I would always let a guy know all my feelings and emotions. I would give them everything. I don’t know if they would get overwhelmed or just disgusted with me but none of those relationships ever ended well. I always blamed myself because I felt like I was doing too much. But I realized if someone really cares about me they won’t mind hearing what I have to say or how I feel. I’m just glad I don’t have to deal with the ups and downs different males emotions and only have to deal with 1 which is still a lot though lol. Great post! :blogyyy:

]]> By: tiff http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-1970 tiff Tue, 12 May 2009 22:00:22 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-1970 Also, kind of off topic but, I really love this layout. Do you make your own layouts? Also, kind of off topic but, I really love this layout. Do you make your own layouts?

]]> By: tiff http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-1969 tiff Tue, 12 May 2009 21:59:19 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-1969 But Chanel, it ISN'T weakness though! lol, I really think for you to wanting to know "why" to all those little concerns you have in the back of your mind truly does benefit you, it doesn't hurt. Knowing why would give you a sense of closure and certainty. Knowing why would make you learn from your mistakes, if any. Example: Me: Why won't you talk to me anymore? Dude: Because you smell. Me: Ok, I should work on that. But Chanel, it ISN’T weakness though! lol, I really think for you to wanting to know “why” to all those little concerns you have in the back of your mind truly does benefit you, it doesn’t hurt.

Knowing why would give you a sense of closure and certainty.

Knowing why would make you learn from your mistakes, if any.

Example:
Me: Why won’t you talk to me anymore?
Dude: Because you smell.
Me: Ok, I should work on that.

]]> By: Shonni http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-1959 Shonni Tue, 12 May 2009 16:43:18 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-1959 Love Love Love this entry! The dialogue was hilarious! After my divorce I actually didn't care as to why that fool did all the crap he had done. I never expect any man to be perfect, however I do expect them to strive for perfection and get as close to it as possible. You can't make a commitment and half step. I think some just get too damn comforatble and feel like they don't have to work for it. You work hard to get it and once achieved you slack...hence the honeymoon stage. Fuck that I want a honeymoon that lasts a lifetime. I always try to give 100% I expect the same in return...it's all about standards. Gotta have them! Really enjoyed the read lady =) Love Love Love this entry! The dialogue was hilarious! After my divorce I actually didn’t care as to why that fool did all the crap he had done. I never expect any man to be perfect, however I do expect them to strive for perfection and get as close to it as possible. You can’t make a commitment and half step. I think some just get too damn comforatble and feel like they don’t have to work for it. You work hard to get it and once achieved you slack…hence the honeymoon stage. Fuck that I want a honeymoon that lasts a lifetime. I always try to give 100% I expect the same in return…it’s all about standards. Gotta have them! Really enjoyed the read lady =)

]]> By: Nile http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-1938 Nile Mon, 11 May 2009 22:48:37 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-1938 I use to ask that, but I do not care anymore. It just made me very angsty right after my divorce. I was just about rock bottom and needed help so badly it was scary. I almost did feel like I had died. It was after counselling and some time that I felt pathetic for letting my ex-husband treat me the way he did. I just go pick up my son and try to ignore my ex. Taking the risk in loving another is a learning experience. It is up to you to just let it go and move on no matter how much of a jackass they were. I use to ask that, but I do not care anymore. It just made me very angsty right after my divorce. I was just about rock bottom and needed help so badly it was scary. I almost did feel like I had died. It was after counselling and some time that I felt pathetic for letting my ex-husband treat me the way he did.

I just go pick up my son and try to ignore my ex. Taking the risk in loving another is a learning experience. It is up to you to just let it go and move on no matter how much of a jackass they were.

]]> By: Ms_Slim http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-1927 Ms_Slim Mon, 11 May 2009 16:18:16 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-1927 Love the new layout. Very nice and I love the picture-art up top especially! "Not only are you allowing people in your life, you’re making it easier for them to hurt you." This is the issue I have in relationships. The whole 'risk' thing is just sooo hard for me, especially since my recent heartbreak. And since I still havent really gotten 'closure' from that situation, it's even harder for me to start anything new in full. The walls I've built are thick and hard. Sometimes I get worried that they'll never be able to be broken down. I'm just really afraid of getting hurt. It's a mess. And I hate taking such a risk. Thanks for this post. Since I've started reading you, it's like all of your posts seem to fit me for that day specifically lol Love the new layout. Very nice and I love the picture-art up top especially!

“Not only are you allowing people in your life, you’re making it easier for them to hurt you.”

This is the issue I have in relationships. The whole ‘risk’ thing is just sooo hard for me, especially since my recent heartbreak. And since I still havent really gotten ‘closure’ from that situation, it’s even harder for me to start anything new in full. The walls I’ve built are thick and hard. Sometimes I get worried that they’ll never be able to be broken down. I’m just really afraid of getting hurt. It’s a mess. And I hate taking such a risk.

Thanks for this post. Since I’ve started reading you, it’s like all of your posts seem to fit me for that day specifically lol

]]> By: Kristina http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-1910 Kristina Mon, 11 May 2009 02:13:21 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-1910 LOL I am always asking why, and I wish I read somethng like this 2 months ago when I was dealing with a half ass relationship. You hit the nail! :happy: LOL I am always asking why, and I wish I read somethng like this 2 months ago when I was dealing with a half ass relationship. You hit the nail! :happy:

]]> By: Mallory http://kisschanel.com/why/#comment-1902 Mallory Sun, 10 May 2009 22:41:16 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=912#comment-1902 "Why?" ...one of my favorite expressions! Why? ...because it goes so far & I, too, need it. That is just who I am. Anywho, I can agree with this & I feel like this a lot. However, I've never been in a relationship of which you speak, my needs come from friendships & family. As you said, all relationships we expect such things! It's a shame most people only give half-ass though. Totally off topic...for some reason, your images don't want to load in Firefox? ...unless it's just my computer because this Internet Explorer sucks too. :\ “Why?” …one of my favorite expressions! Why? …because it goes so far & I, too, need it. That is just who I am. Anywho, I can agree with this & I feel like this a lot. However, I’ve never been in a relationship of which you speak, my needs come from friendships & family. As you said, all relationships we expect such things! It’s a shame most people only give half-ass though.

Totally off topic…for some reason, your images don’t want to load in Firefox? …unless it’s just my computer because this Internet Explorer sucks too. :\

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