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masturbation, i miss you.

chanel — Sun, 13 Mar 2011 20:58:01 +0000

My vibrator used to be my best friend. We’ve been through a lot together. And through out it all, she has always been by my side. But since my boyfriend and I moved in together, I’ve been neglecting her. It’s true that once you find yourself getting penis regularly, you tend to neglect your “best friend”. I haven’t used my vibrator in months. Partial reason is because I think I broke it. I used to think it was insulting to masturbate if you’re in a relationship, but little do I know, most men love watching us please ourselves. Ladies, there’s nothing wrong with pleasing yourself from time to time. I’m sure when we’re not around, our men enjoy some “handy” work themselves. It’s just a different feeling. A vibrator can achieve speeds a finger or tongue cannot.

A friend of mine told me to check out EdenFantasys.com to replace my best friend. Besides adult toys, EdenFantasys also has a lot of candles, lingerie, massage products, and etc. This little buddy to my right is what I got my eyes on. Her name is “Soraya“. She is perfect for you if you love simultaneous g-spot and clitoral stimulation. Finally, a dual stimulator that is silicone, waterproof, rechargeable, powerful, ergonomic, multi-function, and travel-friendly. What more could you ask for in a friend? You’re truly missing out if you don’t aim for a friend like this in your life. Not only do they listen to your problems, with no judgment, they aim to make you feel better. At least until their battery run out.

on lockdown.

chanel — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 18:50:23 +0000

I have done a lot of soul searching lately and I have come to a conclusion. I’m at a point in my life where I am ready to settle down. I miss having that genuine companionship with someone who truly cares about you. I am placing myself on lockdown. I want to wait until I am in a committed relationship before I decide to have sex again. I’ve done this a couple of years ago and it worked very well for me. I want to wait for someone who I believe I can grow with. It makes the act more valuable and you cherish your body for someone that truly loves and respects you, possibly someone you’ll spend your life with. It’s also safer. Too many men are sticking their dicks in the wrong places, on a consistent basis. Where’s the monogamy? Where’s your self-respect and self-awareness for your health, as if HIV/AIDS doesn’t exist in your world. The reason why HIV spread throughout so many women is because so many men are having sex with multiple partners. Men will ignorantly argue that women are more promiscuous. The truth is, men are more prone to have sex with more than one partner whereas a woman would have a lot of sex with one partner. It’s psychologically proven. At the same time, we as women need to be more responsible and careful in not allowing that to happen. I know we all have slipped up a few times, however, there are ways to ensure that doesn’t happen again.

How? Raise your standards, raise your relationship goals and don’t be afraid to say “no”. If he/she cannot understand that or sustain sanity, then that means you don’t need them.

I guess you can say I’m celibate now, however, i do not want to wait until marriage. I want to ensure that my next partner is with someone I truly love. To be seen for lifelong aspects. I want to be as pure as I am able to be for when that event happens. I want my body to react the same way it did when I was first fell in love. That feeling is so hard to capture if you’re not looking in the right places. I wanted to be touched in a place in my heart & soul. When I look into his eyes, I will know that he is the one. Even before “love” and sex presents itself. Which is exactly what I’m looking for. And I know it won’t be an easy road. While you’re cruising down that path, men are going to come and go like that *snap*. You have to weed out the good from the bad. I hate being disappointed when I find out that “he’s” not the one. But I have to remind myself that when I end up with a short-term relationship it’s because I’m in preparation for something better.

When that day finds me, that means I’ve completely allowed myself to accept the reality that my soul mate exists and that someone will appreciate everything that I have to offer. Without being scared. Without feeling tied down. Without the excuses of why it’s hard to commit to one person. I want to be simply adored, embraced, appreciated & loved for the woman I am. Not for the woman who knows how to make you feel good.

