heart is filled with pastel colors and the delusional idea that everyone lives happily ever after. A girl can always dream. A woman makes her dreams come true.
Is it just me or is it that the people who gripe and complain about “being left alone” are the main ones who actually create the drama they’re currently in? Coming from someone with experience, the best way to handle it is to simply ignore the person. Don’t reply to their bullshit, don’t explain yourself, don’t try to validate your points, don’t try to prove anyone wrong. Just refrain from entertaining it and walk away. As cliche as it sounds, you have to ignore ignorance. All that energy you’re placing into acknowledging them is actually just fueling the fire even more. Personally, I wouldn’t want to keep looking at someone or try to be in their presence a lot if I don’t like them. If I don’t like you or how you look, I’m not going to visit your website all the time just to talk shit about you to others. What’s the point? What are you saying about yourself? They may laugh and “a tee hee” at you, but truth is…they find you foolish & immature. Let’s not fool ourselves here though…sometimes the shit is pure comedy. Especially rumors or assumptions people make about you. But only when you handle yourself well. So what if someone stole from you. So what if someone is passing around your nudes. So what if someone said you’re fat. So what if someone said you’re broke. So what if someone said your dick is little. Quit moaning about it over & over & over & over again and just make note of it. You have to learn how to deal with rumors and just brush them off instead of going 100% harder than the person that’s actually trying to ruin your reputation. You both look like a bunch of jackasses. All of the senseless back and forth, especially those are are part of the blog community. The relentless blogging about each other. More than likely, you’ve done something to that person for them to start fucking with you anyways. So, ever thought that maybe you deserved it?
I’ve learned to just really brush shit off if lately. Especially when someone has something untruthful to say about me. I simply keep it moving and continued doing what I do best….being me. Regardless of what I said or did, there will always be 2 outcomes = you either believe me or you don’t. So why even waste my time? Especially to frivolous insecure people who were dying to find a flaw or an error in my way, capitalize upon it, and then try to “rise” above me. Quit being so thirsty. Just goes to show that life must be really dull for them. I’m sure someone who dislikes me is reading this right now. Hi.
I’m not going to lie, it’s a bit disheartening if it’s someone that you used to be friends with. Or when you’ve reached the point where you have to say “enough is enough“. I guess as you go through life, and start to mature more, you tend to start letting people go. I’ve let a lot of people go this year, which happens to be the most I’ve ever done. However, I’m still at the happiest I’ve ever been in my life. Which lets me know about my inner strength. It just sucks the way things have to end. But don’t we all wish and hope that things “end” in a good way? How is that possible though? Because if it was so good, it wouldn’t have “ended”. And the only way I end things is if I was done wrong. When someone betrays me, I usually investigate why they did it in the first place. Then I insist on working on that problem. But if you’re not willing to cooperate, then I have no choice than to let you go.
It’s not my duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. The nature of their thinking is advanced or limited by their experiences with me. Or in better terms, lack thereof. In my presence, people have the opportunity to learn about me and, perhaps, to grow & love me. Some choose to take that route, while others decide to go against me. My only responsibility is the one towards myself, my life & my child. If you don’t choose to take my hand and walk these wars with me, then you weren’t worth it in the first place. Continue to judge me. Continue to take cheap shots. Continue to talk about me behind my back. Trust me, I am not pressed. Because no matter what, you will still be you, and I will still be Chanel. I will continuously aim for the top. The best. While you continue to wonder how I got there, glaring at me from the bottom.
Put more energy into bettering yourself, rather than worrying about & analyzing someone’s next move. Because all you’re doing is pointing all of their “so-called” flaws out when you are blind to your own. Just let it go boo-boo. You’ll feel much better once you get over it. I promise.
Cheers! :blog66:
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It’s kind of cool how I can read a blog everyday and take every single word into consideration in the real life. This is a nice blog, Chanel. :blogyj:
This has got to be one of the best blog entries I’ve read all week. Especially for the simple fact, I’m going through that same kinda mess now. I really don’t know why its so hard for people to walk away! Don’t get me wrong, someone wants to fight physically, and touches me first, then I will defend myself. But I’m usually woman enough to just walk away because there are other ways to settle things.
