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September 11, 2011
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Cyber Stalking- Stalking on the Internet

Recently there has been an emergence of a new kind of stalking, commonly referred to as cyber stalking, which simply means the use of the Internet, e-mail, or other online, electronic communication devices to stalk another person. Cyber stalking takes on many forms such as sending e-mail to the victim, impersonating the victim in chat rooms and e-mail messages, and spreading untruths in a chat room. The Internet is a very efficient and inexpensive way for cyber stalkers to intimidate, terrorize, and harm their victims while at the same time remaining anonymous.

The internet has made it way too easy for people to stalk you. Stalkers always claim they’re not stalking you, but is able to comment on everything you ever said or did on the internet. They’re able to quote what you tweeted. They’re able to find your old pictures. They’re able to find all of your friends that are online too and they start keeping up with them. They save your blogs, pictures and blood type. And here’s the hypocritical portion of everything: They get upset when they see that you found out about them & like to tell YOU that YOU have no life for checking up on THEM checking up on YOU (did I lose you there?). I will admit, I check on my stalkers from time to time. Why? So I can be kept abreast on the fact that they are still stalking me. Right now, I am aware of 5 people that are currently internet stalking me (I’m sure there’s more). But the only reason I know about these 5 is that at some point, each one have lost their cool & blew their cover by addressing me. One is dated as far back as 2002 but she’s slowed down immensely (at least I think). Another I believe started back in 2006, but she stalks a few other people as well so she stalks me whenever it’s my turn on her schedule. Then I have a bloated blogger from 2009 that started stalking me as soon as I rejected him. A self-proclaimed “doctor” that knows the first day my boyfriend and I met (from stalking my tweets). And last but not least, the one that’s been actively stalking me since 2004 & is still stalking me to date. She is able to tell when I am ovulating. Where do they find the time?

You what a stalker’s favorite rebuttal is: You’re a “nobody”. If I’m such a nobody then why are you keeping up with my nobody ass? “You’re a nobody!” – Yet they can name who you’re fucking, what school you went to, what club you go to, the model and year of the car you drive, saved 30 of your pictures, know what day your sister got married, know how many hours you worked this week. Sheesh. When do you brush your teeth? I mean, according to you, I have no life. I’m ugly, worthless and a nobody. So, judging by this concept, why are you concentrating on me so much? Who really sits at home and concentrate on a “nobody”?

Stalkers will also try to flip it on you and say you are the one stalking them. However, why is it that they will know a lot about you but you know nothing about them? And God forbid they get a hold of who you’re friends with and who are your enemies. They will try to befriend both ends of the stick. Mainly the enemies, so they can feel like what they’re doing is right and

karma is sugar.

Revenge sounds so sweet when you’re stronger, smarter and doing better than your enemy. You know you have all of the equipment for payback. You have the ability to make them feel like shit and to further show them how worthless they are. You have the perfect ammo. However, seeking revenge against someone who has done you wrong, is only going to make things. Just wait on their karma. It’ll catch up to them much better. Furthermore, nothing makes an enemy more sick than to watch you succeed. I used to be real big on revenge. If you do me wrong, I can do you wrong better. But then a miracle happened: I grew up. I realized that spending time on that negative energy will only bring negativity to your life. I’ve reached a point where if someone I cared about did me wrong, I’ll just let karma take it’s course. Because there’s no way to avoid it. It’s impossible to duck karma and believe that you will get away with the things that you’ve done. Just because I don’t retaliate over the things you’ve done to me, doesn’t mean you’re clear and free from any consequences. Shit is going to come back on you tenfold. Ever seen someone go through a slew of “bad luck” and is unable to recuperate? That’s not bad luck. That’s their karma. Bad luck is when you’re able to rise above it. To bring good from it and to strengthen from it. But to those that are being intentional with their malice, continue on being the hateful person that you are. That’s why no good will ever come to you. That’s why you lost your job. That’s why he cheated on you. That’s why she’s treating you like shit. That’s why you’re always losing money. That’s why you’re stuck in a miserable relationship. That’s why you’re losing your hair. Don’t blame it on luck…blame it on karma. Which is why I took the word “revenge” completely out of my existence. I don’t want guaranteed mishaps to interrupt my happy life. No ma’am.

