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so you call yourself a man?

Men say that women have too much problems and a lot of issues. We gossip, betray and ridicule each other behind our backs. “We’re our worse enemies”. We bicker over everything and trip over small things. Oh yeah, let’s not forget that we argue too much right? Oh no wait, we must be on our period. Well why does it seem like it’s mostly men who have all these troubles? This isn’t some current observation either. For the past few years I’ve noticed more & more men carrying themselves as if they have more estrogen then us. Engulfed in everyone’s business other than their own & suck their teeth when told to mind they damn business. Kissing their homeboys ass 24/7, while they roll their eyes when a female acknowledges them. Matter fact, they’re also starting to lack more and more respect for us women and they are taking over every last bit of the “traits” they claim we carry. They don’t want to work for their own anymore. They want us to pay for their dinners. They want us to help heal their emotional scars. They want us to drive them everywhere. They want us to give them all the affection while they asses just lay there. Is this like an epidemic or am I just being delusional? They whine and complain about how there are “no good women out there” yet when there’s one right in their face, they don’t know what to do with her.

Women know exactly what you desire & we satisfy your needs. We know how to play the role. We already established our independence. Our careers. Our finances. We know when to bring half to the table. We know how to support & comfort. We also nurture and raise your children. We pretty much don’t ask for much anymore but companionship. But what do we get in return? A first class offer of some of your dry ass flaccid dick. Matter fact, at this day and age, we’re lucky if we even get offered the dick, being that your boy’s probably sucking it as we speak…..

Don’t get me wrong & confuse this current blog as if I’m “man bashing”. I am not. I absolutely love real men who are not afraid to swallow their pride, push aside their egos & embrace a woman for what she represents, where she’s coming from, who she is & where she’s going. I am currently in a relationship with a strong man and he was not afraid to start a new life with me. I’m simply putting it out there about the men who are really little boys. Fronting like they got it all under control. I am capable of seeing right through you. Just because I smile in your face everyday doesn’t mean that I’m not on to you. That’s called being polite & avoiding conflict. You guys knows exactly how to prey on certain women. You seek & probe for a particular weakness & then you prey on it. This is how us women get caught up with these men.

Overall, it’s too easy for us to know when you’re full of shit. The truth will always prevail. Presenting yourself as if you got your shit together, but you don’t. Acting like you’re a grown ass man, but still living with your mother with a suitcase filled of excuses of why you’re still there. You wanna know why it’s so easy for us to move on? Well frankly, because being with you makes us feel like lesbians. If we wanted to date a woman we would go and get the real thing. Not some gender born man acting like a damn lady. You’re not as irresistible as you think you are, you’re not completely over her, your dick ain’t that big (matter fact it stinks) and you are not God’s gift (despite what you think). Reevaluate yourself and figure out what do you really have to offer a woman before you talk out the side of your neck. Quit wasting everyone’s time and start acting like a gentleman. You call yourself a “king”? Prove it. You’re only making yourself look worse by disrespecting us. We have come a long way and well deserve the same amount of respect and gratitude you do. Never mind what your ex-girlfriend did, how the video hos dress or what ignorant “advice” your mother gave you. What has she done to you to deserve the disrespect you have given her? That’s exactly what most of us women are asking today. And I have yet to find the answer to that question….

So before you fix your lip to call your queen a bitch (or some random negative adjective)….you better take a good look into that wide ass mirror you got in your bathroom dude. The term bitch is dripped all over you. You.

still single.

Excerpts from what I posted on my twitter tonight:

Being honest is getting me nowhere. If you carry yourself like a lady & produce great conversation that doesn’t include baby father drama, girlfriend gossip or material things, and you’re STILL getting the shitty results from these men, it is YOU? This is a serious question. What’s so hard about giving a deserving woman what she wants? Because the last woman fucked you over?

“You’re so beautiful, down to earth & I love your sense of humor. I’m so attracted to you. Let’s just fuck.” – HUH?

“You have a great spirit & I love kicking it with you. You just seem so carefree & loyal. Suck my dick?” – WAIT…

“I had a wonderful time with you last night & I loved kissing you. Let’s not speak anymore.” – WHAT?

Wholesome women need to get together and beat the shit out of “one night stand” bitches. They making it hard for us. I’m not going to sit here & act like being single is all peaches & cream. IT IS NOT. It’s fun to have all these men desire you & have your options to date whomever you like. Definition: temporary satisfactions. But when every month it’s someone different, because the last mother fucker didn’t act right, reality starts to set in. Is sex REALLY that important? Is it REALLY that serious? In a relationship, it is. But not while you’re just dating. What’s with the haste? What’s with the deceit? Why not go get a ho, instead of trying to conquer the classy career woman. Words & actions NEVER made me fuck. If I fucked you it was because I simply wanted to. Not because of persuasion.

