I used to adore Kim Kardashian. Her hair, her style, her pretty face. But now, she’s completely gone. It seems like she’s trying way too hard to keep her name in everyone’s mouth. Shame on me for falling for the bait as well.

As I was gathering my thoughts to type this, it dawned on me. She has NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).  Here are the details of the disorder:

¹Symptoms of this disorder include, but are not limited to:

• Reacts to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation
• May take advantage of others to reach his or her own goal
• Tend to exaggerate their own importance, achievements, and talents
• Imagines unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance
• Requires constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
• Easily becomes jealous
• Lacks empathy and disregards the feelings of others
• Obsessed with oneself
• Mainly pursues selfish goals
• Trouble keeping healthy relationships
• Are easily hurt and rejected
• Set unreal goals
• Want “the best” of everything
• Appear as tough-minded or unemotional

Narcissists also tend to be physically attractive on first impression, giving them advantages when first meeting people.

The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder may seem similar to traits associated with strong self-esteem and confidence, but this is not the case. Narcissists have such an elevated sense of self-worth that they value themselves as inherently better than others. Yet, they have a fragile self-esteem and cannot handle criticism, instead putting other people down in order to validate themselves. People with healthy self-confidence do not have the same need to put themselves on a pedestal or to belittle others.

Narcissists also tend to be physically attractive on first impression, giving them advantages when first meeting people.

The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder may seem similar to traits associated with strong self-esteem and confidence, but this is not the case. Narcissists have such an elevated sense of self-worth that they value themselves as inherently better than others. Yet, they have a fragile self-esteem and cannot handle criticism, instead putting other people down in order to validate themselves. People with healthy self-confidence do not have the same need to put themselves on a pedestal or to belittle others. [/end quote]

Check that out! While I don’t know this woman personally, the impression I’ve gotten from her the past 4 years of reality television, interviews and her own blog posts, this matches her personality exactly. This is why an already gorgeous woman felt the need to “enhance” looks to “look better”. She reminds me of those women with 36DDs saying that their boobs are too small. Or anorexic people looking in the mirror believing they are fat.

While I believe most of this family has some deep embedded issues, I think Kim is the first one that needs help. And sever medication.

¹ - Source: Wikipedia.

Some people have no clue when to grow up. I’m so tired of seeing the same people doing the same shit, 5 years later. When do people get a “clue” to be mature? After age 25? After your 3rd abortion? After your 8th attempt to trap a ball player? How can you clown a female for shopping at TJ Maxx, when your whole outfit is from ROSS? How can you call women ugly all day long on Twitter, when the one you chose to have a child with looks like an elbow? How can you be disgusted at gold diggers when you go to All-Star Weekend every year in hopes of meeting an NBA player? How can you call him a “faggot” for _____ (enter anything that normal men do) when all you do is kiss a male rapper’s ass online? How do you make fun of a married couple because they met on Twitter when you met your man (who doesn’t want to marry you) on AOL? How do you hate someone so much to the point where you desperately try to be like them all the time? Where do you find the time to stalk someone when you have a spouse, children, pets, Rihanna’s cd, a job? Why is she fake because she rocks a weave & too much make-up, yet you’re not fake because of your ass shots & false lashes?

I bet there’s a man somewhere saying that he wouldn’t fuck Beyonce because he doesn’t like her knees. I can also bet that he’s Black, ugly, shiftless, and wants us to believe that he’s hetero. Most of the popular Black men on Twitter ain’t worth shit. Prove me wrong, or fight me for telling the truth. I’m not talking about anyone in particular. Just take a look around. You will eventually notice an insecure pattern, in groups. If you think anything I said tonight applies to you, it does. Being negative is “trendy” now & you’re insecure & impressionable.

I’m honestly tired of seeing/reading so much unwarranted slander between men vs women, women vs women, gays vs heteros & etc. When in truth, the real battle should be yourself vs yourself. Because that’s where the true problem lies. Everyone dogged out Beyonce for years for not having a baby. Now that she is, she’s “faking it”, or “looking for attention”. No one knows how to be happy for others anymore. People to watch out for: When you’re miserable they love being around you, but as soon as you find happiness, they’re gone. Sounds backwards, I know. But there are people out there that feed off of your failures because it makes THEM feel better. Do you know how to congratulate/compliment someone without adding a “but”?

A lot of people agreed with the things that I’ve said, so I was very appreciative for the positive feedback. A female that looks like my vagina ended up calling me a “cunt” though.