And what I really cant stand is how people always get mad when people talk about someone else, and yet you tag along to do the exact same thing. its so whack! Whats the point of judging other people. Hello, God made us all different for a reason. If we were all the same would we even have anything to really say to one another? I wouldnt think so…:duh:
Well I just want to say thnx for this blog! Someone had to say it. :blogyj: Good job girl.
I’ve learned the same thing. I just refuse to deal with immature people who only continue to be negative towards me. I’m always “out of the loop” because I’m just not worrying about what other people are doing. That may seem selfish to some, but to me that’s the best thing that anyone can do.
That’s funny because I’ve been out of the loop for a long time myself. I prefer it that way. Often times, I’ll get an email or a myspace message going “Hey girl you heard about so and so?!” and I’ll either ignore it or ask for them not to tell me anything. lol.
i couldn’t agree with you more. the more you reply at stupid ishh like that is the more stress it puts you in. while you at home worry about this that other person is probably having the time of their life. i think im experiencing this right now. my bestfriend has another bestfriend who knows nothing about me, only that my name is simone and for some reason doesn’t like me and while she’s making rude comments and such about me i’m just not getting the point. i dont even know the girl but im still not going to entertain her no matter what she does. it’s not hurting me, not one bit.
is your reg. site gone & changed to this one??
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I love this post. I’m behind you 100% with this. Being that Im 15 I had to learn this lesson the HARD way. And the funny thing about it is that even though the person started with you, if you keep arguing and fighting with them, people are going to blame YOU for all of the drama. Just let them be ignorant.
True indeed. You’ve always seemed pretty mature for your age. I’m starting to get a good knack at this “avoiding conflict” thing I’ve been trying out the past few months. :bloguuu:
I haven’t had anything too dramatic happen to me. I’ve learnt very young to just walk away from it, and I felt first hand what the fire burnt and so I don’t entertain that kind of behavior anymore. If it’s their prerogative, then our roads are not meant to be walked together.
people like drama, and theyre always gonna drown themselves in drama…thats what they are used to and thats what theyre made of. Its just best to cut ppl off and stay away from that annoying nonsense… that is sooo not even highschool..more like middle school! great fucking blog. :blogyyy:
Attention whores are usually the worse ones. Always picking a fight with someone (particularly a popular person) so they can always remain relevant somehow. And/or because they are jealous.
“Is it just me or is it that the people who gripe and complain about “being left alone” are the main ones who actually create the drama they’re currently in?”
Misery loves company, don’tcha know? I have a friend who constantly complains about everything, and no matter what I’m going through, hers is 10x worse -ALWAYS-.
It’s like they don’t want to be happy.
Love your post Chanel (even Twittered it!).
I pride myself into NOT letting things get to me and forgetting about drama. I never let anyone bring me down… I live for myself and not their bullshit and drama.
I am sooo waiting on ‘that one person’ bold enough to reply to this message cause you know it’s coming soon!
:love: I remember you telling me this like two years ago. I didn’t listen. LOL But a couple of months ago, I finally got fed up and said fuck it. I walked away from it all. I would still get emails with “Such and such did this..” and “Girl guess who is beefin now” and I just simply ignored it. I am so done with that chapter of my life. You’re right – either you’re going to believe me or you’re not. But I don’t plan on meeting these girls offline, so it doesn’t matter what they think of me. As of right now, I have no drama. Thank god. I have always admired your words/blogs…
Wow, Chanel, you have made a lot of good points in this entry. Here’s a thought that came to me while reading this entry — I have had a lot of people who I thought were my friends talked sh*t about me to other people. I mean, if there is something that they don’t like about me, then why not say it to my face? People love spreading nasty rumours to other people just to make them feel good. Personally, I hate when people I know talk bad about other people. I tell them not to tell me, but to tell them ’cause I’d rather not hear it. Also when I hear something bad about others, I don’t let that influence what I think about that person. I want to find out for myself what kind of person they really are instead of listening to other people… most of them are untruthful anyways.
Enjoyed the post and it is really well-written.