chanel. » expectations http://kisschanel.com Mon, 14 May 2012 18:55:37 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 unfair expectations. http://kisschanel.com/unfair-expectations/ http://kisschanel.com/unfair-expectations/#comments Sat, 05 Sep 2009 04:05:44 +0000 chanel http://kisschanel.com/?p=1209 Have you ever wondered why people always expect you to be a certain way or to do things better than everyone else? They make judgments about what you can do & just move on with their assumptions. I always wondered why people have so many unrealistic expectations of me. I guess I should take it as a compliment but it becomes a bit overwhelming at times. Usually, I’m expected to be strong and happy all the time. People seem to look at me and immediately believe I’ve never had a moment of weakness. As if, I’m not allowed to embrace my flaws and be human for once. Yes I make mistakes. Yes I cry. Yes there are times where I feel alone (not to be confused with being lonely). I have my battles and stress to overcome just like everyone else. My main goal is to always aim higher for happiness because life can’t be better until we are better. Some people dress up to hide their inner feelings of inadequacy. Some people underdress to cope with their self-esteem. I don’t limit myself nor my ability to be free and live free. I live everyday to my fullest and love everyone the way they deserve to be loved. Do not expect anything less. What I’ve learned that all of these “expectations” people tend to have just leads toward a lot of disappointments. I can’t be “everything” to everyone. I don’t have all of the answers. So don’t get bent out of shape when I’m unable to provide you with one.

boringI have done a lot & have been through a lot to get to where I am today. And my journey doesn’t stop. What pisses me off the most are these grown ass men with high demands of women, when they are barely bringing half to the table. How is it that you’re in the club, flashing jewelry & “popping bottles” when you’re behind on child support? You require your woman to cook for you when you’re still living at home with your mother? Talking about “I’m just here to help her out.” Please. Help her out with what? Running up her food & electric bills? How dare you state that you want an “independent woman” when you’re sharing an apartment with someone else? I would completely understand if you were a single parent & you have full custody of your child. But most of these men has no children. What’s your excuse?

This doesn’t apply to everyone either. I am referring to the ones who are about 27 & older. Some may say over 25, but let’s be honest here. A lot of people spend a few years trying to find themselves & what they want out of life. Usually, we figure at out after we get through the “party years”, ages 21 through 25. I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do with my life until I was 27 myself. But you best believe…even though some goals were not set, I didn’t have this high unrealistic standard set for the men in my life. I’m not going to demand a man to have his own place, if I didn’t have my own place. I’m not going to demand that a man have a degree, if I didn’t have my degree yet. Humble yourself. What can you bring to the table? Are you able to meet me in the middle?

One of the greatest downfalls people have is banking on the potential of someone else. We go through great lengths to understand what someone should do, could do, has the ability to do but is not doing. Expecting & assuming when you’re unable to fit the criteria yourself. It’s simply not fair. Take a look at yourself, see what you can offer, then make your “demands”. Especially if you’re blind to your own “shortcomings” that you demand so much from others.

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