Here are a few success quotes I live by:

Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom. ~ George Smith Patton

The man who has done his level best, and who is conscious that he has done
his best, is a success, even though the world may write him down as a
failure. ~ B.C. Forbes

Success: To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the
best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has
breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded! ~ Ralph
Waldo Emerson

tired.

Karma: It’s a major task to not seek revenge when someone do you wrong. But when that same person keeps testing you, it becomes hard to “turn the other cheek”. Where I’m from, we say fuck the other cheek. Seek justice. Don’t get me wrong. Karma has not failed me. Eventually, I will get an update on how a person who was vindictive towards me is doing, and 9 times out of 10 they are not doing okay. I smile whenever I get these updates. Not because I wish bad on people but because I am satisfied that karma finally catches up them. However, I’m tired of waiting that long for karma. And I want to take up matters in my own hands. Because I do it so well, and so much better. Recently I had a patient who was relentless in her attempt to get me fired. All because I wouldn’t give her what she wanted. Had I give her what she wanted, I would have jeopardized my job because it was against the rules. But not giving her what she wanted ended up in her trying to get me fired. You’re damned if you do, and you’re damned if you don’t. I thought about sneaking into the parking lot and giving this spoiled rich bitch a piece of my mind, and maybe a piece of my knuckles. But it was raining and I didn’t feel like getting my hair wet.

Taking someone for granted: People become too comfortable with you when you’re too nice. Then, when you decide to tell them about themselves, you’re not acting like “yourself”. Not entirely true. I am being myself. It’s just that I’ve remained nice for too long. I kept catering, and only catering, YOUR feelings. You keep fucking up, I keep forgiving and now you’re taking advantage of me. It stops today.

Cowardice: An example of cowardice is telling everyone how you really feel about a friend, except for the actual person. I’m the type of person that if I have an issue, I’m going to address it with you. Not with Tom. Not with Keisha. With YOU. These days, people don’t have the balls to tell you how they feel. They don’t have the loyalty to talk to you directly. These days, people aren’t able to handle confrontation, or constructive criticism. The world revolves around them. Everyone wants you “keep it 100%”, but when you do that, they don’t want to accept what’s handed to them. “Communicate with me”. Grant them their wish, next thing you know, YOU’RE the one with the “issue”. You’re the “delusional” one. “Girl, you’re tripping”. – No, I’m not tripping. You just can’t handle the truth. When all is said & done, you got nothing accomplished. You walk away feeling like things are unfinished and then the “friend” runs off to complain to OTHER people about you. Instead of just keeping it where it was: private. There’s a name for people like this that also falls under the category of cowardice: bitch. Also: Male bitch, female bitch, immature bitch, big bitch, lil bitch, insecure bitch, self-centered bitch, dumb bitch & stupid bitch. Everyone wants to be respected, without actually giving that respect. Well, you’re not going to get what you don’t deserve. Fuck you.

This week, I don’t know. I am exhausted. I feel like so many people have showed their true colors towards me. Either they’re jealous of what I have going for myself or they want a piece of my positivity because they’re too miserable to find happiness on their own. Well, I got news for you, I’m over it. I’m over getting riled up. I don’t have the energy for it anymore. From this day forward, I’m only going to focus on the positive.

i’m a fraud.

October 5, 2008
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commitment, consequences, dating, happiness, love, relationships, respect

So…I was reading some of my old posts and I can see that last year must have been my toughest year for love. Or lack thereof. Now that I look back on things, I most certainly know that in each relationship I have been in, I was in them for the wrong reasons. And the one that I gave most of my love to, was the one to hurt me the most. I allowed him to derail my emotions on so many levels. Notice, I didn’t sit here and say “he did this” or “he did that”. All of the signs where there but I refuse to see them. All the hints where there but I refused to follow them. All my friends told me better but I refuse to believe them. It’s funny how when it comes down to love, no one can tell you what to do but yourself. Someone can drill “he ain’t shit girl!” in your head everyday, all day…but you’ll never see it for yourself and leave him until YOU find that strength to do it yourself. Upon moving on, at least I am able to see the light and know when and where things went wrong. Times where I thought I was in love when i really wasn’t. The post I’m referring to is titled “I’m A Fraud”.

