experienced by, Chanel./

People have nerves sometimes. Some damn nerve. It’s funny how the person that wants to point out all of your flaws, are blind to their very own. Change is always good. But not when someone is telling you to change, just because they are unable to sustain who you are and what you’re about. Criticism can be followed but not blatant attacks to my character. If you don’t like me, then stay the fuck away from me. It’s as simple as that. Life is much easier and peaceful that way instead of you relentlessly trying to mold me into this fantasy person you want me to be. If you’re feeling my body, but not my personality, scram. If you’re feeling my personality, but not my body, scram. I can almost guarantee that soon enough, you will meet your perfect match. But if I’m not it, don’t try to make me it. Don’t sit there, pointing your finger at me, telling me that I need to all these miscellaneous things just to make you happy. What about us and what can make us better? And let’s just say I do “act” how you want me to be. It’s only going to be temporary. All I’m giving you is a facade. Once that fade away, you’re going to get frustrated with me all over again, expecting me to change again. Why not accept me for who I am? I accepted you for who you are.

Don’t get me wrong, no matter how much you’ve aged and grown, we know there’s always room for improvement. It comes with every experience we endure. However, what makes the search for companionship a headache is expecting way too much from someone. Quit looking for that “perfect” somebody. Quit expecting the best out of someone if you’re not at your best. Especially in relationships. I’m growing very tired of people (especially men) who complains about not being able to find the right woman, yet the first thing they look for in a woman is her ass or tits. Then you got our women, trying to find Mr. Right by checking out his ride or bankroll. Ya’ll are going ass backwards and destroying it for the deep soul seekers out there. We’re always looking for the perfect relationship but look for the wrong qualities to fulfill one. The goal is to find that perfect someone who will make our lives a better place to be. Not a better place to “look at”. Superficial things are only good for admiring. And not for nothing, big tits, big ass, big dick, big elbows, big eyebrows will run it’s course and will not matter when it comes down to upstanding a healthy relationship, being a great parent, or even merely keeping someone interested in you. It’s unfortunate that we don’t realize “perfection” runs two ways. In order to find that perfect somebody, we must believe that, whatever “perfect” is, we have already achieved it. No one can give us what we don’t already have. Mr. or Mrs. Right can’t be to us what we’re not. If we’re unhappy, unfilled, not pleased about who we are (ie: low self-esteem, insecurities & etc.) we owe it to ourselves to stop looking.

Is the “needed change” (as you would like to believe) based on actual facts or is it based on misunderstandings? Perhaps, you’re the oen who needs to make some changes? Most of us believe only what we see. Our eyes (or imagination) limit us in our perception and gives us a false pretense of reality. Do you realize that whoever controls what we see or experience is in control of our perception of reality? Overall, they are controlling you. We must be in charge of our own reality and know our own truth. Don’t allow someone to dictate your freedom of speech. Dictate the way you walk. The way you laugh. The way you express your views. As far as I see it, as long as I am not disrespecting you, or myself, you can kindly get over it and move on. Or better yet, move on to someone else. You’ll make both of our lives easier.