Being in the vicinity of ignorant people is not my cup of tea. They try their best to convince me that they’re not like the rest. After time has pass, many have proven themselves to be just that. That’s when I disassociate myself from them, which usually lead to unfortunate events.
It’s so disheartening when someone close to you tries to hurt you. When they purposely want your heart to bleed. What is the quality of your intent? Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words don’t seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. The intent behind the words is what hurts me the most. Not the fact that you called me out my name. The fact that you tried to belittle me. The fact that you were trying to hurt me. It takes a lot for someone that I care about to make me feel like shit. But when you’re desperately trying to?…that’s when I feel betrayed. Can you imagine arguing with someone close to you over something small & because you made a good point, made them feel stupid if you will, and they turn around and calls you a nasty name? What would anger you more, the fact that they called you a nasty name or the fact that they tried to hurt you?
When someone does you harm, is it right to do the same thing in return? No. Naturally, we react in a negative way thinking it’s okay because they did it too. Truth is, you can never get even with someone who has hurt you. Any attempt to do so puts you behind the bad karma mill. “Two wrongs never make a right”. Pretty much, you can’t right a wrong by committing another wrong. Funny how hard it is to live by that simple rule. You may be able to justify your actions politically or socially, but spiritually you will be held accountable for what you do. Why you did it, doesn’t count. I’m an avid believer in karma. Regardless of what someone did to me I refuse to stoop to their level and try to hurt them back. Before I matured, I just knew for a fact that that was the “proper” way to handle things. Obviously, our life works just like a boomerang so whatever you do, the effect of that action will come right back to you. So, while you’re sitting there, watching someone’s miserable insecure ass calling you all types of names to anyone that will listen, or in your face….always remember that they are the ones that are truly hurting inside. They are the ones that owns some sort of envy towards you. The question is, are you going to allow it to happen again by sticking around?
Isn’t it ironic that the people who talk shit about you really have no room in doing so in the first damn place? When did someone with no job, no home of their own, no kids, no car get the nerve to talk shit & try to look down upon someone who has a job, has their own place and has their own car? How can you clown another man for driving a Nissan when you’re pushing a raggedy ass Buick? How dare you call her a slut when you’re not faithful to your own? Why are you claiming Barack Obama is your idol yet you haven’t taken care of your kids in years? Why frown upon Jay-Z & Beyonce taking 5 years to get married….where your marriage license at? When did it become okay to condone domestic violence if the woman is the one throwing punches but it’s not okay if a man beat your ass for hitting him? All your life I never heard you mention a word about God but now that you found out you have a disease you’re in church every Sunday? You’re tired of “these gold digging bitches” yet you wanna take her shopping on the first date? Time to check that reality and humble yourselves people. Last time I checked, your shit stink too. Maybe even more.
And what about the people that you reject? Whether it’s a man after the first date or a woman that you used to hang out with. You feel rejected? Get over it. It’s as simple as that. Don’t try to insult me nor what I represent just because I didn’t kiss your ass. Maybe the blame should be on your limited way of thinking. Or maybe it’s your lack of reality, education…experiences? I can promise you that the same person that rejected you isn’t paying you no mind anyways. They can careless how you feel or what you say from this point on. If you understand that you can only draw to yourself what you already are, you can see rejection in another light. If your self-esteem was higher, you wouldn’t succumb to having a fit when you’re not the one that they chose. If you worked more on your insecurities, education level, financial stability or sexual morals, you’ll be able to curb those child-like traits that make you perform the stupidity that you do each day due to the rejection.
We all know at least one person who’s guilty of one of these subjects I touched on. Maybe of all these things. The sad thing is, it’ll take years before they realize their wrongdoings. Do like I do and ignore their ignorance (one of my favorite quotes). Eventually they will get over it. Unfortunately, most people don’t and they never will. Because you’re that damn great.
By Shannon, February 17, 2009 at 12:24 am
Great post. I was just thinking to myself as I was reading this. There are quite a few people in my past who have done things to purposely try to hurt me and it’s not what they did that hurts, it’s the fact that their intentions were ill. To say the least, these are people I was in relationships with and things ended. They felt hurt so they felt a need to make me feel the same way and it’s sad because they were at fault! It’s crazy how malicious and spiteful people can get. But like you said, it’s better to just ignore the shit people say and try to do. I’ve found that ignoring people is the most effective. Wasting energy trying to get even is silly especially when I could be using that energy on something much more productive.
