Comments on: finding love, again. http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/ Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:01:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lita http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-878 Lita Tue, 31 Mar 2009 03:06:39 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-878 I agree with you Monique. I have to let it go for awhile. I found myself giving my all to people who weren't worth my time and ended up getting hurt. It is true that love will find you, I guess I was going too hard but single is the only way for the moment. I agree with you Monique. I have to let it go for awhile. I found myself giving my all to people who weren’t worth my time and ended up getting hurt. It is true that love will find you, I guess I was going too hard but single is the only way for the moment.

]]> By: Jasmine http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-860 Jasmine Sat, 28 Mar 2009 05:24:00 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-860 No one has ever told me that, but when I'm talking to someone and it doesn't work out I tell MYSELF that. It usually helps me to not give up hope and believe that one day I'll find someone that's right for myself. I agree with this post and that is probably the best answer for anyone wondering why they're single. I mean no one really knows the answer besides someone who previously dated you and yourself. I think men are getting comfortable with women who aren't looking for relationships and are just satisfied with "friends". As for them being scared to approach I'm not sure about that cause where I live dudes aren't afraid at all. No one has ever told me that, but when I’m talking to someone and it doesn’t work out I tell MYSELF that. It usually helps me to not give up hope and believe that one day I’ll find someone that’s right for myself.

I agree with this post and that is probably the best answer for anyone wondering why they’re single. I mean no one really knows the answer besides someone who previously dated you and yourself.

I think men are getting comfortable with women who aren’t looking for relationships and are just satisfied with “friends”. As for them being scared to approach I’m not sure about that cause where I live dudes aren’t afraid at all.

]]> By: A.S. http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-851 A.S. Thu, 26 Mar 2009 19:47:08 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-851 I sooo agree with Iesha and Whitni. Be friends FIRST and take your time. DON'T RUSH ANYTHING. I sooo agree with Iesha and Whitni. Be friends FIRST and take your time. DON’T RUSH ANYTHING.

]]> By: Felisa http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-848 Felisa Thu, 26 Mar 2009 07:22:00 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-848 Interesting that you brought this topic up. I've been thinking about this for awhile too. There seems to be this new trend of fearing commitment -- especially in males. It's not easy to find someone by sitting on your bum and not making things happen for yourself... Maybe I should be actively looking. However, I'm still a great believer in just letting things happen to me. I don't mean to push my beliefs down anyone's throat but I personally believe in God and I believe that He's watching out for me. I think that if things are meant to be, they will eventually happen. Besides, I wouldn't want to actively seek out and work on winning the affection of a guy who's commitment-phobic. I basically just want someone who's a friend first and foremost. So my take on this is that I don't actively look for a guy... but if someone seems right (is a great friend... and is someone I'm attracted to), I wouldn't hesitate to do things to HELP things happen ;) Interesting that you brought this topic up. I’ve been thinking about this for awhile too. There seems to be this new trend of fearing commitment — especially in males.

It’s not easy to find someone by sitting on your bum and not making things happen for yourself… Maybe I should be actively looking.

However, I’m still a great believer in just letting things happen to me. I don’t mean to push my beliefs down anyone’s throat but I personally believe in God and I believe that He’s watching out for me. I think that if things are meant to be, they will eventually happen. Besides, I wouldn’t want to actively seek out and work on winning the affection of a guy who’s commitment-phobic. I basically just want someone who’s a friend first and foremost. So my take on this is that I don’t actively look for a guy… but if someone seems right (is a great friend… and is someone I’m attracted to), I wouldn’t hesitate to do things to HELP things happen ;)

]]> By: Kaisa http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-840 Kaisa Tue, 24 Mar 2009 20:45:28 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-840 Well, I've never really looked for love and I think I'm far too young to settle down at the age of 24(even though those around me disagree). Just the idea of being in a 'grown up relationship' with someone and sharing my home with another human being freaks me out Well, I’ve never really looked for love and I think I’m far too young to settle down at the age of 24(even though those around me disagree). Just the idea of being in a ‘grown up relationship’ with someone and sharing my home with another human being freaks me out

]]> By: Liza http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-836 Liza Tue, 24 Mar 2009 00:26:12 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-836 I was just thinking about situations like these, and how love was so complex and somehow leaves bad marks. Chanel you still have the most inspirational, and true words as you did when I used to frequent your website like a year ago. I don't know if you remember me, I had a couple websites, but I'm back online and I just wanted to drop by and say hi :blogyyy: I was just thinking about situations like these, and how love was so complex and somehow leaves bad marks. Chanel you still have the most inspirational, and true words as you did when I used to frequent your website like a year ago.

