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what cons?

How do you start feeling better about yourself? There have been times in your life where you haven’t been on the positive side of the fence. You just had to get over a couple of bumps in the road. There was a time where I used to feel that way. I was so worried about the negative events that occurred during that time, I pushed everything else in the back burner. Forgetting about all of the great positive things I’ve achieved along the way. I mean, why spend so much time dwelling on something you won’t ever be able to change? It’s out of our reach. That’s the thing about the past. It’s supposed to remain there. Untouched. Sometimes I have to fall back and really catch myself before I start to complain. When you complain, all you’re doing is not taken notice and being grateful for what we do have. We’re giving too much to dwell on what we lack. I believe once we appreciate the greatness we have, just by having life and being one of the people that He choose to wake up that morning, we will be granted more blessings. I have so much to be thankful for. I have my wonderful daughter, a growing relationship with my boyfriend, a home to come to that I can call mine, a great career, a nice car, my bills are paid and I have good health. Forget about the cons and concentrate on continuing the pros. I have new-found motivation to further my life down different paths and I can’t wait to continue this journey.

Start counting your blessings and be grateful for what you have. Things could be a lot worse. You’ve already experienced “worse” and look where you are today. Did you ever find the time to thank someone for it? Because the same person you asked to help you get out of that strife, most likely was the same person who provided the solution for you. So many people go through life believing they’re being cheated or the world owes them something. No one owes you anything. You owe it to yourself because you chose & accepted what you receive. We create whatever we want in our lives. All you need is proper guidance and a perception to get there. You ever sit alone in your room and find yourself engulfed in a good book , or a good song, unplanned? That’s a perfect example of having a true peace of mind.

I feel so blessed & I am grateful for all that I have. How about you?

wednesday.

Today is Wednesday. And I am so happy where I am in my life right now. Last year this time I had different goals for myself. As each year goes by, my emotions and outlook about life & love vigorously changes. I used to be a mixture of emotions. Used to wait until a particular day/date before I decide to make the changes I need to make. Unsure if I am supposed to make those changes. But now my mind is clear about who I was, who I am and where I’m going. This ongoing battle that I used to have with my mind versus my heart was such an incredible power that it literally expanded whatever I touched. When I was faced with a challenge, obstacle or problem, my tendency was to cut it off. Now I nurture it. Now, through the process of elimination, I evaluate the situation first to see if it’s even worth my personal care. Our thinking process harbors the issue. Our hearts…well…simply tells us different. We talk about it, but we don’t come to a solution. We describe it vividly, but are unable to recognize it when it’s in our face. We monitor its progress day by day, imagining how much it’s growing & how it’s effects are devastating every aspect of our lives. Yet we still allow it to. You know what we’re doing? We’re giving it more value than it’s worth. We’re settling due to our selfishness. Where do we find that strength to stop it before we hurt ourselves? Why wait until New Years? Or your birthday?

Are you able to make the right long-term decisions instead of just living for today? I simple adore being embraced, appreciated & loved for the woman I am. And nothing’s better than being acknowledged of these things by your family, friends & significant other. But what do you do when it’s all coming from the right places at the wrong time? I’ve grown to notice that the most beautiful things happens at the most inconvenient times in our lives. It gets to the point where you have to pick, choose and then eliminate one of those inconveniences. We can think, speak and bring the best possible outcome into existence by focusing on where we’re going, not on where we think we are. Think about it…how far can you go living for today instead of catering to your future happiness? Best things happens to those who wait huh? I waited (for years) and everything is falling into place. Exactly where I want them to.

But what if you’re tired of waiting? What if you end up having faith into the number one thing you don’t believe in? They say everything happens for a reason right? Well maybe this time, you should go against the grain and just see what exactly is the reason why you continuously challenge yourself. Stop focusing on “what’s not there” & be grateful for what is.

Note to self: There’s nothing special about today. It’s not a Monday, nor is it my birthday. It’s not New Years, nor is this a resolution. If you want to make a change, start now.

love will find you.

We’re always looking for the perfect relationship but look for the wrong qualities to fulfill one. The goal is to find that perfect someone to who will make our lives better place to be, not a better place to look at. Love can be the sweetest thing but also can be bitter at the same time. I think someone need to really go through all the ups and downs of relationships to truly learn what love is about. I did realize a couple things about myself during my years of dating & trying to find “Mr. Right”: I needed a lot of fixing. Once I realized that, starting my process of becoming a better person, I found happiness within myself, without the aide of a man. Things that I thought mattered before, don’t matter to me now. The trials and tribulations that I’ve been through the past year have humbled me greatly. So, with this new found humbleness that I hone, came along people & things that I wouldn’t have noticed before.

We should never let someone tell us that we aren’t good enough, or that we have to change. When you love, you love hard. Unconditionally, without judgment. I put all of my energy in the people I love, and because of that, I won’t let anyone say I have to change. I’m still open minded and I always look at things both ways, so if I was wrong, I’m the kind of person who admits it and tries to correct my mistakes. People can still take advantage out of you and “steal” all your loving energy though. You ever moved on from someone & felt drained? That is exactly what they have done. They sucked up all of your greatness & used it for themselves. That is something we need to learn: Do not give your love to just anyone. Only to the persons who are willing to give that love back. If you really think about, it shouldn’t be hard at all to love someone. Loving someone isn’t a task. Loving someone isn’t about changing for them. It’s about changing for the better. Love isn’t about holding yourself back. Loving someone is about growth. It’s about starting a new life with that person. For a future that you’ve always dream about.

For years I’ve heard that you shouldn’t LOOK for love. It’ll come to you. I’ve heard so many stories from my married friends that when they first fell in love, they weren’t looking for it. It just happened. I’ve never believed that because I’m a go-getter & what go-getters do, is go for what they want. Not sit around & wait for it. Well, I believe it now. As soon as I stopped looking, love found me. Someone has learned to love me for me. Not for who I was. Not for who he thinks I should be. And not for all the superficial reasons that we use to mask our intentions. He witnessed and reviewed all of my flaws and has embraced them. He took my life history as “my story” and not as my “endured pain”. When I look into his eyes, I see myself. When I think about our chemistry, I see danger. Our beings, together bring out a force so powerful, that just thinking about his touch gives me goose bumps. It’s that serious. If I thought I knew love before, I was wrong. These feelings that I feel now, are beyond explainable. There are no words for how this man makes me feel. He entered my life right at the most positive turning point I have ever made with my emotions and myself. When I put myself out there, he was actually drawn to my inner exposure and not towards the skin that you can see with your bare eyes. Did I love him from day one? Who knows. But from the moment that he became significant in my life, I knew that there was not one day I wanted to live without this man.

what cons?

wednesday.

love will find you.

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