Regardless of what anyone says, each of us brings to the world unique talents, gifts and abilities. Even if you don’t know what it is, or value what you do, someone, somewhere, will benefit from your presence. No one can do what you do exactly the way you do it. So if she tells you you’re not good enough for her because of your “flaws”, so be it. If he tells you that you’re not “glamorous” enough for him, oh well. Always remember and never forget, you are just as unique and as valuable as the other. Confidence is all about knowing what you’re worth naturally. You don’t need a man/woman “reassuring” you everyday to feel like you’re worth it. Never allow anyone or anything to limit your mind because of your race, color, gender expression, style, fashion taste, work experience, non-existent college degrees or body type. Trust me…you’re not missing out on anything. It’s their loss. Not yours. When you do what you do, exactly the way you do it, someone will adore you just for that. Without reading all the fine print.

This blog was originally posted in April 2009. 

I , for one, refuse to allow that happen to me. I wake up everyday just knowing that I am fabulous. No, I don’t think I’m better than you. No, I don’t think I’m prettier than you. And no, I am not vain. I am able to recognize that I have something valuable to give the world and no matter how many people wish I didn’t have so many talents that make me the person that I am today, they will never dim my light that shines from within. If you’re insecure or have low self-esteem, keep rehearsing that in your mind. Like I stated before, what you may find “wrong” within yourself, there’s someone out there that will embrace that and love you for you. Take no shorts, cut down on the compromising and never settle for less. Believe in who we are & what we do. Look up to & trust ourselves to make it through the difficulties just knowing that we can. We are the only ones who are responsible for building that self-confidence. Don’t do it for him. Don’t do it for her. Don’t try to prove them wrong. Don’t worry about their negative opinion. We’re all are equipped & capable of getting to where we want to be as long as we create a positive pattern of self-worth. Continue to believe you’re the best because you are the best. And no one, I mean no one…..can tell you otherwise.

Remember: Success and happiness is the best revenge. The more successful you get, the more people will try to bring you down.

No matter how many people wish I didn’t have so many talents that make me the person that I am today, they will never dim my light that shines from within.

If you’re insecure or have low self-esteem, keep rehearsing that in your mind. Like I’ve stated before, what you may find “wrong” within yourself, there’s someone out there that will embrace that and love you for you. Never allow anyone or anything to limit your mind because of your race, color, gender expression, style of fashion, work experience, non-existent college degrees or body type. Take no shorts, cut down on the compromising and never settle for less. Believe in who we are and what we do. Look up to and trust ourselves to make it through the difficulties just knowing that we can. Only we can truly appreciate and celebrate our own success. Don’t do it for him, don’t do it for her. Don’t try to prove them wrong. Don’t worry about their negative opinion (unless it’s asked for). We’re all are equipped and capable of getting to where we want to be as long as we create a positive pattern of self-worth.

Continue to believe you’re the best because you are the best. And no one, I mean no one…. can tell you otherwise.

Too many people have allowed themselves to remain in situations that are unproductive. As you mature, you outgrow interests, hobbies, habits and even people. The process of elimination works the best. Especially when you’ve exhausted all attempts to make it right. The more you stay in a negative situation, the more you need to start blaming yourself. All of this blame we place on everyone else for the things we’re unable to do for ourselves are becoming a bit tedious. Blah. If you ask me I think it’s all a crock of shit. I know for a fact that you know at least one person who was raised a certain way and exposed to certain things and have become the total opposite of what’s been instilled in their mind. Aren’t you one of those people?

If you have the desire to do something, then do it. You will feel much worse if you never did. Then you’ll be living your whole life wondering the “shoulda, coulda, woulda”. Sometimes, we reach a point where we can finally tolerate the downfalls of life, yet are unable to cease it or prevent it from happening again. The only way you will successfully end it all (the negativity, the disappointments, the frustrations) is to stand up for yourself, and stand up for what you believe in. Quit settling & start your search for what you truly deserve. More than likely, your stress is caused by you compromising yourself, to suit others or a particular situation. I know that’s what caused mine. And I’ve ended that cycle. For months I’ve been catering to certain people’s incapability of handling problems the right way, or even their own stress, only out of hope, respect & love. But where was my dignity? Where was my ability to take charge & do what’s right? May have took a few months to achieve that goal but guess what?…I’m here. And the goal was to be able to survive on my own.

