You’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t. When you tell the truth, you’re judged. When you lie, or leave some information out, you’re a manipulator. Why do people have all these demands of you, but when you supply those demands, they complain? My answer to that: Don’t even worry about it. Just stay true to yourself. Whoever likes it, embrace it. Whoever doesn’t, fuck it.
Too many people have allowed themselves to remain in situations that are unproductive. As you mature, you outgrow interests, hobbies, habits and even people. The process of elimination works the best. Especially when you’ve exhausted all attempts to make it right. The more you stay in a negative situation, the more you need to start blaming yourself. All of this blame we place on everyone else for the things we’re unable to do for ourselves are becoming a bit tedious. Blah. If you ask me I think it’s all a crock of shit. I know for a fact that you know at least one person who was raised a certain way and exposed to certain things and have become the total opposite of what’s been instilled in their mind. Aren’t you one of those people?
If you have the desire to do something, then do it. You will feel much worse if you never did. Then you’ll be living your whole life wondering the “shoulda, coulda, woulda”. Sometimes, we reach a point where we can finally tolerate the downfalls of life, yet are unable to cease it or prevent it from happening again. The only way you will successfully end it all (the negativity, the disappointments, the frustrations) is to stand up for yourself, and stand up for what you believe in. Quit settling & start your search for what you truly deserve. More than likely, your stress is caused by you compromising yourself, to suit others or a particular situation. I know that’s what caused mine. And I’ve ended that cycle. For months I’ve been catering to certain people’s incapability of handling problems the right way, or even their own stress, only out of hope, respect & love. But where was my dignity? Where was my ability to take charge & do what’s right? May have took a few months to achieve that goal but guess what?…I’m here. And the goal was to be able to survive on my own.
There will be rough times, difficult situations, things to fall into & out of, major obstacles and forks in the road all through your mission. My mission is to allow people to feel how I am feeling by providing my story, followed up with my personal suggestive solution. The power I have to make people open their eyes and see what they couldn’t see before makes me happy on levels beyond my normal reach. I do it because I believe I can do it. I’m not ashamed to tell my stories about my past experiences, shortcomings & failed relationships. Flaws and all, as long as I am honest about who I am.
Finding your inner peace is better than peanut butter.
By Smartee, March 16, 2010 at 9:03 am
I cannot agree more with this post. It’s really true, that when you overcompromise, the only one that is left worn out is yourself, trying to meet the demands of others. You should only pick up after yourself, and pick up your own boulder and carry it yourself, and believe in yourself when you do it, in order to follow through and complete it.
By Kanju, March 18, 2010 at 7:15 pm
Love it!
By Kobe A.A, March 19, 2010 at 2:39 pm
umm i am touched! not many people come out to express themselves like this because of fear. But then i believe u done otherwise which i personally believe is da way forward. And i believe your contribution would impact the lives of others who need such help positively…bless!!
Kobe
By Mallory, March 21, 2010 at 2:14 am
Although I’m not religious, I have only one word to say. Amen. I can honestly say, HONESTLY, that I have learned this. I have learned this at an early age – I’m eighteen. I started this year off right. I say that every year, I said it every day, but it wasn’t until I truly said ‘fuck it’ & quit trying to explain myself did I actually see it. Trying to justify & explain everything does nothing more than cause frustration & create that one thing we all claim to hate so much. Drama. If you truly hate it, you would avoid it at all possible costs. That means ridding all negativity out of your life, no matter what the hurt. You will overcome it, believe me. I’m not at all saying don’t speak your mind. In fact, say exactly what you have to say! “Whoever likes it, embrace it. Whoever doesn’t, fuck it.”
By Veronica, March 22, 2010 at 8:40 am
OMG girl I had been following your site for some years until my internet usage became limited and I’m SOOO excited I found you & it today lol!! You’re so inspirational and awe inspiring and I just love your works! Keep up the good work!!!
By Jenny, March 24, 2010 at 8:58 pm
Now my answer to everybody who thinks of me a certain way is, “I know who I am,” and “Fuck it.”
I’ll literally sing Mariah Carey’s song, “Shake it off” to feel better. Also, the thought of my mom and what she expects of me would boost my confidence and mood to the nth degree.
Thanks for another great post, Chanel.
By e., March 25, 2010 at 12:21 pm
as always, well put.
By lindsie, April 8, 2010 at 8:16 am
wow. very inspirational! Love it!
By Purple Mango, April 8, 2010 at 8:34 pm
Enjoyed your Blog! :)
By kelly conrad, April 14, 2010 at 10:50 pm
very , uplifting and inspirational .
By Miranda Adria, April 17, 2010 at 8:01 pm
Hi there. I was just blog-hopping, and stumbled across yours. I’m glad I did, because this entry is just amazing. You’ve spoken a very important message in this entry, and that’s to always be true to yourself. Hope you don’t mind if I follow your blog. :)