What is it that make these woman keep going and going and going? Is it addictive? Is it the peer pressure in Hollywood? I just don’t understand why someone who’s already naturally beautiful, would go and take such a high risk at changing or destroying that look. It has to be some sort of deep embedded insecurity. It’s that same insecurity that will have them deny ever getting work done to their face or body.

Take Kim Kardashian for example. I used to love love love how she looked before. But now, she looks like a mannequin. She swears that she has never received any plastic surgery, never got work done on her face, and only tried Botox once. I beg to differ Kim.

1) “She doesn’t post body pictures, therefore she’s fat.”
When you take pictures of yourself, most of the time you’re focused on your face. Just because you don’t take a picture of something, doesn’t mean it’s of the negative. A lot of people believe it’s not necessary for everyone to see what they’re “working with” or to post pictures of their body parts. While the occasional party, hanging at the mall, karaoke pictures are posted, most people are not thinking about taking a picture to post online when they’re actually outside enjoying life.

2) “She’s photoshopped.”
Just because someone has great skin, or because they enhanced the brightness or contrast of an image, doesn’t necessarily means she’s “photshopped”. The baffling idea that someone would photoshop their nose smaller, or butt bigger is one thing, but to claim someone is photoshopped just because they’re actually attractive shows how insecure you are. Most pictures are taken by cellphones these days, which means the quality of the image doesn’t come out that great. Granted you have women that photoshop themselves beyond recognition, but most of the time, the pictures are just being touched up for better quality. People used to (still do actually) accused me of photoshopping. Of what…I don’t know. Truth be told, if I were to photoshop something, I’d erase these hereditary bags away. But I’ve learned to live with my flaw being that it’s a family trait. Now if I turned my bubbies from a 36D to a 36HHH, we got problems.

3) “Men that compliment women are gay.”
Wait a minute. I thought gay men don’t like women? Not regular men who are able to show a queen some respect. A man that shows women respect online is more than likely to be called a pansy than the one who sits around all day disrespecting women. I blame their insecurities and the fact that they’re unable to handle rejection. Or little dick syndrome.

4) “If you don’t post pictures of it, it doesn’t exist.”
Not everyone wants to show off their new car, son’s birthday outfit or engagement ring on the internet. Even though it’s 2011 and everyone post pictures of their birth control pills, there are still millions of people who still use a lot of discretion on the internet. I only like to share intimate things with the people I am intimate with. Privacy is the main reason you won’t catch me posting my child’s picture anywhere. I did it before on my website, but then a disrespectful comment rubbed me the wrong way & I never did it again. I don’t post pictures of my vagina, but you know I have one, right?

5) “He didn’t respond to you, he’s a punk!”
I’m not sure if you’re aware of this but, a lot of people don’t get online to indulge in internet beef. Sounds strange doesn’t it! Especially if it’s with someone you don’t even know. To argue everyday, with the same individuals that you don’t even share the same air with, is ridiculous & a waste of time. Ignore ignorance. Sometimes it takes some time for a person to realize that. I used to argue everyday on AOL. But that was when I was younger & immature. After awhile, it gets tired. Monotonous. It solves nothing. The person still doesn’t like you, they’re going to talk shit about you regardless, so why not just ignore them? Trust me, it worked for me. Put it like this, treat these people like a rat in a house 500 miles away. It doesn’t exist to you nor is it invading your personal space. Like the saying goes “Walking away doesn’t mean that you’re a quitter, it means that you are intelligent enough to know when to quit.”

The diagnosis: The internet is the easiest way for insecure people to cope with the struggles they’re having with their immediate lives, self-esteem and social issues. So they channel their hypocrisy & contradictions via social medias. It’s your job to recognize who these people are, and stay clear away from them.

“Sorry, you are not authorized to see this status.”

If you clicked on a link to someone’s tweet on Twitter and you get this message, that means you are blocked. More than likely, you have done something in the past for them to block you. More than likely, you are not fond of each other. More than likely, you kept @replying them with cheesy pick-up lines or lame catty comments. But why get upset when you find out someone has blocked you? People get carried away about being blocked. And trust me, don’t think it’s because they’re scared of you. No one is scared of you. You’re fucking annoying. There is a difference. Take being blocked like when a guy doesn’t call you after having sex. Or when a girl ignores you when you try to talk to her. Funny thing is, the people that complain so much about you blocking them, can’t stand your ass. They don’t find you funny, they hate the things you say and find you very offensive. So what’s the problem with that same person BLOCKING you from viewing those things that piss you off the most?

