Do you believe in knowing who you are & that you will remain that way forever? Just when you thought you had yourself all figured out, there’s always that one individual that sees you in a totally different perspective that you never viewed before. As they are expressing their opinion of you, to you….you’re either going to agree or disagree right? Well what if most times you find yourself agreeing? Does that mean you really don’t know yourself. All that you were projecting as your persona, was that all a facade? Or does it truly mean we haven’t really found ourselves? Even though all the answers are buried within you, it’s amazing how someone from the outside can sum you up in a matter of minutes. Teaching you how to handle yourself & the ways you can better your ways of self-expression. It’s amazing what you get once you allow yourself to receive.
Once you get through all of our own simplicities, you’ll always find out the root is very complex. Why? Because as we age, we’re learning. All of our experiences & the emotions we felt through them are all wrapped up in a box inside of our souls. Every time we find ourselves in a similar situation, we unwrap that box and dig deep for a better solution than the last. So no, I do not believe you will remain the same forever. It’s emotionally impossible. What is possible, however, is what spectrum of the rainbow you fall under more. The darks or the brights (better known as the positives or the negatives). Some people find themselves “stuck” in their negative ways to the point where the blame is on the whole world but their selves. Showing the inability to take responsibility for the roles they played in other people’s life. How it affected someone else. Did they learn anything from them? Most likely not. Other people take the positive road. Taking full hold of the things they learned and try to figure out how they can make things better next time around. Highlighting the key moments where full satisfaction was accomplished & what they can do to achieve that everlasting smile again.
Our past and our scars (whether they’re fresh or healed) is a reflection of what we believe about ourselves. Within every experience we have in our life, we always learn & grow from it. At least we’re supposed to. Thus, it furthers define who we are. Regardless of what you’ve been told, you can and is able to change with every new experience. Your ex cannot successfully tell you who you are and what you’re about. Because all they’re going by is how you were with them. Each experience enhances your capabilities by giving you something new to draw upon. Every new capability you discover & develop leads to a new opportunity. As long as you have these abilities, there will be endless possibilities for you to grow and learn something new.
So yes, you will find out something new about yourself as you encounter new people in your life. It’s part of the universal flow & the different roads we go through while we’re in route to our own self. It’s up to you to decide on one direction, not to get lost & sticking to it for the next time you need to get there.
originally written october 14th 2007.
By Lita Blue, October 27, 2009 at 4:12 pm
Very interesting. I believe that as people we really don’t know who we are because each day we learn and experience new things that can have an impact on who we are or what we become.
For instance for the last decade I told myself I wanted to be a doctor but the other day I made the realization that I would much rather become a psychologist simply because of a class I took and the fact the teacher said I was doing exceptionally well in it.
By chanel, October 27, 2009 at 5:18 pm
testing.
By chanel, November 29, 2009 at 4:28 am
testing again
By Stef, October 27, 2009 at 9:40 pm
You have very beautiful writing.
By Smartee, October 27, 2009 at 11:07 pm
It’s very true that the way you see yourself, it may not be as how other perceive. The difference in translation is great and the defining of one’s self portrait can become long. Great piece.
By saha, October 28, 2009 at 7:18 pm
first, i’m loving the layout.
i don’t think what it’s a facade, i believe MOST OF US are constantly learning things, even new things about ourselves. only open minded individuals can take the criticism or other people’s opinions
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By Rathy, November 5, 2009 at 8:59 pm
I agree! There have been so many things in my life that have shaped who I’ve become, and sometimes I’m still unsure of what that is. Still learning. Thinking that I have an idea of where I’m going and of who I want to be.. is really only what I perceive of myself up until this point. Who knows how it will be in the future. We only know as much as we have learned.
I definitely make a note of the things I’ve learned in the past, and try to better myself. I think I have a better grasp of how I choose to live my life, and hope that in the end my life has been worthwhile.
By Ms. Shopaholic, November 8, 2009 at 8:32 am
You know I think as we mature and get older were constantly getting to know ourselves. I love the new layout btw.
By Ashlie, November 13, 2009 at 2:40 am
Preach girl! lol recently found your website again. Very true as always.
By Olivia, November 15, 2009 at 3:33 pm
No! You’re not forgetting about your blog too, are you?
I act differently in new and different situations, but never truly change. The effect never seems to absorb past the surface. Sure I’ll smile and nod. But, inside I’m still the same me I’ve always been, and it comes out sooner or later. I have found this rooted core to be both a strength and a weakness.
By Bonnie, November 21, 2009 at 12:13 am
wow a good blog (:
we’re always told that you need to ‘understand’ yourself and ‘find out’ who you are but of course things change. events occur that will impact how you act and behave and then the cycle begins again, i guess.
By Nile, November 24, 2009 at 5:38 am
Life is a learning process. Each person contains many facets and while some may know who exactly they are, others do not, or they have led themselves into a dillusion. However, anyone can hope to grow better as a person and be open to finding out more about their own life.