Catty. Subtly cruel or malicious; spiteful. I swear at least 75% of the women today possess this unattractive trait. Why do women, adult established women at that, find themselves in strong competition with others? Why do they want to drown others in their bullshit of hate, jealousy and envy? They spend more time trying to convince people (especially men) how “ugly” or “stupid” an admired woman is more than trying to better themselves & produce more character & substance in their own lives. I sure you all know at least one woman that tries to find something negative in the next female. “Doesn’t she look great?” Catty Bitch #459 – “Yeah but she got a weave. Must be bald”. They always start with the “yeah but…”. Makes you just want to hock & spit across their forehead. This has such a great impact on me because it has happened to me before. For years by the same people. The flipside of it all is, I am 100% comfortable with giving another woman her props and leave it as that. So one would think the reason why it’s happening to you is because you have done it before correct? Please. Bitches will be bitches and if they’re an insecure jealous bitch, and you’re an attractive successful popular woman, they will be your problem for a long time. Yes I know we all are not perfect, but that doesn’t make it okay to capitalize someone’s “flaw”. The reason why I placed the word flaw in quotations is because characteristics that we may find as flaws, the next person will adore it and embrace it as something unique. So again I ask, why concentrate and spend so much of your time to convince that person otherwise? Is your self-esteem that low where you just have to focus that negativity on someone who’s getting what you’ve yearned for so long?
Men, you are not exempt. You guys are worse now as well! Gossiping, sitting around talking shit about women all day long, trying to find a way to get back at their ex. What ever happened to playing basketball, video games, chillin at the bar, then going home to spend time with a nice woman? Instead, these grown ass men prefer to sit on Facebook or Twitter all day long & tweet about how much they hate “bitches”. They prefer to go to the club and “pop bottles” (that cost about $150) with their male friends, yet, refuse to buy a young lady a $10 drink. “I’m not paying for none of these hos” but you’re paying for your boys every weekend? Yeah…that’s real hetero of you.
This day and age, as women, where it’s so hard to earn respect from or fellow men, we don’t also need the burden of the same sex following their lead. It’s bad enough that we are viewed and treated as objects or even worse, underestimated and ridiculed career wise. It is not my duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. But it is my duty to ignore them and continue striving to be myself. Which succumbs them to become this catty person and be ignorant instead of brushing their teeth or something. They know, in our presence, others have an opportunity to learn about us and perhaps grow to love us. And they can’t stand that. What can be done to end this cycle? Nothing. Not a damn thing. Which is why ignoring ignorance is the best answer. No matter what you do or say, they will always find something to say about you. They’re just that damn miserable.
By Kemi, August 6, 2010 at 8:36 pm
GET. OUT. OF. MY. HEAD. I don’t get it at all. I’d be the first to give a woman props and go about my business. But some women it kills them to congratulate another woman. Especially insecure women. The minute you point out their issues, they want to break down and cry, which let’s me know that their “cattiness” disguises a mountain of pain. It’s an endless cycle. That’s why I look for validation from no one but myself. Your friendships and daily interpersonal relationships can only be enriched when you don’t look for validation. Some women who are so quick to be catty are seeking compliments for themselves or need the people around them to cosign their pettiness. Those mindless friends are also keeping the cycle going. In REALLY loving yourself will the need for that behavior to subside.
By Crinthia, August 7, 2010 at 6:32 am
I 100% agree with you.. If I see a fellow women looking great I applaud her! “Girl you look amazing!” because she does, and I know every women likes to be told when their looking good, I know I do!”
And “Men” please these days there is nothing but a bunch of momma’s boys running around trying to get their dicks wet, and have fun and not be responsible for a damn thing they do.
By Kimberly, August 7, 2010 at 11:27 am
Well said! I’m so glad you wrote this, you need to post this on the ATL bullentin board by the baseball stadium!
By Mrs. EnJ, August 7, 2010 at 7:36 pm
I HEART this. A BITCH, not female, not woman, but BITCH, will be the first one to spot out something in the next female that she deems inappropriate, unattractive, and wrong. I always look at these BITCHES and can find soooo many things wrong with them externally and internally and these BITCHES will be the 1st one to say they “ain’t got shit wrong with them” and their “shit is together”. #BITCHSITDOWN! Insecure BITCHES always make themselves hot and point out their own insecurities without anyone having to do it for them and/or without knowing. Pathetic.
I love when you said, “ignoring ignorance” is the best answer. How sad is it that this cattiness seems like an everlasting cycle?!
By Aisha, August 8, 2010 at 1:39 am
Cattiness is a defense mechanism for ain’t-shit-bitches to cover up their own threatened security at seeing someone else get a bit of limelight. Classic.
By che, August 9, 2010 at 5:51 pm
the insecurity of the women screams volumes. it’s horrible for people to grow up with such a high level of uncertainty and then it develops into a low level of confidence. it’s truly sad. you’re so right. work to improve yourselves instead of tearing down others.
By Billy, August 12, 2010 at 7:41 am
Women that are catty half low self esteem. They want to be everything that’s spits glitter. They have no life… so by clawing you, they feel alive lolsz haha!
By gucc bas, August 25, 2010 at 8:21 pm
Cattiness is a defense mechanism for ain’t-shit-bitches to cover up their own threatened security at seeing someone else get a bit of limelight. Classic.