NOTE TO SELF: Stand your ground. Remain celibate. Never compromise morals. Express wants/needs. Don’t look back. Be you.

And don’t feel you’re better than me because you’re currently fucking a man, with no real status. Your shit stinks too. Don’t feel you can’t take advice from me just because I’m single. I’m the main one who can detect an “ain’t shit nigga”. The men/women who stay talking down on single women are usually in fucked up relationships. Jealous because they’re STUCK. When have you ever seen a genuinely happy person throw their relationship status up in your face? Those people talk shit to you because they want to feel better about themselves & their own depleted commitments. Being in a relationship, being engaged, or being married doesn’t make you an expert or validates your opinions. That’s ignorant & close-minded as hell to retrieve info from one resource. You can get advice from both ends of the spectrum. Single people can give you insight about VARIOUS others. Committed people can give you advice about their significant other. Point is, everything that you hear, is about people you’ve had no dealings with. You still have to come up with your own conclusion. She’s telling you what happened with HER husband. He’s telling you what happened with HIS wife. What worked for them, may not work with you.

I am ready for love. I’m not afraid to say that. And I will never back down from that. I am patient & know how to take my time. I want companionship. Someone I can be vulnerable with. I want to need him. I want to dependent on him. I want to satisfy him. If you don’t express these things, and admit your desires, you’ll never get what you want. A close mouth don’t get fed. And if he doesn’t want to feed you, then why should you go hungry while he feast on everything you have on your plate?

Judge me.

unfair expectations.

Have you ever wondered why people always expect you to be a certain way or to do things better than everyone else? They make judgments about what you can do & just move on with their assumptions. I always wondered why people have so many unrealistic expectations of me. I guess I should take it as a compliment but it becomes a bit overwhelming at times. Usually, I’m expected to be strong and happy all the time. People seem to look at me and immediately believe I’ve never had a moment of weakness. As if, I’m not allowed to embrace my flaws and be human for once. Yes I make mistakes. Yes I cry. Yes there are times where I feel alone (not to be confused with being lonely). I have my battles and stress to overcome just like everyone else. My main goal is to always aim higher for happiness because life can’t be better until we are better. Some people dress up to hide their inner feelings of inadequacy. Some people underdress to cope with their self-esteem. I don’t limit myself nor my ability to be free and live free. I live everyday to my fullest and love everyone the way they deserve to be loved. Do not expect anything less. What I’ve learned that all of these “expectations” people tend to have just leads toward a lot of disappointments. I can’t be “everything” to everyone. I don’t have all of the answers. So don’t get bent out of shape when I’m unable to provide you with one.

boring I have done a lot & have been through a lot to get to where I am today. And my journey doesn’t stop. What pisses me off the most are these grown ass men with high demands of women, when they are barely bringing half to the table. How is it that you’re in the club, flashing jewelry & “popping bottles” when you’re behind on child support? You require your woman to cook for you when you’re still living at home with your mother? Talking about “I’m just here to help her out.” Please. Help her out with what? Running up her food & electric bills? How dare you state that you want an “independent woman” when you’re sharing an apartment with someone else? I would completely understand if you were a single parent & you have full custody of your child. But most of these men has no children. What’s your excuse?

This doesn’t apply to everyone either. I am referring to the ones who are about 27 & older. Some may say over 25, but let’s be honest here. A lot of people spend a few years trying to find themselves & what they want out of life. Usually, we figure at out after we get through the “party years”, ages 21 through 25. I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do with my life until I was 27 myself. But you best believe…even though some goals were not set, I didn’t have this high unrealistic standard set for the men in my life. I’m not going to demand a man to have his own place, if I didn’t have my own place. I’m not going to demand that a man have a degree, if I didn’t have my degree yet. Humble yourself. What can you bring to the table? Are you able to meet me in the middle?

One of the greatest downfalls people have is banking on the potential of someone else. We go through great lengths to understand what someone should do, could do, has the ability to do but is not doing. Expecting & assuming when you’re unable to fit the criteria yourself. It’s simply not fair. Take a look at yourself, see what you can offer, then make your “demands”. Especially if you’re blind to your own “shortcomings” that you demand so much from others.

so you call yourself a man?

still single.

unfair expectations.

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