You know, this video just saddens me. At least he’s not out in the streets, joining gangs, getting drunk, driving reckless, or many of the destructive things “bored teenagers” do. He’s actually doing something constructive with his life, if only his mother would get to know him better. Last year my daughter begged me for an acoustic guitar for her birthday. It was $300. Guess what? I got it for her. And she sat right at her computer, and learned how to play by watching YouTube videos. When you’re growing up in a household of so much negativity, it wears you down greatly. Especially when you’re just in your room, minding your own business. I remember there was a time where my grandmother would talk crap about me “always on the computer, playing around with websites”. Look at me now.
kim k needs to disappear.
I’m not saying she needs to disappear in a harmful way, but the woman clearly needs help. The only way people will start adoring her again is if she just drop this “act”, and lay low for awhile. And when I say “awhile”, I mean at least a year. Stop the reality shows, stop the interviews, stop the blogging, just STOP. You can run a business(es) without being all in the media light, and she is also rich enough to take a year break. She’s still sitting on money from her sex tape 4 years ago.
I used to adore Kim Kardashian. Her hair, her style, her pretty face. But now, she’s completely gone. It seems like she’s trying way too hard to keep her name in everyone’s mouth. Shame on me for falling for the bait as well.
As I was gathering my thoughts to type this, it dawned on me. She has NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Here are the details of the disorder:
¹Symptoms of this disorder include, but are not limited to:
- Reacts to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation
- May take advantage of others to reach his or her own goal
- Tend to exaggerate their own importance, achievements, and talents
- Imagines unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance
- Requires constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
- Easily becomes jealous
- Lacks empathy and disregards the feelings of others
- Obsessed with oneself
- Mainly pursues selfish goals
- Trouble keeping healthy relationships
- Are easily hurt and rejected
- Set unreal goals
- Want “the best” of everything
- Appear as tough-minded or unemotional
Narcissists also tend to be physically attractive on first impression, giving them advantages when first meeting people.
The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder may seem similar to traits associated with strong self-esteem and confidence, but this is not the case. Narcissists have such an elevated sense of self-worth that they value themselves as inherently better than others. Yet, they have a fragile self-esteem and cannot handle criticism, instead putting other people down in order to validate themselves. People with healthy self-confidence do not have the same need to put themselves on a pedestal or to belittle others.
stop it.
- December 14, 2011
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- drama elimination
When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
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30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself:
- Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
- Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
- Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
- Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
- Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
- Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
- Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
- Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
- Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
- Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
you’re better than that.
- November 13, 2011
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- general
One of the best kept secrets in life is your confidence. However, somebody, somewhere tricked you into believing you’re not good enough. They told you that there were certain things you could not do because of who you were. Who you’re trying to be. Who you are. Someone else told you that only certain people could do or be the very thing you wanted to be and you did not fit the bill (ie: successful lawyer, famous actor, a great girlfriend, a good father, etc). You presented yourself & your goals to them & they turned you down and made you feel like you were not one of those people that can achieve those things. With a sleight-of-hand manipulation of facts, someone made you think you didn’t have what it takes, so they took it. Someone told you that you were slow, or lazy; too fat, too skinny; crazy or too quiet; or just flat out not good enough. How dare they? And you believed that? They done tricked you into believing what they wanted you to believe. They knew who you were and knew you had no idea…no idea that you could have placed a stop to everyone (or one individual) from convincing you that you’re just not good enough. You know better than that. Where’s your confidence? Your esteem? Your security? You gonna let them tell you what you’re capable of doing and achieving? I’m going to go ahead and guess that these same people are jealous of you. Filled with envy due to the fact that they were unable to fulfill their desires. So instead of encouraging someone else who has that chance or aspiration, they try their best to destroy the dream. Regardless of what anyone says, each of us brings to the world unique talents, gifts and abilities. Even if you don’t know what it is, or value what you do, someone, somewhere, will benefit from your presence. No one can do what you do exactly the way you do it. For every personal goal that I’ve tried to accomplish there was always at least one thing (or person) trying to get in my way. But I’m no fool. I looked beyond that and kept striving to succeed. The only way to get where you want to be is to do what needs to be done to get there. Regardless of what people say or think of you.
Regardless of what anyone says, each of us brings to the world unique talents, gifts and abilities. Even if you don’t know what it is, or value what you do, someone, somewhere, will benefit from your presence. No one can do what you do exactly the way you do it. So if she tells you you’re not good enough for her because of your “flaws”, so be it. If he tells you that you’re not “glamorous” enough for him, oh well. Always remember and never forget, you are just as unique and as valuable as the other. Confidence is all about knowing what you’re worth naturally. You don’t need a man/woman “reassuring” you everyday to feel like you’re worth it. Never allow anyone or anything to limit your mind because of your race, color, gender expression, style, fashion taste, work experience, non-existent college degrees or body type. Trust me…you’re not missing out on anything. It’s their loss. Not yours. When you do what you do, exactly the way you do it, someone will adore you just for that. Without reading all the fine print.
This blog was originally posted in April 2009.
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My name is Chanel and I love pink, tattoos and hair weaves. Mother of one, engaged, web designer, loves my cat Princess & my shihtzu Romeo. “Accomplish everything without fear” is one of my favorites quotes. I am not affiliated with nor do I support the illuminati.
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