Cyber Stalking- Stalking on the Internet

Recently there has been an emergence of a new kind of stalking, commonly referred to as cyber stalking, which simply means the use of the Internet, e-mail, or other online, electronic communication devices to stalk another person. Cyber stalking takes on many forms such as sending e-mail to the victim, impersonating the victim in chat rooms and e-mail messages, and spreading untruths in a chat room. The Internet is a very efficient and inexpensive way for cyber stalkers to intimidate, terrorize, and harm their victims while at the same time remaining anonymous.

The internet has made it way too easy for people to stalk you. Stalkers always claim they’re not stalking you, but is able to comment on everything you ever said or did on the internet. They’re able to quote what you tweeted. They’re able to find your old pictures. They’re able to find all of your friends that are online too and they start keeping up with them. They save your blogs, pictures and blood type. And here’s the hypocritical portion of everything:  They get upset when they see that you found out about them & like to tell YOU that YOU have no life for checking up on THEM checking up on YOU (did I lose you there?). I will admit, I check on my stalkers from time to time. Why? So I can be kept abreast on the fact that they are still stalking me. Right now, I am aware of 5 people that are currently internet stalking me (I’m sure there’s more). But the only reason I know about these 5 is that at some point, each one have lost their cool & blew their cover by addressing me. One is dated as far back as 2002 but she’s slowed down immensely (at least I think). Another I believe started back in 2006, but she stalks a few other people as well so she stalks me whenever it’s my turn on her schedule. Then I have a bloated blogger from 2009 that started stalking me as soon as I rejected him. A self-proclaimed “doctor” that knows the first day my boyfriend and I met (from stalking my tweets). And last but not least, the one that’s been actively stalking me since 2004 & is still stalking me to date. She is able to tell when I am ovulating. Where do they find the time?

You what a stalker’s favorite rebuttal is: You’re a “nobody”. If I’m such a nobody then why are you keeping up with my nobody ass? “You’re a nobody!” – Yet they can name who you’re fucking, what school you went to, what club you go to, the model and year of the car you drive, saved 30 of your pictures, know what day your sister got married, know how many hours you worked this week. Sheesh. When do you brush your teeth? I mean, according to you, I have no life. I’m ugly, worthless and a nobody. So, judging by this concept, why are you concentrating on me so much? Who really sits at home and concentrate on a “nobody”?

Stalkers will also try to flip it on you and say you are the one stalking them. However, why is it that they will know a lot about you but you know nothing about them? And God forbid they get a hold of who you’re friends with and who are your enemies. They will try to befriend both ends of the stick. Mainly the enemies, so they can feel like what they’re doing is right and to convince other people that you’re the issue, and not them.

Stalking takes a lot of dedication & focus. I don’t know what provokes someone to stalk, but it’s clear that they need professional help. Especially if you had no physical interaction off the internet. I know for a fact it involves a high level of insecurity, low self-esteem, childhood issues and bad breath. I can’t remember a conversation I had with my boyfriend last week but a stalker will remember what day you posted a tweet about chewing bubble gum from last year. Now that’s talent!

The more you keep up with someone’s life, the more you’re missing out on yours. I guess it’s fair to assume a stalker don’t really have much of a life. Otherwise, they’d be too busy living it and not watching you live yours. Every move you make online, it is being logged & reported. The “delete” button only deletes it from you & the public to see but the information still remains in the company’s database and it will be accessed once it is subpoenaed by the courts. In other words: You are not as anonymous as you think you are. One woman sued Google to get the information about a woman who created a slanderous website about her. She is currently serving 3 years probation and that’s ONLY because the accuser requested for her to not serve any jail time. Remember, Internet stalking is a felony and you may never know who is able and willing to press charges against you. (:

These are very resourceful links to read through and gather information from. If you are considering prosecuting your stalker, you will have to contact your district attorney’s office and then they will guide you through the proper channels for your state.

• Cyberstalking Laws – ncsl.org
• Federal & State laws On Cyberstalking – haltabuse.org
• Need A Lawyer? – stalkingattorney.com
• Stopping Internet Stalkers – associatedcontent.com
• Free Cyberstalking Lawyer Consultation – yourcriminaldefenselawyer.com

I’ve learned to just really brush shit off if lately. Especially when someone has something untruthful to say about me. I simply keep it moving and continued doing what I do best….being me. Regardless of what I said or did, there will always be 2 outcomes = you either believe me or you don’t. So why even waste my time? Especially to frivolous insecure people who were dying to find a flaw or an error in my way, capitalize upon it, and then try to “rise” above me. Quit being so thirsty. Just goes to show that life must be really dull for them. I’m sure someone who dislikes me is reading this right now. Hi.

I’m not going to lie, it’s a bit disheartening if it’s someone that you used to be friends with. Or when you’ve reached the point where you have to say “enough is enough“. I guess as you go through life, and start to mature more, you tend to start letting people go. I’ve let a lot of people go this year, which happens to be the most I’ve ever done. However, I’m still at the happiest I’ve ever been in my life. Which lets me know about my inner strength. It just sucks the way things have to end. But don’t we all wish and hope that things “end” in a good way? How is that possible though? Because if it was so good, it wouldn’t have “ended”. And the only way I end things is if I was done wrong. When someone betrays me, I usually investigate why they did it in the first place. Then I insist on working on that problem. But if you’re not willing to cooperate, then I have no choice than to let you go.

It’s not my duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. The nature of their thinking is advanced or limited by their experiences with me. Or in better terms, lack thereof. In my presence, people have the opportunity to learn about me and, perhaps, to grow & love me. Some choose to take that route, while others decide to go against me. My only responsibility is the one towards myself, my life & my child. If you don’t choose to take my hand and walk these wars with me, then you weren’t worth it in the first place. Continue to judge me. Continue to take cheap shots. Continue to talk about me behind my back. Trust me, I am not pressed. Because no matter what, you will still be you, and I will still be Chanel. I will continuously aim for the top. The best. While you continue to wonder how I got there, glaring at me from the bottom.

Put more energy into bettering yourself, rather than worrying about & analyzing someone’s next move. Because all you’re doing is pointing all of their “so-called” flaws out when you are blind to your own. Just let it go boo-boo. You’ll feel much better once you get over it. I promise.

Cheers! :blog66: