Life is going to be a challenge. There will be rough times, difficult situations, major obstacles and forks in the road that will distract you from reaching your destination. There will be manipulative people that are envious of your accomplishments & people that will succumb to spreading rumors about you because they don’t have what it takes to reach your level. For every personal goal that I’ve tried to accomplish there was always at least one thing (or one person) trying to get in my way. But I’m no fool. I looked beyond that and kept striving to succeed. Granted not everything I started I finished, but I gave it my best while I was active in it. The only way to get where you want to be is to do what needs to be done to get there. Now that you know what to expect, prepare yourself. Never give up on what you believe in. It really doesn’t matter how long it takes to reach your goal. As long as you have determination and motivation to get you there. The moment you give up on doing it, it will never get done.
Everything that we experience, everything we think, feel and do is in divine order and if it’s in a path to do someone wrong, karma will catch up with you. Life is fabulous. I refuse to allow anything or anyone shit on my parade. I wish I would allow any sort of drama, stress, disappointments and betrayal get the best of me anymore. I can’t stop it from happening because that’s just how life is and sometimes we have to struggle through that, however, I can stop it from derailing my natural being. My power of ignoring comes very handy at this point. But sometimes you tend to wonder why certain things happen. Why people can’t just think before they apply action. Do they know that unless you can benefit from it in the future, whatever they think, say or do to you will only make them look stupid? Me? I can give a remote fuck what’s being said about me amongst juvenile individuals because they serve no purpose in my life. While all these games, charades & senseless rumors are going on there’s a strong being called reality that you have no clue about. And while you’re suffering from the lack of reality, everyone else around you are climbing to higher levels. My reality does not involve any of you. I don’t do things in life to impress anyone but myself. I don’t go through great lengths just to prove anyone wrong. That’s for young minded people with low self-esteem and insecurity problems.
As an adult with 29 years of knowledge, I refuse to carry myself as a predictable woman with no standards or morals. I have enough experience to know why things happen and why people act the way they do. I’m not even going to ponder on why certain things happen. I already know the answer to that and it’s very very sad. But in general, they happen because they are meant to strengthen our ability to handle anyone & anything at any given moment. It happens to put you right back on track on who, when and what to trust. Everything that you go through happen the way they should, at the right time, to the right people, and ended the right way. The only job we have, is to know we are equipped to handle it. I know I’m equipped to handle just about anything because I am strong minded, experienced enough, independent, assertive and realistic.
Are you?
Random Thoughts:
1 – Annoyance. Please tell me who was the super-size geek that created the robot phone operator? This has got to be the most annoying invention of mankind. You call your cellphone company & the first 17 minutes is spent yelling into the phone & you haven’t even reached a rep yet. Why am I fighting with a prerecorded voice? You are literally arguing with a machine that you said BILLING and not SALES. No matter how many times I say “operator”, the stupid bitch keep saying “Okay, before I connect you, please tell me what is the problem?”. The problem is YOU, for pete’s sake. I always end up yelling “CUSTOMER SERVICE!” or vigorously pressing “0″ so I can get a live operator. When will these companies realize it’s much more annoying and time consuming than keying in the options through your phone?
2 – Gross. Do I really want a man to refer to me as a “Bust It Baby”? Ya’ll do know the song is about being a woman with extraordinary carnal abilities. No thanks. I already know I’m good. I’d like to be remembered and referred to for my fantastic yarning skills.
3 – Redundancy. Why send me a message on Myspace, asking me the same questions I’ve answered all over my page? You send a friend request, I accept you, then you go back to my page, just to send me a message to ask “Where are you from?” or “How old are you?”. That tells me that all you did was look at my pictures.
4 – Speaking of Myspace, if you don’t have an actual contract, you’re not a model or a recording artist. Spare me with your jobless ass.
5 – Racists. Please don’t take your hostility out on me because Obama won. I didn’t take my hostility out of you when all of the other 43 presidents won.
6 – Please keep your bad ass children at home. I refuse to feast at PF Changs next to a 4 year old crying over not having mayonaisse.
7 - Now that gas is finally back to $1.90, what are you going to do with the extra $50 you saved on filling your tank?
8 – When did not being a gentleman became cool?
9 – Excuse me miss, but why are you the one pumping gas when there’s a grown ass man in your passenger seat?
10 – You don’t have to like it. Because there’s someone out there who loves it. Remember that.
By Josh Maxwell, November 16, 2008 at 1:31 am
Hi. I read a few of your other posts and wanted to know if you would be interested in exchanging blogroll links?
By chanel, November 16, 2008 at 5:23 pm
Sure. :blog6:
By Nyla, November 16, 2008 at 10:02 am
I agree with you about the racism going on now that Obama won. You would think it would be the opposite. I was really bothered by that story about the gays fighting with blacks and latinos who voted against gay marriage. It’s as if they thought there was a deal between blacks, latinos and gays, that if the gays voted for Obama, the blacks and latinos HAD to vote for gay marriage.
I am very happy that Obama won, but I am scared that now there will be more racism against minorities, especially blacks, and that nothing will be done about it. I read a story about a black guy in New York who was beat down by a group of whites who were shouting Obama as the guy was beaten down. The police didn’t consider this a hate crime just because it happened the day before or two days before Obama was elected president, although they were still shouting Obama…..
By alexis b., November 16, 2008 at 6:35 pm
i’ve cut a few ‘friends’ off since obama won. it’s retarded to see all the racist suddenly come out the woodwork. and when asked whether they hate him solely because he’s black, they lash out with a ‘don’t act like thats not why you voted for him’. yes, all 13 % of us voted for him because he’s black and he won :\ clearly we needed votes from all the other races for him to win but i guess they’re voting because he’s black too. yes, him being the first black president means something to me but it isn’t the REASON i support him.
lol; your random thoughts on myspace remind me of my myspace pet peeves on blog.
-dead @ number nine.
By Fade to Black, November 16, 2008 at 9:57 pm
Yes, this whole Plies business is starting to work my nerves. Between “Excuse my hands” and “Bust it Baby,” I’m about to vomit in the back of my throat! Oh, and let’s not forget the coonish “Shawty” that’s suppose to be a ridiculous ode to ride or die chicks in the “hood.” Someone spare me.
And Myspace “artists?” Yeah, let’s just say I select “all” and deny friend requests using one click of the mouse.
And all the racists who have since surfaced due to the election results. I don’t understand why you are upset– matter of fact, i don’t care why you are upset. 60 percent of the votes for Obama came from Whites while 35% came from blacks– what is there to have a pissy fit about? Oh, that’s right, I don’t care…
But yeah, good stuff.
By Aoki, November 16, 2008 at 10:37 pm
Me personally, I already knew that there was going to be some tension rising when Obama got elected into office. So the whole racism thing is not really a huge shocker to me. But the way our community is acting is a shocker to me. On myspace, many people posted comments like “there’s a nigga in the office so all yall crackers sit down” and “blacks finally finna take over” I was disappointed because we should all be trying to unite as one being that there is a colored man overseeing our country, therefore we should all believe that we all finally becoming one. But our own culture is downtalking other cultures… it hurted me to see those comments being posted and of course I acknowledged them. And many people got mad at me, but hey you cant say ignorant things. And you DEFINITELY shouldnt refer to Obama as a nigga…
By Miss April Joy, November 17, 2008 at 1:43 am
:pray: I think the same thing of these Myspace “artists” and “models”, just because you are on myspace with your photos taken from some random dude who spend all his check on the Nikon camera that looks profession, does not make you a model. Oh and I hate when people bring their unruly children in public and adults settings such as dinner at 9 p.m, why is your child out at this time of night?
By Khalilah, November 17, 2008 at 5:07 pm
Very good blog Chanel. I really needed to read this because I’ve been stressing a little with people petty beefs and drama with me. Thanks for giving some good insight. And yeah I never understood why chicks think its cool to be a bust it baby. Hopefully you’ll see me back on the web scene soon. I miss blogging. If you don’t remember me, I was deviantfemme.com but I’m probably gonna change the domain name. Need a design first though.
By Olivia Kitty, November 21, 2008 at 11:26 am
Am I? Yes… I do falter at times, but eventually I just woman-up (lol) and “make it happen”.
I agree with 1 through 10.
Well, except #3. I shut down my Myspace long ago :D
[hmm]I thought I commented on this blog already[/hmm]
By Shannon, November 21, 2008 at 9:56 pm
I agree with it all! :blog6:
For some time now, I’ve been seeing how shady people can be with their rumors and more importantly assumptions about me. Most of the time, I allow people to think what they want to. It only shows how ignorant they truly are. People will always try to bring someone down in some way. That’s the way of the world unfortunately and you’re right, we have to learn to ignore and move on.
:blogyj:@ your random thoughts. Amen.
By Sarah, November 22, 2008 at 11:25 am
I agree with most of your points :blogttt:
I personally was for McCain, and I found the response from people when I told them my political views to be disgusting. Because I preferred McCain to Obama, I was automatically a racist! It was really upsetting how people would automatically jump to that conclusions. :[
I love your blogs though, they are all so powerful. :ohgoon:
By Fatima, November 24, 2008 at 6:59 am
That was a beautiful entry – very inspiring. I wish a lot more people had the same approach in life as you do.
By Monique, November 24, 2008 at 1:07 pm
Please keep your bad ass children at home. I refuse to feast at PF Changs next to a 4 year old crying over not having mayonaisse.
OMG thank you! I hate that shit!
By Stephanie, November 24, 2008 at 4:10 pm
I just came across your blog and must say, you’ve made my day. I totally must agree about the computerized service that we get when calling places such as UPS where we demand a 5 minute wait then straight to a human operator. I’m shocked that you havent mentioned how companies in the US are also outsourced by the Pakistanians. When calling my loan company, I usually expect to speak to someone from Wichita or Florida. Instead I get someone from Abu Dubai with a thick as accent and the conversation is goes on from huh? to a frantic WHAT, I DO NOT UNDERSTAND! It’s crazy. :straight:
By Ashlie, November 26, 2008 at 7:30 am
:mrgreen: Wow! I just came across your blog via despair.nu Reading this entry has made me feel so much better because times are hard right know. You are so wise and I am looking foward to becoming a frequent reader.
By Arwen, November 28, 2008 at 7:31 am
In response to #9… are women not allowed to pump their own gas if there’s an able-bodied man around? That’s kind of sexist. When I still drove, I PREFERRED to pump my own gas instead of having someone else do it for me.
By Karyn, November 28, 2008 at 10:06 am
:blogpp: I love this post. Its so true.