What is it about that one particular “ex” that either makes your blood boil or your legs weak? They put us through so much shit, make us do things that compromise our self-worth and yet, we still run back to them. You bump into them at the mall and next thing you know, you’re exchanging numbers again. Come on over and watch a movie. Yes, I missed you. Yes, I missed us. Yeah, I have condoms. Yes, I still swallow. Want to know why? Because you’re lonely. Because we believe that they’re our “safety net”. Meaning, we don’t have to go through the “getting to know each other” process again. We’re under the impression that there’s some form of comfort there being that we’re already acquainted with each other. Mentally & sexually. We forget all of the bullshit they’ve put us through because we believe them when they say “I’ve changed“. Trust me, they didn’t change. The distance made you forget certain things. Like the way he put you down & told you you weren’t good enough for him. Or the way she used you for your money. Or the fact that he never introduced you to his parents. Or the way she always made excuses for her child’s father. They have recognized your vulnerability & took prey upon it. You need to remember why they are your ex in the first place before you even decide to take that path again. Most times, it happens right when you’ve broken it off with someone else. Instead of being alone, giving yourself time to heal & recuperate, you chose to run into the arms of someone who also hurt you before. Things are going to be good for the first few weeks, but ultimately, they are still no good for you. You can get good looks elsewhere. You can get good conversations elsewhere. You can get good dick/pussy elsewhere. Why only rely on that same person who has hurt you so much in the past? You think you can’t do better? You think there’s no one else out there that can treat you the way you deserve? It takes time. It takes reevaluating yourself. Give yourself time to think about what went wrong & the mistakes you’ve made. Once you realize that you can do better, you will. He or she will enter your life when you least expect it. You will be so relieved that you did not accept the 20% that you would have gotten, had you stayed with your ex. And that same “ex” will become the most unattractive person you know.
the ex.
- August 1, 2010
- drama elimination, love & relationships
- 9 Comments
9 Responses to the ex.
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By Me, August 1, 2010 at 7:49 pm
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By Tabia, August 2, 2010 at 11:16 am
I think that you’re dead-on with this. It’s like once we get hurt by the new person, the fresh pain helps us to mentally block all the stupid shit that made our ex our ex in the first place. We’re just so desperate for some kind of good feeling, we look to the person who last gave us that feeling, forgetting about all the bullshit that came along with and ultimately overpowered the good.
By Mrs. EnJ, August 2, 2010 at 11:21 am
I love this. I recently wrote something like this on my blog and I agree with every word you said. You can easily spot out the most insecure and confused guy/woman when they go back to their ex we ALL KNOW is a piece of s**t. Misery loves company. People take advantage of a situation when it’s convenient for them. It’s sad….
Good read though. Thanks!
By A., August 2, 2010 at 12:44 pm
I love this post. Why? Because it’s the truth and I totally agree. This recent blog opened my eyes because I’m going through a situation similar to what your talking about. However he’s not my ex, but my current boyfriend. I will say when I finished reading, I immediately told myself that it is time for some changes. :)
By Kemorian, August 2, 2010 at 6:48 pm
i follow you on twitter and saw you post this link so i thought i’d read for once. I see that i’m not the only one in the world who is going through this. I’m stuck in this same situation right now. And even though i’m not that old i am in love with this person. Who’s done me sooo wrong in the past, i’ve been lied to, cheated on , betrayed, and just today while i was at the mall i got a phone call from my ex and accepted it . Even after i told myself and i know that this is NOT what is good for me and this is NOT what i need i continue to go back. I still buy him things and spend time with him hoping he will leave the girl he cheated with to come back to me . Deep down i know thats the only reason why i do all those things …. I dont know how to break this cycle :/
anyways , good blog i almost cried cause it relates to me so much . Keep up the good work love :) .
By e., August 3, 2010 at 11:12 am
those last 3 lines… nothing short of perfect.
By Rathy, August 4, 2010 at 6:43 pm
I’m glad I was strong enough to never look back on the ex. That was the thing I always promised to myself. If the relationship became broken, I would never go back. I would not let them get the best of me.
By Kween, August 11, 2010 at 1:19 am
Absolutely agree…going through some heartbreak right now and I know all I need is TIME. I’d rather be alone than with someone who puts in NO effort whatsoever to make some small and basic changes. My problem is I did something with this ex I’ve never done with another…I took him back. Should’ve stuck to my own rules. There’s a reason why I was “delivered from Egypt”…and I needed to stay delivered. LOL
Love your P.O.V.
~Kween
By Ash Monique, September 1, 2010 at 11:41 am
OMG so true! Getting over someone is the hardest thing to do sometimes. Letting go and moving on is the best thing to do