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blue ivy carter.

chanel — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 19:07:35 +0000

Jay-Z’s song “Glory”: beautiful. The revelation that Beyonce had a miscarriage before is sad. Their baby crying at the end is also heart warming. I expected nothing less from a man of his stature. Lyrically, Jay-Z is relatable, swift, eloquent and deep. He’s my favorite rapper and I love it.

“Happy people are usually happy for other people.” – Cynthia Bailey, RHOA - Twitter

And of course, people have negative things to say about it. “Why did he make a song about her so soon and exploited her first cry to the world?” Wait. No one had a problem with Prince using the ultrasound of his baby’s heartbeat (which later died) for his song “Sex In The Summer”. No one had a problem with Stevie Wonder using his daughter Aisha’s cry when he did the song “Isn’t She Lovely”. But it’s considered “blasphemous” that Jay-Z used his own daughter’s cry for a song dedicated to her?

Sidenote: I remember when I purchased my first computer, my daughter was only 3 years old. I recorded her voice saying things like “Hi Mommy” and “Shutdown” and I used it for different sound effects the computer made when I selected certain operations.

I’m happy for Jay-Z and Beyonce. They’ve managed to avoid all of the scrutiny and negative energy to make their marriage work, and now bringing in a healthy baby girl into the world. I wish many more happiness and success to them!

Jay-Z’s new song “Glory” feat Blue Ivy Carter.

Jay-Z – Glory Lyrics
[Hook]
The most amazing feeling I feel
Words can’t describe the feeling, for real
Baby I paint the sky blue
My greatest creation was you, you: Glory

[Verse 1]
False alarms and false starts
All made better by the sound of your heart
All the pain of the last time
I prayed so hard it was the last time
Your mama said that you danced for her
Did you wiggle your hands for her?
Glory! Glory!
Glory! Sorry
Everything that I prayed for
God’s gift, I wish I woulda prayed more
God makes no mistakes, I made a few
Rough sledding here and there, but I made it through
I wreak havoc on the world
Get ready for part two
A younger, smarter, faster me
So a pinch of Hov, a whole glass of Bé

[Hook]

[Verse 2]
Your Grandpop died a nigga failure
Then he died of liver failure
Deep down he was a good man
Goddamn, I can’t deliver failure
Bad-ass lil Hov
Two years old, shopping on Savile Row
Wicked-ass lil B
Hard not to spoil you rotten, looking like little me
The most beautifulest thing in this world
Is daddy’s little girl
You don’t yet know what swag is but you was made in Paris
And Mama woke up the next day and shot her album package
Last time the miscarriage was so tragic
We was afraid you’d disappear, but nah, baby, you magic (voila)
So there you have it, shit happens
Just make sure the plane you on is bigger than your carry-on baggage
Everybody go through stuff
Life is a gift, love, open it up
You’re a child of destiny
You’re the child of my destiny
You’re my child with the child from Destiny’s Child
That’s a hell of a recipe
Glory! Glory!
Glory! Sorry

[Hook]

asia kidd.

chanel — Sun, 17 Apr 2011 22:53:00 +0000

People have asked why I don’t post pictures of my daughter on my site anymore. Well, she’s 12 now and I am very frightful of predators and hateful people that will steal her pictures and do whatever with them. She’s at an impressionable age of 12. Not to say that she’s easily influenced, because she’s certainly not, but it’s those that attack children on the internet. I’ve seen it way too many times where an individual will talk smack about your child, just because they don’t like you. It’s cowardice. 99.9999% of the time, the individual would never say those things to your face. I get hate email from time to time, and when I do, they always find the time to mention something vile about my daughter. It doesn’t bother me because a) they don’t know her and b) it’s a clear sign of the power I have over them. Nevertheless, it’s sad as hell. That’s why I refrain from doing it at all. Same with my boyfriend. He’s not into the online social community as much as I am. He only has one picture of himself on Facebook. So out of respect for him, I don’t post random pictures of him online either. There’s a fine line between privacy and exposure.

On to a lighter note, my daughter is going to be an artist! Her artistic alias is “Asia Kidd”. Isn’t that cute?! I’ve gotten her the basics (coloring pencils, sketch pads and a clipboard) so any other suggestions are welcomed. She learned via YouTube videos and is able to draw without any tutorials. Here’s my favorite out of the bunch:

asia kidd.

you’re the role model.