There will be rough times, difficult situations, things to fall into & out of, major obstacles and forks in the road all through your mission. My mission is to allow people to feel how I am feeling by providing my story, followed up with my personal suggestive solution. The power I have to make people open their eyes and see what they couldn’t see before makes me happy on levels beyond my normal reach. I do it because I believe I can do it. I’m not ashamed to tell my stories about my past experiences, shortcomings & failed relationships. Flaws and all, as long as I am honest about who I am.

Finding your inner peace is better than peanut butter.

imperfections.

9:42am…
her bags under her eyes, squints, as she opens them.
he’s already looking at her, analyzing.
he notices the hint of brown sugar in her pupils…
the glow in her skin, which ricochets off of her natural oils.
he wipes her left brow with his fingertips, admiring the unknown scar…
she yawns.
he reaches over and lays his head on her stomach.
he finds comfort within her warm pouch.
listening to her soul during the rise and fall of her breathing.
he sighs.
she exhales.
as he looks up, he begins to caress her body
noticing the fade in the tattoo on her chest
touches it gently, reading the name.
he kisses it, followed by a glance, making eye contact.
she smiles.
parting her lips to explain the tattoo, he presses his finger against it.
mmm. she can taste his desire.
he pulls her on top of him…
positioning her body to where they are at eye level
her lips meet his. he devours her, as he tastes her morning essence.
his hands lingers towards past her back & she slightly shivers….
he pulls he face back, gently licking her upper lip.
she digresses.
as they rise, he steps a few feet away from her
she hurries to follow behind his shadow.
he turns around, alarmed at her sudden movements
she looks at him, with fear in her eyes, like an innocent child…
and then realizes.
he then grabs her hands, that were previously covering her body…
and bring them down.
he speaks…
“I capitalize your imperfections because they make you perfectly unique.”
and with that, he walks away. leaving her standing there…
flawed.
alone.
naked.
confident.
she loves….

Knowing is beautiful and doing is wise because actions speak louder than words. By our actions lies truth and nothing’s more beautiful than being true to yourself and others.

Knowing is beautiful and what’s even more beautiful is the woman who knows or at least realizes that she doesn’t have to try to be beautiful. She is beautiful all on her own, with no effort.

It’s impossible to love, while hating. Progress, while oppressing. Trying to promote unity within yourself yet tearing others down. How can you understand if you’re not listening? Withholding rational & logic but expect to be understood & respected? It’s simply impossible. You need to know that there’s only one path to follow = negative or positive. Either we accept what we believe in ourselves and keep it moving or allow others to convince us otherwise. If we love ourselves as the foundation as future growth for our own progress, we don’t need to worry about others hating us. Please know that if you’re that effective towards the world without even saying a word then know that you are phenomenal. Do not acknowledge the negativity. Enforce it into something positive and realize you are that important to even be thought about. In any way. Therefore you just learned one new thing about yourself. It’s much more rewarding to carry yourself with class, grace, & style when so much negativity is thrown your way. Turn your nose up and just ignore the ignorance. People who are unhappy with themselves put so much time into hating others, yet they wanna know everything about them. They judge you and crucify you for the things you have done in your life. Ironically, they have nerve to talk. Then they try to emulate you, befriend your friends, befriend your enemies, follow your life, try to figure out what you’re doing, who you’re doing, when you’re doing it, the whole nine yards. Almost like an obsession. When they are unable to accept the harsh cruel reality, which is their life, they commence to focus on the people they envy (you) and spread rumors about you. You know who you are. You know what you represent. You know what your life entails. You are untouchable.

And just by knowing…you become invincibly beautiful.

Where’s your confidence? Your esteem? Your security? You gonna let them tell you what you’re capable of doing and achieving? I’m going to go ahead and guess that these same people are jealous of you. Filled with envy due to the fact that they were unable to fulfill their desires. So instead of encouraging someone else who has that chance or aspiration, they try their best to destroy the dream. Regardless of what anyone says, each of us brings to the world unique talents, gifts and abilities. Even if you don’t know what it is, or value what you do, someone, somewhere, will benefit from your presence. No one can do what you do exactly the way you do it. So if she tells you you’re not good enough for her because of your “flaws” so be it. If he tells you that you’re not “glamorous” enough for him, oh the fuck well. Always remember and never forget, you are just as unique and as valuable as the other. Confidence is all about knowing what you’re worth naturally. You don’t need a man/woman “reassuring” you everyday to feel like you’re worth it. Never allow anyone or anything to limit your mind because of your race, color, gender expression, style, fashion taste, work experience, non-existent college degrees or body type. Trust me…you’re not missing out on anything. It’s their loss. Not yours. When you do what you do, exactly the way you do it, someone will adore you just for that. Without reading all the fine print.

