Comments on: look in the mirror. http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/ Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:01:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: nadiyah http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-200 nadiyah Sun, 19 Oct 2008 03:48:23 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-200 I use to come across so many guys that would preach to me about what they have before the first greeting came out. I never really understood why they wanted to tell me what car they drove, how much they make am hour, and how much money they spend in a week. I later understood why they did this because my cousin acted like she needed any and every guy that recited these lines.. just to find her "soul". I can care less what car they drive because it isn't my shit... what should I get excited her. Many of those same individuals that expect more than gold in a relationship deserves to be by themselves because they are literally being selfish. Of course they won't see it because they think of it as "knowing what they want". That's like me saying I only date Hispanic men. It's not fair because I'm limiting myself and putting certain people on a higher shelf than the rest. One day when they're alone, they're figure this out and change their thoughts about love and life. I use to come across so many guys that would preach to me about what they have before the first greeting came out. I never really understood why they wanted to tell me what car they drove, how much they make am hour, and how much money they spend in a week. I later understood why they did this because my cousin acted like she needed any and every guy that recited these lines.. just to find her “soul”. I can care less what car they drive because it isn’t my shit… what should I get excited her.

Many of those same individuals that expect more than gold in a relationship deserves to be by themselves because they are literally being selfish. Of course they won’t see it because they think of it as “knowing what they want”. That’s like me saying I only date Hispanic men. It’s not fair because I’m limiting myself and putting certain people on a higher shelf than the rest. One day when they’re alone, they’re figure this out and change their thoughts about love and life.

]]> By: aileen http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-198 aileen Thu, 16 Oct 2008 10:56:02 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-198 this is quite an eye-opener! :pray: I believe its not what a man has materially that ought to attract a woman but what he CAN have. Us, girls should learn to see what a man CAN become. :blogyj: this is quite an eye-opener! :pray: I believe its not what a man has materially that ought to attract a woman but what he CAN have. Us, girls should learn to see what a man CAN become. :blogyj:

]]> By: Charity http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-197 Charity Thu, 16 Oct 2008 03:07:28 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-197 I think there is a fine line between setting standards for a mate and making demands. Standards should not really include what kind of car he drives or even how much money he has. How a man is going to treat you is of way greater importance than how flashy his possessions are. I think it's fine to have a standard as far as personality, but the rest is simple selfishness. I think there is a fine line between setting standards for a mate and making demands. Standards should not really include what kind of car he drives or even how much money he has. How a man is going to treat you is of way greater importance than how flashy his possessions are. I think it’s fine to have a standard as far as personality, but the rest is simple selfishness.

]]> By: Shannon http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-196 Shannon Thu, 16 Oct 2008 02:53:12 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-196 I've always believed that if a man is doing good for himself or trying to get himself together in life, then he is good with me. There are successful men out here with nice cars and lots of money who will treat you like crap. Some women can deal with that, but I can't. I'd much rather be with someone who is doing good enough where he's taking care of business and treats me good, than someone who has a nice car and money and treats me like crap. I’ve always believed that if a man is doing good for himself or trying to get himself together in life, then he is good with me. There are successful men out here with nice cars and lots of money who will treat you like crap. Some women can deal with that, but I can’t. I’d much rather be with someone who is doing good enough where he’s taking care of business and treats me good, than someone who has a nice car and money and treats me like crap.

]]> By: Miss April Joy http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-193 Miss April Joy Tue, 14 Oct 2008 20:07:09 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-193 I completely agree. No one is perfect including ourselves I completely agree. No one is perfect including ourselves

]]> By: Miss April Joy http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-192 Miss April Joy Tue, 14 Oct 2008 20:06:15 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-192 This is so true. I actually heard a girl say that in order for a man to be with her he had to "double" everything that she had. For example if she has one car he needs two, if she has 3000 in the bank he needs 6k or more and just nonsense. Needless to say this chic is still single. You can have expectations but at the same time you have to be desirable as well. I love the look in the mirror title because its exactly what alot of people need to do, get off their pedestal, and turning down a chance of being with a good man just because he doesn't have the nicest car or making six figures at the age of 23 This is so true. I actually heard a girl say that in order for a man to be with her he had to “double” everything that she had. For example if she has one car he needs two, if she has 3000 in the bank he needs 6k or more and just nonsense. Needless to say this chic is still single. You can have expectations but at the same time you have to be desirable as well. I love the look in the mirror title because its exactly what alot of people need to do, get off their pedestal, and turning down a chance of being with a good man just because he doesn’t have the nicest car or making six figures at the age of 23

]]> By: Mellow Nee http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-189 Mellow Nee Tue, 14 Oct 2008 02:42:28 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-189 MAN ain't that the truth! MAN ain’t that the truth!

]]> By: alexis belon http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-187 alexis belon Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:27:16 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-187 that's crazy, i never thought about it this way. like i've always had standards (as you know) but they never involved a degree, divorce, children or money. i've always just wanted a man open-minded and intellectually on the same level as me. i couldn't fall in love otherwise. idk what makes people think they're above another person. smfh. that’s crazy, i never thought about it this way. like i’ve always had standards (as you know) but they never involved a degree, divorce, children or money. i’ve always just wanted a man open-minded and intellectually on the same level as me. i couldn’t fall in love otherwise. idk what makes people think they’re above another person. smfh.

]]> By: Tosha http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-186 Tosha Mon, 13 Oct 2008 18:53:16 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-186 I agree with you 1000% and have often preached the same sermon to many women that I know. Standards are one thing, but unrealistic expectations of someone are another. So many women are classifying a good man based on WHAT HE HAS, rather than WHO HE IS?! It's like putting out a message that it's ok for a man to have ZERO integrity, no spiritual grounding and no respect as long as he has a job, a degree and a nice car or home of his own. I like to start underneath all those things. I need something to sustain me because a man that comes with all those material possessions had them before he met me, therefore, they are not my things, nor would I be entitled to them. Ladies and gentleman better wake up! All that glitters is not gold! Good post! I agree with you 1000% and have often preached the same sermon to many women that I know. Standards are one thing, but unrealistic expectations of someone are another. So many women are classifying a good man based on WHAT HE HAS, rather than WHO HE IS?!

It’s like putting out a message that it’s ok for a man to have ZERO integrity, no spiritual grounding and no respect as long as he has a job, a degree and a nice car or home of his own. I like to start underneath all those things. I need something to sustain me because a man that comes with all those material possessions had them before he met me, therefore, they are not my things, nor would I be entitled to them.

Ladies and gentleman better wake up! All that glitters is not gold! Good post!

]]> By: Angel http://kisschanel.com/look-in-the-mirror/#comment-185 Angel Mon, 13 Oct 2008 01:53:17 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=274#comment-185 I think the problem is that people mistake "standards" for "demands." Standards should usually apply in the the ethical sense. How a person carries themselves, how one views the world, or how they view you/others. I think the problem is that people mistake “standards” for “demands.” Standards should usually apply in the the ethical sense. How a person carries themselves, how one views the world, or how they view you/others.

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