Yes…you read that right. I’m a fraud. I’m one of those people who talk so much about love, but is unable to determine it on her own. The ones that I’ve told “I love you” to, I never really loved them. At least, not the way I ought to. I was more in love with the fact that they loved me. I was infatuated with the way they cared for me. I lusted for them during the first month. But as time goes on, I started to lose that attraction. Then my patience starts to wear thin. By this time, I’ve gotten so used to being with this individual, I end up settling. Without even knowing that I have. Then that’s when it happens. Doubts. Doubts can break any bond you have with an individual. Do I really know this person? Is he really the one for me? Random thoughts start to surface my mind. Thoughts of who I wish he was more like. Thoughts of the good times I used to have with other men. Thoughts of the man that I believe to be, my ideal mate. Why I always find myself back in his arms? I don’t ever like to go backwards with relationships, but he always seem to be the exception in that rule. Like, no matter what we go through, we always end up back together. Like nothing ever happened. Is that what love is?…or is it something else? Is that healthy?…or is that self-destruction? Questions, questions, questions…that never seem to get answered…

I love you, but I’m not in love with you. I don’t think I ever was. You know who you are. And it’s more than one of you. I battle myself from time to time and try to figure out why I am like this. I’m quite sure I have broken many hearts due to my own selfishness & confusion on what love, for me, is. And I apologize for that. The biggest hint that lets me know that I don’t really love the person I am with is this: when they threaten to leave, I don’t object to them doing so. I’ll sit right on down, and watch them go. Do I cry? Nope. Does that make me an emotionless bitch? Nope. Just means that I didn’t care enough. I did, however, recall one time in my life where I did ask a man not to go. I actually fought for him not to leave. And he never left. The same man who holds that mysterious power over me. And you know what, I hold that same power over him. But why do we find ourselves apart every so often? Is that sign that we should leave each alone? Perhaps. So, if that’s the case, why do we always find each other again?

Right now in my life, I am overjoyed. My career, my financial status and my loved ones are kicking ass. I am definitely happy. But obviously…I am confused beyond natural belief. Confused as to why I feel this way and confused as to why I made the decisions that I have made this year. I have no clue what to do and it’s scaring me. Usually I’ll have a solution straight off the back when I’m presented with an ultimatum. But what do you do when the pros & cons weighs out pretty much the same in either commitment? The worst thing I can do is nothing. I want to do the right thing for me. I believe the decisions that I’ve made in the past week were the best for me right now. I swear decisions have so much power. They usually take me to the exact place I need to be, exactly when I need to get there. Maybe I should take some chances. Take some risks. Follow my heart. Since time and opportunity wait for no one, my life will not stand still until I figure out what to do. I’ve gotten so used to the way my life is, and how I handle “love”….I’m afraid to fall into it again.

I hope I’m doing the right thing…

Wow. Can you say “caught up”? I’m so glad I was able to experience those feelings because if not, I wouldn’t be so clear in what I want in a man, a relationship and love. I have such a strong embrace on love now, I take no shorts. Which is where I want to be. I feel sorry for those women that accept less than what they deserve or downplay the actions of a man. Fronting as if that’s what they want or that “it’s okay”. No it’s never okay to be treated less than what you’re worth. It’s never okay to remain somewhere when you’re not 100% happy. Even if it’s just a “sex” thing. Why give someone a coupon on your self-respect? If you allow to receive 50% of what you want, you’re giving people the legal right to only give you 50% of themselves. The neverending story you tell others as if things are how you want them to be are just a front. And you’re are only kidding yourself with those fraudelent storytales. Or maybe you’re trying to convince yourself. No matter what the circumstances are, we as women deserve to be treated how we represent ourselves. Unless you want to find yourself in a dead end relationship wth no real commitment to love.

It’s time to reflect on where you are and if that person deserves to be there with you. Love isn’t confusing. Lying to yourself is.

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My name is Chanel and I love pink, tattoos and hair weaves. Mother of one, engaged, web designer, loves my cat Princess & my shihtzu Romeo. “Accomplish everything without fear” is one of my favorites quotes. I am not affiliated with nor do I support the illuminati.

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