Love & Relationships

amber rose.

I watched an interview where Amber Rose (the exgirlfriend of Kanye West) broke down in tears due to the hardships she endured after their publicized breakup.

I’ve read many blogs about this and no one empathizes with her. Not even the males. I, for one, feel bad for her because she really has been quiet for a long time, while he bitched bitched bitched about her through songs and made monetary profit off slandering her for 2 years. As a man, that’s a bitch move. Men are supposed to protect women. Not purposely do harm. I didn’t know throwing things at a woman in the street after a man slanders her was the “cool” thing to do? And so what if she has an album coming out and etc. How come no one questioned Kanye’s motives for doing and saying the things he has about her in the past?

She’s finally speaking because she’s had enough of it and now everyone is telling her to shut the fuck up. If anything, people need to have a few words with HIM for being so scorned like a female after the break-up.

radical honesty.

10 Ways to Use Radical Honesty to Improve Your Relationship¹

When it comes to relationships, I believe that honesty is always the best policy. Not merely remaining faithful. Not in the sense of being able to say that you never really lie to your partner. I’m talking about Radical Honesty; actually coming out and naming the elephants in the room so you can deal with them before they trample all over your relationship.

Radical Honesty requires that you speak your truth even when you feel sure that the other person won’t want to hear it. Radical Honesty means that you have to say how you really feel, especially when you believe that you could either avoid x or conversely make y happen by hiding these feelings from them. It is a commitment to authenticity that requires being true to yourself as much as being loyal to another.

How long can you pretend to be someone else?

If you lack an intrinsic sense of self-worth you may be tempted to censor yourself; to try to express yourself in terms of what would be acceptable or desirable to someone else. In the short-term, you may even be successful in your goals. But, realistically speaking, just how long can you pretend to be someone else? And do you really want to be in a relationship with someone that you don’t believe could love you as you really are?

Whilst the idea of being “strategic” is a popular one when it comes to dating, it doesn’t feel so warm and fuzzy to think that one partner actively manipulated the other into committing to the relationship. Is that really a good way to build a foundation for a trusting relationship?

Don’t let resentment build, deal with issues one at a time and as soon as they arise.
Stop trying to control or manipulate your partner’s feelings or actions.
Share your hopes, dreams and wishes.
Share your fears.
Be honest with yourself.
Share your vulnerability instead of your anger.
Express your disappointment gently.
Check that you both have signed the same contract (Explain what you think the unwritten rules are).
Admit when you don’t know what to do.
Admit it when you think you may have made a mistake.

¹ - Source.

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August 5, 2011
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love & relationships
love, positivity, strength

Love isn’t meant to be solved. It’s just is. Take heed to these words if you ever find yourself feeling stuck, asking questions or doubting your relationship. Life & relationships are not about being frozen in place, wondering “Where do I go from here?”. It’s about growth, commitment, love and knowing your path. Sometimes you may just have to fight for love because the other party is simply scared of it. And if you’re the person who’s scared of love, scared of fighting to make things work, scared to make the slightest effort to earn that companionship, you need to do some thorough soul searching. Life is so much better to aim for your desires than not trying at all. I personally prefer to try, and maybe get rejected, than to not knowing at all if it would have worked. I know, I know…easier said than done. But remember….the hardest advice to follow is your own.

No one is meant to be alone. Never believe that saying “We all die alone”. We WHO? You know who dies alone? Hateful people who treat everyone less than their worth & with ill intent.

When I think about life and the events that occur in it, I always wonder what’s the real reason certain things happen. One year can be stress filled and then the next year is eventful. You know how someone can finish pouring their heart to you about a devastating situation and the only thing we’ll probably say is “everything happens for a reason“? Well I have yet to find out that reason. To a lot of things. Why did certain people hurt me the way they did? Why weren’t you there for me when I needed guidance throughout my childhood? Why did I almost lose my life in that car crash? Why did she have to die the way she did? My only guess is…negative experiences happens in our lives to make us stronger. What won’t break us will make us? It seems like the more positive we get about things and our current situation, negativity tries it’s best to shove it’s head into our life and ruin it. I refuse to let the bad outweigh the good though. I try my best to keep my focus on the good things like bubblegum, dick & weave sales.

Just kidding about dick. Not wait, I’m not.

amber rose.

radical honesty.

How long can you pretend to be someone else?

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