agree to disagree.

Humans, it seems, are wired for disagreements. These conflicts can be angry, awkward messes, or they can be civil exchanges of viewpoints that lead to better decisions at work and closer relationships at home. What makes the difference is usually not the issue at hand but how it is handled. Here, then, are the rules of engagement, followed by tips on how to speak your mind (to almost anyone). No bench-clearing brawls, no threats of secession, no backseat turf wars involved. The best ways to compromise, clear the air, and fight fair: 1. Pick your battles. You do not have to address every injustice or irritation that comes along. But it is a mistake to stay silent when an issue matters and the cost of silence is feeling bitter, resentful, or disconnected. 2. Understand the stakes. Even if you think that you know the other person’s issues, it can’t hurt to pose a direct question. Ask “What’s your real concern here?” Often, you’re not really voicing it. 3. Wait until you’re calm. When emotions run high, disagreements can turn personal, ...

the wrong way to tip.

A guy named Ikma works in a restaurant in Washington, DC. Apparently, an older couple from the “Bible Belt” decided to leave her this as a tip. Here’s Ikma’s thought progression: So, yeah. This is, most definitely, not an okay tip to leave, Bible belters and tract leavers. If you want to leave this AND leave them a tip for their exceptional service, then whatever floats your boat. But in all honesty, do you think that Jesus would have done something this shady and shitty? Tricking someone into thinking they were getting money, when in reality you were handing them a piece of meaningless paper, which in and of itself is essentially lying? Congratulations. You have accomplished the opposite of what you set out to do. The server now hates your religion even more than they maybe used to. I grew up around the rhetoric that if you were a Christian, that you needed to watch your actions because they speak louder than your words do. This kind of action shows that Christians ...

happiness.

The foundation of our happiness is to have a positive sense of self-value. This also guarantee success within ourselves. When we doubt ourselves and allow people to treat us less than our value, we become worthless. Regardless the level of your esteem and security, always remember that you’re unique and you have a gift to offer. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. If they do, they are just jealous because they never gotten the chance to know you and know what you’re about. Characteristics that they find as flaws, the next person will adore it. They will follow, monitor and even try to sabotage you just so their miserable ass can nitpick for something out of the ordinary. Let them continue. It means nothing to you & neither do they. You have an unique quality within yourself that they are lacking and instead of acknowledging that quality & giving credit when it’s due, they try their best to convince themselves (and possibly others) that you are the opposite & commence to bring you down. The ...

controlling your anger.

I'm not going to front. I was withholding a little bit of anger in my heart still from some events that occurred the past year, and has been searching for a way to let it go. Today I was finally taught a very good lesson on how to achieve that. A special guest speaker preached a powerful sermon today. His name is Pastor Jeremy Morton. Here are a few things I learned at church today. Nothing is accomplished by anger. Don't cast stones on Paula Deen & others because you're not supposed to compare yourself to other sinners. Who are you when you're stuck in traffic? Who are you when someone cuts in front of you? Who are you when your children act up? Who are you when you get fired? Who are you when your friend unfriends you on Facebook or unfollows you on Twitter? What makes your anger and sins any different than anyone else? What we allow to enter our minds & hearts will determine who we are. God wants us to ...