single, celibacy, and cobwebs.

I'm one of those people that believe you're not supposed to die alone. Not supposed to die without companionship. Without love. I used to fake empower myself and make it seem like it's sooooo wonderful to be single and to be able to have sex with anyone I want. No. Being single is fun sometimes, but not all of the time. I don't ever believe people when they say "I love being single" "I'm fine with never getting married" "My pillow is better than a mate" In what world? My opinion: I think people that say these things are just putting up a guard. They don't want to appear sad, lonely, rejected or desperate. I have done a lot of soul searching lately and I have come to a conclusion. I am waiting until I am in a committed relationship before I decide to have sex again. I've done this a couple of years ago and it worked very well for me. I've been doing it for 6 months thus far. I'm waiting for ...

my prayer to God.

Lord, I lift up every one of my relationships to You and ask You to bless them. I pray that each one would be glorifying to You. Help me to choose my friends wisely so I won't be led astray. Give me discernment and strength to separate myself from anyone who is not a good influence. I release all my relationships to You and pray that Your will be done in each one of them. With my most difficult relationships, I ask that Your peace would reign in them. I know two can't walk together unless they agree, so help find a place of agreement, unity, and like-mindedness. Where either of us needs to change, I pray that You would change us. Break down any 'wall of separation' (Ephesians 2:13-13) or misunderstanding. I pray for my relationship with each of my family members. I pray You would bring healing, reconciliation, and restoration where it is needed. Bless our relationship and make it strong. I pray for any relationships I have with people who ...

another reality check to deposit.

Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn't have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends. Once you feel you are avoided by someone, never disturb them again. When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now. Friendships/relationships must be chosen wisely. ...

how to lose her.

This is how you lose her.¹ You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely. You must remember when she forgets. You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are ...

radical honesty

When it comes to relationships, I believe that honesty is always the best policy. Not merely remaining faithful. Not in the sense of being able to say that you never really lie to your partner. I’m talking about Radical Honesty; actually coming out and naming the elephants in the room so you can deal with them before they trample all over your relationship. This will improve your relationship. Radical Honesty requires that you speak your truth even when you feel sure that the other person won’t want to hear it. Radical Honesty means that you have to say how you really feel, especially when you believe that you could either avoid x or conversely make y happen by hiding these feelings from them. It is a commitment to authenticity that requires being true to yourself as much as being loyal to another. How long can you pretend to be someone else? If you lack an intrinsic sense of self-worth you may be tempted to censor yourself; to try to express yourself in terms of what would be ...

meeting emotional needs.

What is the element that almost guarantees the success and longevity of any relationship? It is fulfilling the emotional needs of our significant other. When we feel good and fulfilled in any relationship, it is because our emotional needs are being met, and when we feel empty and unfulfilled, it is because our emotional needs are not being met. Stop for a moment and think about your past relationships. Do you see a correlation between your happiness and the fulfillment of your emotional needs? Have you ever had the experience of finding yourself in the same relationship over and over again, despite how different your partners may have seemed at first glance? If you think about it, you will likely see a pattern that revolves around not getting one or more of your emotional needs met. If you look closer, these are probably the same needs that were left unfulfilled in your childhood. Could it be that you have been going from one relationship to the next in search of getting your needs met, ...

my love language.

My Love Language Personal Profile Scores 6 - Words of Affirmation 8 - Quality Time 8 - Receiving Gifts 6 - Acts of Service 2 - Physical Touch Interpreting Your Profile Score The highest score indicates your primary love language (the highest score is 12). It’s not uncommon to have two high scores, although one language does have a slight edge for most people. That just means two languages are important to you. The lower scores indicate those languages you seldom use to communicate love and which probably don’t affect you very much on an emotional level. Learn more about your primary love language and how to put it to use next to the corresponding badge below. Quality Time In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time ...