“That bitch blocked me. I hate her. She always tweeting about _____.” – Huh? I’m confused. If you dislike someone so much, why do you keep checking up on them? How do you know what they’re “always doing” if you’re not always checking up on them? I hate roaches. With a passion. But do you see me going into crack houses, looking underneath the sofas for them fuckers, just to watch them crawl around so I can complain about them? Hell no.

If someone blocks you, get over it and leave them alone. Move on. Let it go. Make a sandwich. Pick some fruit. Squeeze a blackhead. And for the love of Beyonce, quit refreshing their timeline and making subliminal tweets about what THEY are tweeting about. You damn BLOCKHEAD.

¹ Regular people who use the internet to post their thoughts and get feedback from random strangers and their fellow ass kissers.

Which is exactly what you are allowing these men do. Make decisions for you by not putting your foot down. If you are looking for a blue shirt, would you allow the sales associate to sell you a pink one? You speak your mind and you tell her exactly what you want. And if they don’t have it, you move on to the next store. That’s what we as women need to do with the men that does not meet our needs.  If you have to sit there and ask your sister, your co-worker, one of your guy friends on yahoo messenger, the cashier at McDonalds all these elaborate questions and tell them these scenarios just to see if he’s digging you, most likely he’s not. When a man’s into you,

you have to ask no questions about it. You’ll know it. You’ll feel it. You’ll see it. To be honest with you, there are no exquisite hidden ways to know if he’s into you. It all depends on his personality. If he’s a homebody but always wants to take you out to show you a good time, maybe he’s into you. If he’s not into being on the phone for more than 5 minutes, yet, you guys talk almost every night for over an hour, maybe he’s into you. The only way you will know for sure is just by asking him. If his answer isn’t so up to par to your standards, then you already know what to do next.

There are so many great mysteries about men that I have yet to solve & I’m quite sure there are men that are thinking the same thing about us women. I hate to sound cliche but, most men need to stop thinking with their dicks and more with their minds. Yeah, yeah, yeah…I know it’s been said over & over again but that statement is staying true in it’s form as of today. We get treated as objects most of the time; sitting there using games to get what they want. Or, they will throw all game out the window and straight up tell you that’s all they want. No thanks. I think I will take a rain check at a shot of AIDS. Then once they get what they want, just like that….they disappear like the wind. And you’ll never see it coming. It’s that damn manipulating. I have yet to understand what men really get out of that. I guess they feel like they’ve conquered something & their ego’s get a shitty boost? Would you want someone to do that to your mother or daughter? Do you feel more of a man after you blatantly disrespect a woman that you supposedly care about? If that’s how you show your “care” then I’m not sticking around to see what love’s like…

And that’s the kind of courage we all need to have within ourselves. Knowing when to say “I’ve had enough” or “What’s the status between you and I” and accept a straight up answer. Without that, you have nothing. You’ll always be wondering. You’ll always be asking Pam from up the street her opinion, instead of going straight to the source. If the asshole still cannot give you an answer, then leave him alone. Why play guessing games with your feelings? Don’t wait 5 years for an engagement ring. Don’t wait 10 years and 3 children later to get married. Don’t you realize you’re placing your life on hold for someone else to confirm that you are their everything?

So, after reading this book and discussing it with a female one night, then a male another night, then another male, then another male, then another male, then another male, I’ve come to see that it’s just for entertainment purposes. The percentage of the truth that this book does tell, are complete common sense. Ladies, please do not use this book as a BIBLE towards dating. All of the men I spoke to about this book, who all happened to be different in many ways, do not agree with anything the book says. There are times where a man is really too busy to go on a second date. There are times where a man has feelings for you, but is scared to express them. There are times where a man is scared to fall in love again. By all means, work it out. But not for no damn 6+ months for crying out loud!

Oh, one more thing. If a man tells you “I don’t like to approach women” or he kisses your hand before even knowing your name, that means he’s a stuck-up womanizing trick. Don’t fall into the trap!!!!

Titled: Ghetto. I took this back in May. The earrings say “I Love You”.

Titled: Sex. The things I’d do to this pretty ass man.

Titled: Hennessy. I think that’s self-explanatory.

Titled: Tears. Damn Aubrey, what happened?

Titled: Lazy Ho. Self-explanatory, lol.

Titled: Summer. I had so much fun that night. Peep the cheese.

Titled: Thanksgiving Weekend Bash. Ok, um the breasts. They are really not that big, I promise.

Anyways. Carry on with your regularly scheduled program. I’ve been pretty “tied up” lately. :whistle: