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knowing is beautiful.

May 3, 2009
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drama elimination, reality, thoughts
confidence, envy, jealousy, keep it moving, reality, society, strength

I know there are no guarantees in life. I know we need our struggles to appreciate any good that comes our way. I know looking in your eyes means so much more then a gentle touch. I know I’m not perfect. I know I’m addictive. I know society has contradictions. I know there are hypocritical people out there. I know karma get the best of us. I know the smooth taste of Hennessy soothes my temper. I know rainy days are gloomy yet electrifies intimacy. I know anything’s possible once you put your mind to it. I know it’s best to ignore ignorance. I know you see me ignoring you. I know I am happy, content & satisfied with my life. I know I am blessed with a beautiful daughter. I know some may dislike me. I know majority love me. I know I don’t care. I know unfortunate people are more grateful for what they have. I know money doesn’t make a man. I know a better body doesn’t make a woman. I know I am never threatened by you or anyone else. I know there’s something about your love that makes me weak. I know I am beautiful, naturally. I know you’re a jealous bitch. I know I’m argumentative. I know I have revolved my ways. I know being a black woman reflects so much more then a “nigger bitch”. I know I am the epitome of independence, strength, survival & control. I know music calms my nerves yet me makes yearn for love. I know he simple adores kissing these lips. I know who I am. I know you have no clue. I know you’re curious. I know you will never figure me out. I know you will never move me. I know the mind holds extreme power. I know money is the root of all evil. I know I may be difficult at times. I know I attract negativity. I know I will continue to protrude positivity. I know you hate me. I know, that you know, that I know, that you are aware…that I know. Trust me, I am knowing and I am informed. And knowing is beautiful.

Knowing is beautiful and doing is wise because actions speak louder than words. By our actions lies truth and nothing’s more beautiful than being true to yourself and others.

Knowing is beautiful and what’s even more beautiful is the woman who knows or at least realizes that she doesn’t have to try to be beautiful. She is beautiful all on her own, with no effort.

It’s impossible to love, while hating. Progress, while oppressing. Trying to promote unity within yourself yet tearing others down. How can you understand if you’re not listening? Withholding rational & logic but expect to be understood & respected? It’s simply impossible. You need to know that there’s only one path to follow = negative or positive. Either we accept what we believe in ourselves and keep it moving or allow others to convince us otherwise. If we love ourselves as the foundation as future growth for our own progress, we don’t need to worry about others hating us. Please know that if you’re that effective towards the world without even saying a word then know that you are phenomenal. Do not acknowledge the negativity. Enforce it into something positive and realize you are that important to even be thought about. In any way. Therefore you just learned one new thing about yourself. It’s much more rewarding to carry yourself with class, grace, & style when so much negativity is thrown your way. Turn your nose up and just ignore the ignorance. People who are unhappy with themselves put so much time into hating others, yet they wanna know everything about them. They judge you and crucify you for the things you have done in your life. Ironically, they have nerve to talk. Then they try to emulate you, befriend your friends, befriend your enemies, follow your life, try to figure out what you’re doing, who you’re doing, when you’re doing it, the whole nine yards. Almost like an obsession. When they are unable to accept the harsh cruel reality, which is their life, they commence to focus on the people they envy (you) and spread rumors about you. You know who you are. You know what you represent. You know what your life entails. You are untouchable.

And just by knowing…you become invincibly beautiful.

boost your confidence.

April 26, 2009
8 Comments
reality
aspiration, confidence, emotions, reality

One of the best kept secrets in life is your confidence. However, somebody, somewhere tricked you into believing you’re not good enough. They told you that there were certain things you could not do because of who you were, who you’re trying to be, and who you are. Someone else told you that only certain people could do or be the very thing you wanted to be and you did not fit the bill (ie: successful lawyer, famous actor, a great girlfriend, a good father, etc.). You presented yourself & your goals to them and they turned you down and made you feel like you were not one of those people that can achieve those things. With a sleight-of-hand manipulation of facts, someone made you think you didn’t have what it takes, so they took it. Someone told you that you were slow, or lazy; too fat, too skinny; too loud; too quiet; or just flat out not good enough. How dare they? And you believed that? They done tricked you into believing what they wanted you to believe. They knew who you were and knew you had no idea…….no idea that you could have placed a stop to everyone (or one individual) from convincing you that you’re just not good enough. You know better than that.