Before, my vision was crippled and disoriented because I was doing the wrong things, at the wrong time, with the wrong people. Now, I can truly make the right long-term decisions for my heart, instead of just living for today.

hot sex on a platter.

chanel — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 04:03:32 +0000

When you enter a relationship, you don’t often think or see beyond the physical being. We’re attracted to the body, face or personality. We probably like what the person do, say, handle or feel about a situation. In most shallow moments, some may be attracted to their lifestyle, popularity, material things and/or income. We enjoy their conversation, we’re engulfed by their kiss and we’re even amused by their humor. We may even experience a pull from within that we can’t actually explain so we find ourselves sharing our bodies with them as if “the time was right“. You’re supposed to protect, nurture & handle your person with care. You can’t treat sex as if it’s a casual thing to do with someone that you want to build with. I’m sickened with the fact that sex is taken so lightly now. With STDs/HIV growing, people dying, unwanted pregnancies and all of these life threatening diseases caused by sexual intercourse going around, one should think twice before they hand over their body to someone due to lack of sexual control. Ever thought about wanting more for yourself other than 15 minutes of casual dick rammed up your ass? Demand more self-respect and you will get it in return. I’m sure with the way you present yourself, men should not believe that you are to be used for sex or anything sexually related. So why is it that most of the men we encounter is trying to have sex before anything else? Then they have this fucked up perception that if they spend a certain amount of money, sex should be granted to them. I will never know the answer to that other than maybe it’s a part of being immature. The attitude does not change by race, age nor lifestyle either. Older men are just as starved out for sex as younger men. The difference is, older men use that tired ass “We’re both grown” excuse. Please. People claim it’s harder (no pun intended) for men to restrain from trying to have sex with a beautiful woman laying next to them. Whatever @ that stereotype. Pure bullshit. We need to stop making excuses for men who lack respect for women. If a man tells me he doesn’t want me to put my finger in his ass until we’re in a commitment, I’m not gonna try to sneak my finger in between his ass crack every damn time we’re together. So if I say I am not ready to have sex with you, then build a bridge and get over it. Patience is virtue. If you’re unable to respect that, then I don’t need you in my life anyway. It’s as simple as that.

How often do we stop to consider the true depth of the person we’re attracted to? Plenty of men have been attracted to me in these ways and even considered starting a commitment with me but they never gotten the chance to learn & embrace the real me. They were just going by my blueprint. Not taking enough time to figure me out and dissect the path on how I got where I am today. We all have a past, present & future and not enough people show interest in that. Which is why so many of us are “stuck” in these empty relationships. Or possibly because they’re so desperate in finding love that they will accept whatever comes their way. You can stop looking, forcing and trying to make it happen. Especially in the wrong person. Love is not a struggle. It happens naturally. When you look in their eyes, you will know that they are the one. Even before the “love” presents itself. You make sacrifices, you compromise & you place yourself at levels that you couldn’t imagine doing with anyone else. A lot of people don’t value these things anymore. They see it as a “hassle” and actually frown upon settling down, growing a relationship and actually just being exclusive to one person. I refuse to give someone all of my time if I am not getting the same in return. You know what I say to men who believe that they can have sex after the first date? I say “Sure thing, but take me shopping first.” Because we all know men have the same hang ups about spending money on a woman, as we do about giving it up that easily. We like to wait to see if that man is worth giving our bodies to, just like he wants to wait to see if she’s worth him taking her shopping and etc.

I can’t only blame the men now. Because how are they getting away with these acts? Women are allowing them to. These women are trying to state what their standards are and when the man tells them they are only interested in one thing, they accept that. Or even worse, there are women out there who would broadcast that all they want is sex, and it doesn’t if the man is married/committed. It’s just a bad cycle revolving in more ways than one, which will be very hard to stop because it’s becoming more acceptable in today’s society. Insecurity and low self-esteem, of course, is to blame as well. I’m also not knocking people who have decided to maintain a sexual relationship with someone. Sometimes you are able to mutually agree that this is all you want, with no strings attached. It’s just so disheartening though that the older we get, more and more people are seeking that more than an actual monogamy.