I don’t know if you remember me, I had a couple websites, but I’m back online and I just wanted to drop by and say hi :blogyyy:

]]> By: Whitni http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-834 Whitni Mon, 23 Mar 2009 22:57:23 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-834 I COMPLETELY agree with the commenter above! That is probably the most insightful comment that has been posted about this blog. Be his friend FIRST. YESSSS! I also agree with one of the other commenters about looking within. We often fail to realize that there are certain attributes within ourselves that cause relationships to fail, or attract the wrong person/people. On top of that we, more often than not, find ourselves lowering our standards or compromising for individuals who wouldn't do the same in return. It's funny how people (women in particular) will allow someone to mistreat and walk all over them, but wouldn't have that with someone else, i.e, a friend. Maybe your friend Cindy should start out by only giving 50% or less and let the man be the one to give 100%. It's way easier to let go if you can tell early on that a man is not willing to give or put his all into the relationship. I COMPLETELY agree with the commenter above! That is probably the most insightful comment that has been posted about this blog. Be his friend FIRST. YESSSS! I also agree with one of the other commenters about looking within. We often fail to realize that there are certain attributes within ourselves that cause relationships to fail, or attract the wrong person/people. On top of that we, more often than not, find ourselves lowering our standards or compromising for individuals who wouldn’t do the same in return. It’s funny how people (women in particular) will allow someone to mistreat and walk all over them, but wouldn’t have that with someone else, i.e, a friend. Maybe your friend Cindy should start out by only giving 50% or less and let the man be the one to give 100%. It’s way easier to let go if you can tell early on that a man is not willing to give or put his all into the relationship.

]]> By: iesha http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-833 iesha Mon, 23 Mar 2009 22:37:19 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-833 looking for love? REMEMBER! friendship goes along way. that's the key to a male's heart. most successful relationships were built from friendship. believe it or not you can have any man you desire. be his friend first. he'll come to you and tell you everything you want to hear. BE A FRIEND FIRST! watch the results! -walks off looking for love? REMEMBER! friendship goes along way. that’s the key to a male’s heart. most successful relationships were built from friendship. believe it or not you can have any man you desire. be his friend first. he’ll come to you and tell you everything you want to hear. BE A FRIEND FIRST! watch the results! -walks off

]]> By: Shannon http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-830 Shannon Mon, 23 Mar 2009 16:34:04 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-830 Eh, I don't look anymore. I do let love find me. I notice that in letting things flow naturally, I can weed out the unnecessary people and things flow better altogether if you understand what I mean. Sometimes, too, I realize that in a relationship, the other person may not always be the blame. Sometimes we have to look within too and if we can't figure out exactly what it is we've done, we're either blind to our own stuff or that other person really was a jerk. I do agree that real men go for what they want, but sometimes I get disgusted at how men approach people. "sup ma" That shit is old, dumb and ignorant. Some men push too hard and it's kind of a turn-off. Honestly, I don't really like if I KNOW I can get a certain dude, I like to work for mine too. Eh, I don’t look anymore. I do let love find me. I notice that in letting things flow naturally, I can weed out the unnecessary people and things flow better altogether if you understand what I mean. Sometimes, too, I realize that in a relationship, the other person may not always be the blame. Sometimes we have to look within too and if we can’t figure out exactly what it is we’ve done, we’re either blind to our own stuff or that other person really was a jerk. I do agree that real men go for what they want, but sometimes I get disgusted at how men approach people. “sup ma” That shit is old, dumb and ignorant. Some men push too hard and it’s kind of a turn-off. Honestly, I don’t really like if I KNOW I can get a certain dude, I like to work for mine too.

]]> By: Julie http://kisschanel.com/finding-love-again/#comment-829 Julie Mon, 23 Mar 2009 12:04:56 +0000 http://diaryofchanel.com/?p=818#comment-829 I agree with you, real men go for what they want and approach women first. Just because roles are more equal these days, doesn't mean men should just back down and let all women approach them first. I agree with you, real men go for what they want and approach women first. Just because roles are more equal these days, doesn’t mean men should just back down and let all women approach them first.

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