Comments on: cheating yourself.

By: Thea

Thea — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 03:52:32 +0000

Hey doll. Good post. I cheated once at 18 and honestly regretted it because of the person i was then. I cheated and broke up with my ‘then’ bf on a holiday. He never knew i cheated though but still i felt like karma came back like a sonofabitch. Also thats not the type of person that I am. I dont think i would do it again because I think everything comes back tenfold. Im scurry like that

By: Emz

Emz — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 07:11:55 +0000

I agree that emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating, because it’s so much more personal!

Strangely enough I’ve just decided to take my life in a different direction because I realised my life is mine. I still have the same main goal, I just want to do other things before working directly towards it! :-D

By: Alexa

Alexa — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:08:58 +0000

Hey, for starters I really liked your blog post :). Though I never been in a relationship I do think that emotional cheating would do more damage to the mind. I’ve had friends who’ve went through situations like cheating and I watched how they handled it, which in most cases were pretty good. Maybe when I do start to mingle or find someone I won’t have that idea of him cheating on me or hurting me, hopefully lol.

By: TIffany

TIffany — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 09:41:12 +0000

I definitely agree with you on the emotional cheating part of your blog. Cheating period is bad, one night stands are bad, having a fling is bad..but actually having a girlfriend spending money on her, talking to her everyday, have “us” time.. thats way worse because its feelings involved.. and u start to think like damn? did I not listen to him when he told me how is day went? am i too boring? whats wrong with me?

ive never really had a relationship, but i always seen what happened to others.. and it made me even more picky with guys because im always scared that my heart is gonna get broken. that im gonna get cheated on. because it happens SO MUCH. that its becoming to be normal.. even to the point to where the “WIFEYS” are ok with “him” having “cuddle buddies” as long as theyre the main chick? Im pretty old school. n I think that is retarded. keep one girl. keep one guy! wtf is the point? smh.

By: chanel

chanel — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 22:31:46 +0000

The reason why I cheated in the past was because I wasn’t attracted to them anymore. I was attached to my boyfriends emotionally but physically the attraction wasn’t there. I didn’t sleep around but I sure did kiss other guys, lol. The last relationship I cheated was in 2001 (I was 22) so I’ve give up on the cheating YEARS ago.

By: Angel

Angel — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 15:33:17 +0000

Your blog made a very good point. I got curious around the part about online cheating. Now most of the time i’m online i’m talking to old friends and such .. well my significant other doesnt like it :blogxx: . But we really don’t talk about much. I think the part she hates is about them being an old crush or dressing like a guy. I dont have a problem with not talking to them when she ask. But afterwards I do feel a little sorry about it :blogmmy: , But I know to never stop out of my boundaries. I never looked at it as going out of the line :blogoo: , I guess I just like to talk a lot, maybe? I love talking to my girlfriend and spending time with her :love:. So maybe I do need to stop cheating with others!

By: Shannon

Shannon — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 22:40:07 +0000

I’ve never cheated and I’ve never understood the logic in doing so. Some people accept it, but, I can’t see myself ever accepting a cheater, even if the person tells me he’s going to change and sincerely means it. In my opinion, there isn’t an excuse for it. If I ever felt the need to cheat, I would just exit the relationship I have because obviously there’s something wrong with it.

I agree that emotional cheating is worse. The thing that binds two companions is emotional & mental. It’s a very special bond and for someone to share that bond with someone else is hurtful.

By: Jmilz86

Jmilz86 — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 22:26:02 +0000

As a person who has been cheated on both emotionally and physically, both ways tear down a piece of your heart that will never be repaired! From that, I have learned to go with my gut and hold nothing back b/c i refuse to be played or hurt more than once by the same person as long as I can prevent it. I would agree tho that emotional cheating is way worse than the physical. Because of these experiences, I am left with a doubting heart so even now that i have someone who I BELIEVE loves me and would never heart me, I can always find some way to doubt his fidelity….time heals all wounds i guess. I really loved this piece Chanel!

By: chanel

chanel — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 21:13:36 +0000

Thanks for the typo! I used to be a cheater myself and when I figured out the reason why I cheated, I made sure I don’t commit myself to someone I can’t love entirely anymore.

By: Bam

Bam — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 19:49:15 +0000

Hey Sugar Face,

First fix your third sentence, I think you are missing the word “not.” :smile:

I just wanted to say as a cheater, (the emotional not the physical kind usually), often people end up in relationships where they feel like they can not be themselves, but they feel an obligation to the relationship for whatever reason. Could be marriage or children, but ultimately they have reached a point where they feel they can not communicate without fear of backlash or penalty. Cheating, for me, is generally not the product of just my wanting to venture out, it is a product also of some sort of rejection I am unable to overcome in my existing situation.

In anycase, of course all repair starts within – and I am working on my responsibility as it pertains to being faithful in my relationships… BUT, there is a certain amount of responsibility that comes with a relationship for both parties to discourage cheating..

Later,
B.