Comments on: daddy dearest? http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/ Fri, 04 May 2012 23:42:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Shellowooo http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-3700 Shellowooo Fri, 11 Feb 2011 00:22:48 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-3700 I just don't know how someone could sum up the role of a father so simply. It is sad but true the point you raised about it being difficult to change a negative perception once it's formed. I'm battling with forgving my father and it's a day-to-day struggle. Sometimes I forget he exists. But this post reminds me of the parent who has always been there to support and aid me through every success, trauma, fallen tooth, bump and graze. Thank you. I just don’t know how someone could sum up the role of a father so simply. It is sad but true the point you raised about it being difficult to change a negative perception once it’s formed. I’m battling with forgving my father and it’s a day-to-day struggle. Sometimes I forget he exists. But this post reminds me of the parent who has always been there to support and aid me through every success, trauma, fallen tooth, bump and graze.

Thank you.

]]> By: Kate http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-124 Kate Tue, 23 Sep 2008 06:44:38 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-124 I thanked god every day that i had a dad growing up. My dad told me all the time that i was special and beautiful. Even now that he's dead i can hear him saying your beautiful Kate. Most of friends didn't have that. most of then are single moms now and most of their dad's are not around. I thanked god every day that i had a dad growing up. My dad told me all the time that i was special and beautiful. Even now that he’s dead i can hear him saying your beautiful Kate.

Most of friends didn’t have that. most of then are single moms now and most of their dad’s are not around.

]]> By: Jenny http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-30 Jenny Wed, 03 Sep 2008 23:55:57 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-30 Both me and my mom grew up without a father. For me, it's not a big deal. I don't cry about it every night, and every time I think about my father, I don't get angry. He left me when I was three, and my mom said I got very sick after that. But shortly after, it was like I completely forgot about him. I grew up without a father, but I'm just fine having a mother. :blogyc: It's funny how my mind goes completely blank when I think about my 'dad'. It's like I don't really care about him... I don't even know what to think of him. :giggle: Both me and my mom grew up without a father. For me, it’s not a big deal. I don’t cry about it every night, and every time I think about my father, I don’t get angry. He left me when I was three, and my mom said I got very sick after that. But shortly after, it was like I completely forgot about him. I grew up without a father, but I’m just fine having a mother. :blogyc:

It’s funny how my mind goes completely blank when I think about my ‘dad’. It’s like I don’t really care about him… I don’t even know what to think of him. :giggle:

]]> By: chanel http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-28 chanel Wed, 03 Sep 2008 18:59:57 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-28 They also mistake our humbleness for ease. Just because we don't complain much, doesn't mean the job is easy. They also mistake our humbleness for ease. Just because we don’t complain much, doesn’t mean the job is easy.

]]> By: chanel http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-27 chanel Wed, 03 Sep 2008 18:58:46 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-27 Amen and welcome to my site! :pray: Amen and welcome to my site! :pray:

]]> By: Fade http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-26 Fade Wed, 03 Sep 2008 18:35:24 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-26 I agree with of some of the issues you bring to light in this entry. It is true that men, especially our brethren within the African American community, have let us down when it comes to the art of child rearing. However, like the "CNN in Black America" special pointed out, it is time for we as women to hold the fathers of our children responsible for holding up their end of the bargain in raising their child. We as women have become complacent with the idea of being single mothers and raising our children without the aid of his/her father. It is time that we hold them accountable. As essential as fresh air is to the lungs, the same essentiality exists in the importance of having both parents as active participants in the upbringing of one's child. I'm not just speaking on the economics, either. As much as my father took an active part in my upbringing, the spiritual and emotional pieces were a missing element in our relationship. My father aided with my homework, was around for the discipline; the lack of a spiritual and emotional connection with him has had its consequences, especially as it relates to my ability to connect with my boyfriend/male friends, today. The issue is even more complexed within our community (the black community). But I'm not going to get on the black community like the rest of America's shit don't stink. I agree with of some of the issues you bring to light in this entry. It is true that men, especially our brethren within the African American community, have let us down when it comes to the art of child rearing. However, like the “CNN in Black America” special pointed out, it is time for we as women to hold the fathers of our children responsible for holding up their end of the bargain in raising their child. We as women have become complacent with the idea of being single mothers and raising our children without the aid of his/her father. It is time that we hold them accountable. As essential as fresh air is to the lungs, the same essentiality exists in the importance of having both parents as active participants in the upbringing of one’s child.