Get a mirror, smile and commence being what you are. Who cares what people think? They’re all are jealous anyway. Please know that if you’re that effective towards the world without even saying a word then know that you are phenomenal. Do not acknowledge the negativity. Enforce it into something positive and realize you are that important to even be thought about. In any way. Therefore you just learned one new thing about yourself. It’s much more rewarding to carry yourself with class, grace, & style when so much negativity is thrown your way. Turn your nose up and just keep it moving. You know who you are. You know what you represent. You know what your life entails. You are untouchable. And just by knowing…you become invincibly confident.

Never give up on what you believe in. It really doesn’t matter how long it takes to reach your goal. As long as you have determination and motivation to get you there. Even love. The moment you give up on doing it, it will never get done. The moment you focus on the negative energy that’s trying to swing your way, you lose that power. With all your great accomplishments that’s going on in your life, why should you take notice to anything that’s trying to bring you down? Everything that we experience, everything we think, feel and do is in divine order. And if you just so happen to follow a path to do someone wrong, karma will catch up with you. You won’t be able to stop it from happening because that’s just how life is and sometimes we have to struggle through that. However, you can stop it from derailing your natural being. For me, my power of ignoring comes very handy at this point. Sometimes you tend to wonder why certain things happen. Why people can’t just think before they apply action. Do they know that unless you can benefit from it in the future, whatever they think, say or do to you will only make them look stupid? While all these games & charades are going on, there’s a strong being called reality that they have no clue about. And while they’re suffering from the lack of reality, everyone else around you are climbing to higher levels. These things happen because they are meant to strengthen our ability to handle anyone & anything at any given moment. It places you right back on track on who, when and what to trust. Everything that you go through happen the way they should, at the right time, to the right people, and ended the right way. The only job we have, is to know we are equipped to handle it. I know I’m equipped to handle just about anything because I am strong minded, experienced enough, independent, assertive and realistic. Are you?

If you allow me to.

I see you watching me walk. My redefined shape is driving you crazy. Gimme one second, I’ll pose for a picture. The confidence that I have in myself is such a turn on for you isn’t it? The fact that I carry myself with such class, and grace. Even when I’m having a bad day. My wide range of attire. The different ways that I style my hair. The subtle make-up I place on my eyes, bringing out more of the fierceness in my stare. You also admire the fact that I don’t look for hand outs. I don’t complain about the lackluster in our men today nor do I expect a man to take care of me. I can careless how much money you make or what kind of car you drive. That doesn’t benefit me the least bit. I take care of myself. Independence is a rare disease these days. And you’re ecstatic that I have that “abnormal” condition. I’m not looking for sugar daddy. I’m looking for someone who I can call “daddy“. Every night.

If you allow me to.

It’s time to take this to another level. My body is yearning for your touch. I want to explore your body while your mind is at ease. I want to kiss you. Just so I can a preview of what love taste like. I’m sure your bottom lip trembles when you watch me breathe. The way my chest goes in and out, as my breasts soothe my rising heart rate. You want to caress them don’t you? When I lay you down, you have no choice but to surrender your body to me. It’s called ecstasy. And from what you told me, I don’t think you’ve ever been exposed to that. Are you interested? I see us laying in the bed at night not speaking. We’re just being comfortable, enjoying our presence next to each other. As my fingers glide over each pressure point of your sexy stature, I can feel your pulse beat faster, and faster. Let me do all of the work. I am confident that once I’m on top, you’ll never regret it. And will become addicted. To this.

If you allow me to.

With all of this being said, you think you can handle me? I’ve had many in the past that were simply unable to. Whether it was their insecurity, lack of chemistry or negative prospects. As I stand in front of you, naked, baring my soul…are you channeling your eyes through my emotions or are you just staring in vain? I am aware of the fact that my seduction took a hold of your senses . I have the control now. I have persuaded you to do whatever I want. The enticing way I got you to let me in. In your mind. In your soul. In your heart. It was my selective way of speaking. The way I express my thoughts. And the way I carry myself. You try to fight it and as I continue to overpower you with all of myself, you cannot resist. You know what that is? You’ve falling for me. Ahhh. You didn’t realize that huh? Do you know what real love from a real woman feels like? Give me your hand and follow me. I can show you.

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