Where’s your confidence? Your esteem? Your security? You gonna let them tell you what you’re capable of doing and achieving? I’m going to go ahead and guess that these same people are jealous of you. Filled with envy due to the fact that they were unable to fulfill their desires. So instead of encouraging someone else who has that chance or aspiration, they try their best to destroy the dream. Regardless of what anyone says, each of us brings to the world unique talents, gifts and abilities. Even if you don’t know what it is, or value what you do, someone, somewhere, will benefit from your presence. No one can do what you do exactly the way you do it. So if she tells you you’re not good enough for her because of your “flaws” so be it. If he tells you that you’re not “glamorous” enough for him, oh the fuck well. Always remember and never forget, you are just as unique and as valuable as the other. Confidence is all about knowing what you’re worth naturally. You don’t need a man/woman “reassuring” you everyday to feel like you’re worth it. Never allow anyone or anything to limit your mind because of your race, color, gender expression, style, fashion taste, work experience, non-existent college degrees or body type. Trust me…you’re not missing out on anything. It’s their loss. Not yours. When you do what you do, exactly the way you do it, someone will adore you just for that. Without reading all the fine print.

Get a mirror, smile and commence being what you are. Who cares what people think? They’re all are jealous anyway. Please know that if you’re that effective towards the world without even saying a word then know that you are phenomenal. Do not acknowledge the negativity. Enforce it into something positive and realize you are that important to even be thought about. In any way. Therefore you just learned one new thing about yourself. It’s much more rewarding to carry yourself with class, grace, & style when so much negativity is thrown your way. Turn your nose up and just keep it moving. You know who you are. You know what you represent. You know what your life entails. You are untouchable. And just by knowing…you become invincibly confident.

feeling defeated.

March 8, 2009
7 Comments
reality
confidence, difficult situations, obstacles, reality, strength, success

Feeling down. Does anyone know what that may feel like? It’s like you buy a new outfit for a special date, just for your boyfriend to tell you the outfit is ugly. But you feel like that everyday. It’s almost as if you’re depressed but in a minor way. If you don’t feel good about yourself, and it’s hard to feel good about anything or anyone else. You see everything with a bad eye. You miss the value and worth of every experience. You limit yourself because you don’t feel good about who you are or what you do. You hold yourself back because you don’t believe what you want is worthwhile. You put yourself in situations that are either compromising, abusive or unproductive. You feel bad about yourself because of what you’ve done. The only way to get out of the cycle is to allow yourself to believe the world is waiting for who you are becoming. Age doesn’t play a factor. Nor does education. What you need to do is surround yourself with people that appreciates you & will welcome you simply for being who you are and not what they want you to be. Complaining about it isn’t going to make it any better. Do something about it. Life is about movement. Life is going to be a challenge. There will be rough times, difficult situations, major obstacles and forks in the road that will distract you from reaching your destination. There will be manipulative people that are envious of your accomplishments & people that will succumb to spreading rumors about you because they don’t have what it takes to reach your level…

Never give up on what you believe in. It really doesn’t matter how long it takes to reach your goal. As long as you have determination and motivation to get you there. Even love. The moment you give up on doing it, it will never get done. The moment you focus on the negative energy that’s trying to swing your way, you lose that power. With all your great accomplishments that’s going on in your life, why should you take notice to anything that’s trying to bring you down? Everything that we experience, everything we think, feel and do is in divine order. And if you just so happen to follow a path to do someone wrong, karma will catch up with you. You won’t be able to stop it from happening because that’s just how life is and sometimes we have to struggle through that. However, you can stop it from derailing your natural being. For me, my power of ignoring comes very handy at this point. Sometimes you tend to wonder why certain things happen. Why people can’t just think before they apply action. Do they know that unless you can benefit from it in the future, whatever they think, say or do to you will only make them look stupid? While all these games & charades are going on, there’s a strong being called reality that they have no clue about. And while they’re suffering from the lack of reality, everyone else around you are climbing to higher levels. These things happen because they are meant to strengthen our ability to handle anyone & anything at any given moment. It places you right back on track on who, when and what to trust. Everything that you go through happen the way they should, at the right time, to the right people, and ended the right way. The only job we have, is to know we are equipped to handle it. I know I’m equipped to handle just about anything because I am strong minded, experienced enough, independent, assertive and realistic. Are you?

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