I’m not just speaking on the economics, either. As much as my father took an active part in my upbringing, the spiritual and emotional pieces were a missing element in our relationship. My father aided with my homework, was around for the discipline; the lack of a spiritual and emotional connection with him has had its consequences, especially as it relates to my ability to connect with my boyfriend/male friends, today.

The issue is even more complexed within our community (the black community). But I’m not going to get on the black community like the rest of America’s shit don’t stink.

]]> By: Aoki http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-25 Aoki Wed, 03 Sep 2008 03:58:55 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-25 I'm very thankful for my father. He's taught me ALOT!!! He's the reason why I'm so mature and polite. I dont know what I would do without him. I’m very thankful for my father.
He’s taught me ALOT!!! He’s the reason why I’m so mature and polite. I dont know what I would do without him.

]]> By: chanel http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-24 chanel Wed, 03 Sep 2008 01:43:30 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-24 I've been great sweetie. I miss our talks! :blogyy: I’ve been great sweetie. I miss our talks! :blogyy:

]]> By: Tiffany http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-22 Tiffany Tue, 02 Sep 2008 21:57:33 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-22 I totally feel you on that. Me && my sister had a conversation yesterday about how people just keep popping babies out like its nothing, and how theyre not even financially or mentally stable enough to take care of themselves, how can they take care of a child? its not even about the financial part bcuz u can get on your feet. but sometimes people will never be ready to be a parent, even when the child is 20. & I know for a fact some females out there get pregnant on purpose and it be guys that be like im not ready you kno.. but they have the baby anyway to keep the man in their life.. well they think a baby is going to hold them.. idk some peoples situations are different. but I totally feel what your saying. Men need to wake up and realize how strong a woman is if they can bring a child into the world and raise them alone. they got the hard part.. how the fuck much harder is it for the man to just support and be there for the child. at least sometimes.. I totally feel you on that. Me && my sister had a conversation yesterday about how people just keep popping babies out like its nothing, and how theyre not even financially or mentally stable enough to take care of themselves, how can they take care of a child? its not even about the financial part bcuz u can get on your feet. but sometimes people will never be ready to be a parent, even when the child is 20.

& I know for a fact some females out there get pregnant on purpose and it be guys that be like im not ready you kno.. but they have the baby anyway to keep the man in their life.. well they think a baby is going to hold them.. idk some peoples situations are different. but I totally feel what your saying. Men need to wake up and realize how strong a woman is if they can bring a child into the world and raise them alone. they got the hard part.. how the fuck much harder is it for the man to just support and be there for the child. at least sometimes..

]]> By: Shannon http://kisschanel.com/daddy-dearest/#comment-19 Shannon Tue, 02 Sep 2008 17:09:34 +0000 http://chanellie.com/?p=1#comment-19 This was definitely a great post. I love it! As a single mother I must say that I completely agree. I am grateful that my son's father is there for him because my father wasn't there for me and I would never want my son to go through the same thing that I did. I've also realized and even after reading that excerpt from Obama, even when people are married, the mother still plays a pretty huge role. She's almost always the one who's with the children and doing things for and with the children. Even though the father is present, most of the time she is still the one who's doing almost everything. Sometimes I think that when fathers see us ( mothers) they believe that because we're mothers and we're doing our jobs the way we're supposed to it's alright for the fathers to kind of lay back from the situation as a parent. Although I strongly believe that a child can still turn out to be a great person raised in a single parent home, there's still always that need for more from both parents. Being a parent is a full-time job, as I always say. This was definitely a great post. I love it! As a single mother I must say that I completely agree. I am grateful that my son’s father is there for him because my father wasn’t there for me and I would never want my son to go through the same thing that I did. I’ve also realized and even after reading that excerpt from Obama, even when people are married, the mother still plays a pretty huge role. She’s almost always the one who’s with the children and doing things for and with the children. Even though the father is present, most of the time she is still the one who’s doing almost everything. Sometimes I think that when fathers see us ( mothers) they believe that because we’re mothers and we’re doing our jobs the way we’re supposed to it’s alright for the fathers to kind of lay back from the situation as a parent. Although I strongly believe that a child can still turn out to be a great person raised in a single parent home, there’s still always that need for more from both parents. Being a parent is a full-time job, as I always say.

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