It cracks me up how people will look at you and automatically assume your personality. “She think she’s all that“. Oh yeah? How do you know what someone’s thinking? Especially if you don’t know them? Apparently YOU think she’s all that, being that she never told you anything of the sort. And on the same note, why not try to compliment the woman than bring her down? There will always be someone out there that looks better than you. Deal with it and handle your insecurities accordingly.
I’m getting very tired of picking up my manager’s slack at work. I’m going to find a way to avoid doing that, without jeopardizing my job. She doesn’t come in on time, always taking off, yet if I did it, it would be highlighted somehow. We all have a job to do. When I fall behind, I don’t try to slide my work on to others. I guess this is what happens when you mix business with pleasure. Do I need to disassociate myself from her and keep it strictly professional now because she’ve gotten to comfortable with me? Also, leave your personal issues at home. We all have child/relationship/money issues from time to time. You’re no different than the rest. Leave the “oh woe is me” act or the “imma be a stink bitch until I can get my rent paid” attitude in the parking lot.
Is it just me or is it that the people who gripe and complain about “being left alone” are the main ones who actually create the drama they’re currently in? The best way to handle it is to simply ignore the person. Don’t reply to their bullshit, don’t explain yourself, don’t try to validate your points. Just refrain from entertaining it. All that energy you’re placing into acknowledging them is actually just fueling the fire even more. Please don’t forget there is a reason why they focus on you so much. Pop your collar.
Advice for those that don’t like me but they refresh my site on a daily basis: The more you stay out of my life, the more I will believe that you have one of your own.
I took the day off Friday. I think we all should request at least ONE day off per month to reclaim your sanity. Especially on the months were you get no holidays off.
I’m not quite sure what’s going on with 2009, but this year seems like a year we will never forget. People are stressed out, losing their jobs, losing their homes, losing their minds. It’s insane. I’m not feeling the way the government are handling things either. All these “bail outs” for these major companies, yet the average person is unable to get approved for a loan? Something’s fishy about that.
Why is Barack Obama the blame of our current financial situation? He’s been in office a little over 100 days and now he’s the reason why America is in shambles? Weren’t people getting laid off, gas prices went up, and troops were sent to Iraq before we even knew he was running for President. Why is he being rushed to fix our country so everything can go back to normal again? Newflash: Bush was in office for 8 years. It took him 8 years to fuck up America. Ever tried cleaning up someone else’s mistake? Doesn’t it take longer to fix than the actual task of completing it correctly? Oh ok.
Lighten up people. Things could be a lot worse.
By Tiffany, March 17, 2009 at 5:19 pm
People are just miserable and want to put the blame on someone else. It doesn’t even make sense most of the time. I didn’t realize how much people try to put the blame on others for their misery and for their mistakes. People really need a reality check, before somebody like me check they ass and put them in their place.
And somebody is always trying to find something wrong with Obama, I was in the grocery store the other day. & seen this cover of this tabloid talking about “gay scandal”. SMH the things people will do….
By MarcyWebb, March 17, 2009 at 11:53 pm
There’s a lot in your post to which I can respond, Chanel. So, I’ll give it a go.
It’s human nature to make presumptions re:others. Not saying it’s right or fair, but, it’s how we as human beings sort each other out. Perhaps we need to be more discriminating in our relationships with others, and less open-minded and flexible. It’s not always a good thing. Or, give oneself time to get to know others, with cautious optimism. While I do believe in empathy and compassion on the job, too much can make work messy.
Re: President Obama: He’s trying to do too much too soon. He needs to prioritize, and work on the most critical issues first. I do, however, that people, especially Black people, are putting a lot on his shoulders. He is, after all, a man, a human being. Perhaps Black folks were walking a little taller on Nov. 5th, but, it’s up to each individual to make her life what she wants it to be.
The workplace: I personally try to keep things on a professional level with my colleagues, and try to not become too socially intertwined with folks. That’s not to say that there isn’t a colleague or two with whom I socialize. But, I believe friends on the job can make workplace issues that much more complicated. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, as they say.
That is all for now.
By Monique, March 18, 2009 at 2:32 pm
I don;t think I am all taht. I do feel confident with who am I am if someone cannot handle my personality then whatever that’s on them.
By Irene, March 19, 2009 at 5:38 pm
I agree that it’s a good idea to take at least one day off per month. It’s something I never really thought was all that important until the time came when I was so busy that more than three months had gone by without my having one day off to do nothing. *lol* Crazy.
By Kay, March 20, 2009 at 10:28 pm
OMG I love you & I don’t even know you. I agree wholeheartedly with your post.
I personally dont get involved with people at work. I’m not mean or anything but I dont get a job to make friends either. If they become friends fine, if they dont like me, oh well. All I care about is my direct deposit on pay day.
You know these same corporations they bailed out are still failing & going bankrupt. I think it would be so much cheaper to bail out tax payers who are apart of the middle/working class. These are the people with debts. If you help the people eliminate or heavily minimize their debts then they won’t have a problem buying homes, cars, clothes, etc. It makes no sense to bail out companies when no one can still afford to spend money for extraneous things. You have to debate whether to put gas in your car or buy food, or pay bills, or go do this & that. People aren’t living comfortably anymore, so buying cars, & blowing money at the mall all the time is the last thing on their minds. We are ridiculous. The American dollar is practically useless.
Yes, people are really stupid. Obama has nothing to do with America’s situation & he isnt going to be able to clean up Bush’s mess in his first year in office, let alone his first term. It is extremely hard to clean up 8 years worth of problems. He has so much pressure & people are just looking for him to fail anyway. I believe that after he’s had 3 years in office, we’ll be able to actually see a bit of change for the better.
By Sei' Lani Britagne, March 21, 2009 at 3:35 am
I got that alot through highschool. heard all of that stuff and been called “stuck up”..i still don’t know what that means. All I really wanted was friends but thats what they thought of me without getting to know me.
I found, that is jealousy. point blank. haha. I take it as NO, YOU are the one who thinks I’m all that. and YOU are the one that is STUCK on ME. haha
By Shannon, March 21, 2009 at 9:15 pm
I knew people would start blaming Obama for the way things are happening. I saw it coming. Just because he’s the first Black President AND he’s a Democrat. People are never satisfied in this country. They voted for Bush and he screwed this country over majorly. It’s a shame.
By Charmaine, March 23, 2009 at 3:26 pm
:exclaimation: Wow…lovin this blog!
You know women in general are going to always have something to say regardless. As I continue to say, most women that harbour those feelings usually aren’t jealous because of looks but moreso because the person may have chracteristics she desires…for example…a lady that’s pretty but has a great personality (they aren’t mad cause she’s pretty, they are mad cause her attitude doesn’t suck…therefore making her a better person than what they want to see)
By Monica, March 25, 2009 at 6:57 pm
I think you should know that you are helping me a lot with your posts. And probably other persons too. It’s the first time when I’m writing you.
When I feel down, I always find the answers in your posts. Somehow your answers always match with my questions.
You’re a great woman. I wish there would be more people like you, in other countries from other continents too.
You’re my favorite blogger!
XOXO
Monica
By Khara, April 10, 2009 at 2:55 pm
I actually love it when I get hated on because it shows me I’m doing something right, right? I don’t have time for the scathing-behind-the-back comments/digs and all the ra ra that goes along with it.
As long as I’m out there making my money and filling my belly with all the nutrients I need, they can stay there.