chanel — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:48:16 +0000

I’m becoming pretty tired with the media, society and even parents blaming the disruptive behavior of our youth on Hip-Hop. The influence hip-hop music make on our communities is way more on a positive scale than a negative scale. I’ve also noticed that when they interview random rappers over the radio and ask them how do they feel about it, they rarely state the obvious = We are not their parents. Point being, these parents need to stop pointing the finger at everyone else other than themselves when their children “fuck up”. A strong minded child will not succumb to the things that they see in these videos or hear in the songs. Once you’ve established a firm communication bond with your child and conduct yourself in a proper manner (especially in their presence) you will not have behavior problems. Granted, there are no 100% guarantees about that but I strongly believe a well-groomed child will not succumb to the negative way of life. I refuse to believe that they just decide to rebel against you due to what 50 Cent said on his last album. C’mon, get real. Rappers were not meant to be role models. They are storytellers. Fact or fiction. I don’t see cowboy movies or Nightmare on Elm Street getting the blame for crime. Or what about the 5, 6, 10 and 11 o’clock news? Look at all the crime they show on a daily basis. That’s the point of entertainment. To humor you. To charm you. To amuse you. The ability to speak your mind, in any form of art as possible. Why should any of that be censored because you are unable to be the true role model for your child?

People need to start owning up to their own personal mistakes, shortcomings or where they are in life. I guess it’s easier to place blame on another being other than yourself when things go wrong. When it comes down to your children, it’s non-acceptable. The way you carry yourself, your environment, how you eat, all the way down to how you speak to children is being absorbed by their conscience. You should be the only person that controls what they perceive out of life. And if not you, the next immediate family member/person in your life. Why chance it by leaving your child’s expected behavior at the hands of someone else? If you sit your child in front of the T.V. all day long for years, with no proper guidance or substance in your relationship, who’s actions do you think they’re going to follow then? Spend more time with your kid instead of the club, at “Keisha n dem”, or at big dick Robert’s house. And so what if your child idolizes That’s So Raven or Jay-Z. These celebrities are still human & are warranted to make mistakes and live their life the way THEY want to. Not how you feel they should because your child is watching them. They’re going to have premarital sex, get tattoos, smoke, party all the time, spend an obscene amount of money on bullshit, curse, take half naked pictures….you name it. Bottom line, whatever they damn please. Whether you like or not. It is not their duty to cater to your disliking. It’s not their responsibility to set standards for your kids. You are. Own up to them and quit pointing fingers.

asking for too much?

chanel — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 21:45:22 +0000

Am I asking for too much when I say I want my future husband to be financially endowed enough to be able to take care of his household in case I was to have his child? I’m not going to remain working if I decide to have another child. Also, sometime in my life, I’d like to place 100% focus on my education. Of course, because of my current career, I’m unable to do so. It’s only getting about 35% of my attention. So, with that being said, I would also like for my future husband to allow me to be able to go to school full-time. If you ask some men this question, they will most likely tell you those are unrealistic expectations. Then what is realistic? You & I both working everyday until retirement? Even though I was raised to be independent, I was also reminded that men are the providers. How can you label yourself as “the man of the house” , if your woman is out there working 40 hours a week as well? How can you label yourself as “the man of the house”, if your woman is paying half of the bills? Are you also expecting her to do the laundry, clean, cook, and have sex with you every night with no problems? Ha!

I believe society are becoming so used to seeing strong woman in demanding careers to the point where they find the thought of taking care of that same woman as blasphemy. I really doubt a man was raised on the premise that once he find the love of his life, his job is to make sure she wakes up on time to report to work. Men were raised to provide and protect their family. Does anyone still believe in the traditional family values where the man provides and the woman take care of the home? I understand if you both have not met your goals as yet and have decided to start a family together, however, the money is not looking right. Completely understandable. I understand if the woman does not want to stop working because her career is her passion. Completely understandable. What I don’t understand is the peace of mind a man can have with watching his wife bust her ass every morning at 5am getting the baby ready for daycare, because she has to be at work by 7am, yet, you’re not making any effort to make your current situation better. That’s bull. Weren’t you raised better than that?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for the career woman to also help provide for the home and etc. I’m only speaking in reference to once a new child is involved and/or educational goals are presented. To be honest with you, if my husband took part in supporting me throughout the years of pursuing my degree in Counseling Psychology, I would not mind supporting him once I receive my accolades. That’s what marriage is about. You give to one another. My thoughts and theories just further heighten my concerns about marriage and why people end up divorcing a year later. This is why I am so picky with whom I choose to commit to and build a new future with. A simple discussion like this, can change so much in a relationship and the outcome of it.

We, as women, have been lowering our standards far too long. Afraid of being “dumped” due to speaking our minds. Afraid of projecting what we want from our men. Afraid of telling that man, what we expect from him in the future. Afraid to simply say “Yes, I would love to be married someday.” because he’s afraid of commitments. I am not afraid to say that I have traditional expectations from my husband. What’s the point of spending the rest of your life with someone if they don’t meet your personal likings? When you speak on it, and they do not agree, then you have a lot of delegating to do in reference to you and your future with that man.