stay

I’m a visual person. So whenever I hear a song, most times it doesn’t move me until I see it depicted well in a video. That’s when I be like “Wow!”. This Rihanna “Stay” video (that I’m probably 8 weeks late on) gave me that feeling. I just seen for the first time last night and was deeply moved by it. Below is the video. I picked out certain parts of the lyrics that moved me and explained what they meant upon research and my own point of view as well. Sidenote: If I’m not mistaken, did she always have that scar on her lip? It’s to the far right. Because I never noticed it until now. And this video there’s a LOT of close ups of it, whilst she’s not wearing any lipstick. I went back to some of her video from before February 2009 and don’t see it at all. Hmm.

I threw my hands in the air said show me something. He said if you dare come a little closer.

She showed him that she was willing to be with him and give in to her emotions & he made it her choice of whether she was going to continue or not. But the ball is really in HIS court because he’s the one with the issues. Not her.

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Oh now tell me now tell me now tell me now you know.

She’s saying this destructive circle of the relationship is not working & she’s tired of the uncertainties and heartbreak of it all. She just wants to know if he’s sure he’s ready for this commitment, and if not: tell her now. So she can stop the cycle, end things & to move on. However, she does not completely want to go, and is conflicted.

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Not really sure how to feel about it. Something in the way you move. Makes me feel like I can’t live without you. And it takes me all the way. I want you to stay.

At this point, she completely letting this person know how far gone she is, how much she loves him, needs him, and can’t live without him. She’s not sure why she loves him so much, she just knows that she wants him to stay. You don’t ever want to give up on the one you love. Even when you know you should.

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Round and around and around and around we go.

They go through the same circle of emotions — happiness, bliss, arguments, tears, broken promises, disappointments, then right back to happiness. It’s overbearing now.

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The reason I hold on cause I need this hole gone.

They both holding on to each other so they can fill this hole in each other’s heart. The hole was most likely created from bad experiences in their childhood, or adulthood before they encountered each other.

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Funny you’re the broken one, but I’m the only one who needed saving.

This dysfunctional relationship exists because neither of them or only one of them will listen to the other’s problems. They assume that they are going through a harder time than the other, creating tension and an all around poor situation. In a good relationship, both sides are there for each other. But in this one, the broken one is too focused on pleasing himself, and places all of the blame on the one that’s actually trying to resolve the issues.

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Cause when you never see the light, it’s hard to know which one of us is caving.

When no one in a relationship wants to admit they are wrong about something, then both parts of this relationship are metaphorically in the dark. If you are in the dark then there is no light. Without light you can not see that one of you (or both of you depending on the situation) is wrong and that you both should stop the argument all together. In this case, he is wrong.