By chanel, February 17, 2009 at 7:25 am
Couldn’t have said it better. Especially when it comes down to men. People believe women are the scorned ones but to my findings MEN seem to be the ones that act out more than women. We may be distraught, saddened or even angry that things ended the way they did but men seek revenge just as much women do.
By Shannon, February 17, 2009 at 9:07 am
Indeed and men are a lot more evil with their shit too.
By Linda, February 17, 2009 at 10:48 am
I have to chime in on the scorned man part. I can say that I’ve lived it so I know it’s true. You’re right they make it seem like we’re the whiny ones but men HATE losing. When you have to go across an entire state and badmouth a woman who left you just so that no one else will like or work with her then you become a joke.
By chanel, February 17, 2009 at 11:17 am
Girl wait…how about when they try to take back what they previous gave you as a gift? Whether it’s an electronic, a pair of jeans or a pack of 1B silky yaki. They’ll try to come back to your crib or blow up your phone to try to “retrieve” those items. I always ask them “Do you want me to vomit up your sperm and give it back to you too?”
Yeah, I get ghetto with those fools that wanna act up. Don’t play with me.
By Linda, February 17, 2009 at 11:43 am
I know! It’s a sick double standard. I had one guy who KNEW how much I loved flowers. He waits until we break up, stalks me to find out where I’m living by stalking my blog and piecing together clues then and leaves flowers at my door at 1am. I’m thinking this clown is so bassackwards. Doesn’t he know you give the flowers when you’re in the relationship not when it’s over? Some men should wear dresses and high heels.
By Shannon, February 19, 2009 at 2:32 pm
I had a guy buy me an IPOD for Christmas, we broke up and he wanted the IPOD back AND a pair of sunglasses of his he left at my house. I’m like no since you want to be petty I’m selling these bitches on Ebay.
By Mella, February 17, 2009 at 12:31 am
That was a damn good post. And all of it is so true. I really admire your writings, your really good at it. I’ve also had ppl hurt me that I felt so close too. Goes to show you, you think you know a person and they can too turn just as easily on you. Good looking out, keep your head up.
By chanel, February 17, 2009 at 7:26 am
You don’t ever realize someone’s crazy until they get crazy on you, lol.
By Tashia, February 17, 2009 at 1:22 am
BULLET! lol
I know people in my past who fit those
descriptions PERFECTLY. There are MANY
who fit the criteria. Many.
By Tara J, February 17, 2009 at 8:43 am
Wow! That was a REALLY good post. As I was reading it I was thinking of my current situation with a fool that refuses to let me move on in life. I think when you put it that way I understand more why he’s doing it…he can’t admit that he doesn’t think I’m that bad after all.
But anyway that was a good post…just what I needed to hear to start my day:-)
Thanks
By Ashie, February 17, 2009 at 4:57 pm
It sucks that there are people out there who are like that, and can cause people so much distress and heartache intentionally. I guess the only solace you can take in it, is that not everyone is like that, and one day you’ll surround yourself with people who only want the best for you and your happiness and you’ll be able to truly appreciate it just that little bit more.
By nicole, February 17, 2009 at 6:49 pm
ima print this out and post it on my fridge :good:
By ~A~, February 17, 2009 at 9:03 pm
Hi, new to the spot but love what I’m seeing. One thing that is such a given but is often overlooked is that fact that, hurt people…hurt people. So yes, I agree that it’s not what is said or intended, rather the fact that they atempted to do harm to you in the first people.
~A~
By Tara J, February 18, 2009 at 10:29 am
Just thought I would leave you this link so you’d understand where I’m coming from….Hope all is well.
By Mallory, May 7, 2009 at 1:03 am
“Can you imagine arguing with someone close to you over something small & because you made a good point, made them feel stupid if you will, and they turn around and calls you a nasty name?”
Girl, that happens everyday of my life! Family members, best friends…I’ve lost them all, one after another, all because of this! Will I stick around? Didn’t I say I’ve lost them all?! LOL. I’m at the point in my life where I just don’t give a fuck & I, too, will not kiss anybody’s ass. If I was caught saying this two years ago, I would be the biggest hypocrite right now. I’ve learned to let go because people come & go. Get over it? Yes, get over it! I need to work on rejection though. We all know rejection can hurt like a bitch & I have my moments where I let my insecurities get the best of me. We all do, am I wrong?! I try my best to let it go. However, I’m the type that needs to express my feelings or they eat me alive. We all have things we need to work on I guess…
By the way, those people who talk shit are nothing but HYPOCRITES! :\